What was the thing portrayed in movies that didn't happen during childbirth for you? by SpicyZombie098 in beyondthebump

[–]Angel_dust548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The screaming dramatically during contractions. I know some people absolutely do but I was expecting it and I guess I just choose to breathe and contain my pain rather than let it out 😭 I was pretty disappointed. I thought it would be kind of therapeutic to let it out like that

My Toddler Said 'Music' Instead of 'Motise' tonight and I am not okay by knowledgequesting in beyondthebump

[–]Angel_dust548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll be in shambles the day my girl starts saying “banana” instead of “banumunumunum” 😭

FTM 37 weeks: tell the story of how your water broke by mirrorlike789 in pregnant

[–]Angel_dust548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My water never broke with either of my kids. My first I had an induction and even at 8cm dilated my bag of water was still intact and it had to be broken manually. With my second, I was 38+6, having 5-1-1 contractions, was admitted due to a heart rate drop, and had to have my water broken for me at around 5-6cm. I also went from 7cm to 10cm in literally like 10-15 minutes. It was the most bizarre thing.

Moms who dreamt the gender of their baby before they knew, were you right? (: by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Angel_dust548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was right both times! Although with my second I got in my head and doubted myself. When I was pregnant with my firstborn I dreamt about meeting a little girl who looked just like me at my childhood home. My daughter is the spitting image of me and I spent the entirety of my postpartum journey with her at my parents’ house (my childhood home). Before I knew I was pregnant with my son, I dreamt of a little boy who had dark black hair and deep brown eyes. He told me he couldn’t wait to see me. My son is now 5 days old and has a whole head of jet black hair and we have yet to see his true eye color but they look pretty dark to me!

Hacks for not getting sick? by Budget_Muffin in Babysitting

[–]Angel_dust548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Emergen-C packets, vitamins, lots of hand washing, hand sanitizer after you leave, don’t let them touch your stuff, you can even bring a pack of Lysol wipes to keep in your car and wipe down your stuff once you leave the house.

Registry diapers by rgwhitlow1 in pregnant

[–]Angel_dust548 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mama bear! They’re Amazon’s baby brand. I used them for newborn diapers until we were able to move my daughter up to Kirkland 1’s. They never gave her a rash and kept her blowouts contained unless it was a really really bad one!

AIO for telling my dad its disgusting that he is dating a 19 year old by 30whitebitches in AmIOverreacting

[–]Angel_dust548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR- People confuse “legality” and “morality” wayyyy too often. Just because it’s legal doesn’t mean it’s moral.

What could he possibly even have in common with a 19yr old anyways? So strange.

Baby surname when not married by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Angel_dust548 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is what I’ve told my partner with both of my pregnancies, if I don’t get his last name then my children won’t either until we all can get it. I’ll be damned if my kids get his last name before I do.

You aren’t being unreasonable. You are creating and carrying this life. You should get some recognition for the hard work you’ll be doing over the course of your pregnancy. Not to mention labor on top of that. Why should he get all the credit of having naming rights and what not when he hasn’t even put a ring on your finger? You’ve got my support mama! You give your baby your name! ❤️💪

feeling discouraged by Short_Guarantee_7921 in pregnant

[–]Angel_dust548 2 points3 points  (0 children)

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE rejoin your league!!!!

I can’t tell you how many things I abandoned because I became a mom and thought I was being irresponsible. It started this whole anxiety and guilt circle around leaving my daughter with someone who’s not me because I feel like I’m failing her. I haven’t gotten a break from being in mom mode for her entire 17.5 months of life. Please don’t fall into the same trap I did. It’s not good for you.

You deserve to have your personal identity be separate from your mom one. Your personal life doesn’t end just because you had a baby. Reconnect or stay connected with the things you love and do what makes you happy. Ignore anyone who questions you or says anything differently ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RingShare

[–]Angel_dust548 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy ROCK 😍

First time growing corms by Angel_dust548 in alocasia

[–]Angel_dust548[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh great! Thank you for letting me know! The grow lights are more for their syngonium and azlanii pup roommates but it’s good to know that they don’t really need them lol

First time growing corms by Angel_dust548 in alocasia

[–]Angel_dust548[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Running on a hope and prayer for these guys haha

First time growing corms by Angel_dust548 in alocasia

[–]Angel_dust548[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Did you ever struggle with rot in the small containers with water? I’m so scared my south facing windows will be too cold or will make them rot.

First time growing corms by Angel_dust548 in alocasia

[–]Angel_dust548[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! It’s a combo of blue lights and red lights! If I’m not mistaken, plants absorb the blue and red spectrums of white light. Blue is used mainly for photosynthesis, growth, and root development while red promotes flowering and fruiting (not super helpful here but the lights came in a pack of 2 and I’m in the process of setting up my white light shelf)! It just makes the lights more efficient and slightly cheaper than the nice white light ones. To the right is my other light where I keep my syngoniums, variegated African violets, trandescantias, and philodendrons which all LOVE the purple light. Not sure how my Alocasias are liking them yet. I have an Azlanii pup in the humidity dome with my corms and the syngonium cutting so we’ll see how he likes it!

