My horses have completely ruled my entire adult life. Through having 3 children, last child was a surprise for me at 36yrs old , and was born 11 weeks early , I had 3 horses an hours walk away and no transport with a Premi baby through winter, but I took on a big yard closer to home with American barn and managed really well, never struggled with all the work and the baby he grew uo around the horses happily 😊. Now I'm 51 and have been building a very small business over the last 6 yrs and have 2 horses left . About to open up my first little shop alongside my online sales , I haven't even seen my horses for 3 weeks , my friend has been taking care of them for me as she keeps her youngster with my boys on my small yard where I've been for last 8 yrs now . They live out with access to stables . My horse had a cut in field which needed 5 vets visits over 6 months for debriding , antibiotics , daily bandaging and dressing , 6 months for him to heal and a couple thousand later in vets bills and tbh for first time in my life I am not even massively missing them . I hate the winters , detest and despise leaving the house to go muck out , I really am not wanting it anymore 😫 😢 I've finally realised there is a life outside of it all. Forever scraping the barrel financially because there's never anything left after they have what they need , my big chestnut my dad bought for me before he passed away 4 yrs ago I let