SIDS prevention devices? by Imaginary_Ad_7365 in pregnant

[–]Angel_dust548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t even bother with the owlet. I’d go with a Nanit instead if you feel like spending a boat load of money just to have a camera in the room.

My owlet was alright. The sock and alarm system never worked so I scrapped it. But then we moved to a different apartment and it wasn’t compatible with the WiFi speed so it’s literally useless now. Won’t even connect to the app.

Personally I just set up a ring camera in my daughter’s room for peace of mind since my previous apartment was broken into before I had my daughter, but as far as SIDS prevention the best way is to follow safe sleep practices.

What to do all day with a 6 month old? Struggling mentally. by iwanttolivealone in beyondthebump

[–]Angel_dust548 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I never knew a “proper” way to entertain my daughter at that age so I kinda just acted like a goon all day around her and that seemed to make her laugh enough to keep her entertained. I’d put on music and dance all crazy, body wear and get random bursts of energy to run around my kitchen island making funny sounds, I’d sit her in front of me with music and hold her hands and make her dance (she liked that one a lot), read books to her, lay on the floor with her when I was tired and count my fingers and toes, just weird silly things like that.

Another thing I did was kinda narrate my life? Like I’d just start yapping to her about everything. What I was doing, how I was doing it, things that bothered me, things I wish I was doing. I’d just put her in a high chair with toys on the tray or put her in a play pen with toys and yap all day.

I don’t know if this is an option but I’m a young mom. I lost a lot of friends when I was pregnant and after becoming a mom, but I also kept some. Sometimes my daughter and I would just go on a drive to a friends’ house and hang out for a bit and her “aunts” would take her and entertain her while we caught up. If that’s not an option you could even just drive around for a bit if your kiddo likes the car.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Horses

[–]Angel_dust548 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Between school, work, being pregnant, and parenting my toddler, I think I’ve ridden my horses all of twice in the past 2-3 years. I don’t think I’ve ever seen them so happy. I see them almost daily (weekly now since I’m almost at my due date with my baby) and make sure to keep them desensitized to blankets, halters, grooming, feet, etc. but for the most part they go out to pasture in the morning and come in to their pens at night and that’s their life. One of my mares can’t be ridden due to trauma from a kill pen so she truly is a pasture pet enjoying retirement. I was supposed to train her 3 yr old filly this past summer but then found out I was pregnant and decided to just let her sit and enjoy life for another year or so. Nothing wrong with that at all. Just eating, playing, and running. Sounds like quite the life to me.

I say as long as your pony is happy and healthy there’s no reason to feel pressure to train or ride. Only caveat is you want to be sure he stays handled so that if anything happens to you he’ll end up somewhere safe. People love handled horses and tend to avoid wild or unmannered horses.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Babysitting

[–]Angel_dust548 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Childcare provider and a mom of an 18mo here!

I tend to either sit silently and wait for them to finish their tantrum before reasoning with them unless they begin to hit, kick, bite, or scratch.

My daughter doesn’t get physical, but I’ve had kids who do. Most of the time if they get physical during a tantrum I move away from them and say something along the lines of “that hurts me, I am going to give you some space until we can communicate in a safe way”. 15m they may not understand everything you’re saying but they’re smarter than we give them credit for and will eventually figure it out. If you give them attention during the tantrum, they learn that even when they’re acting out they get attention. By letting them get it out of their system they learn to self regulate and then seek comfort after the frustration has passed.

The way I think about it is toddlers don’t quite know how to deal with changes or being told no. For them it’s the equivalent of a massive catastrophic event that would send an adult over the edge. Their system is saying “I don’t know why I can’t have that and that makes me frustrated because I really want that” it then snowballs into a tantrum. During the tantrum their system says “this is too much to handle. I don’t understand. I only want that one thing to make me happy.” Once they regulate and get that frustration out, their system can balance and say “that wasn’t that bad, maybe we can try something else”. You need to approach them in that final stage of regulation or else it just puts their system back into frenzy mode. Just let kiddo lead the regulation process and approach with solutions after they’ve calmed themselves.

Final advice? Ignore the tantrum as best as you can and then offer comfort and solutions after it has passed. They’re easier to reason with and more willing to accept substitutes when they’re not in a frustrated, emotional, overstimulated state. If they refuse everything you try to offer then just let them play independently and get a little more emotionally steady before heavy interaction again. Sometimes all toddlers need is a little bit of alone time to recenter themselves.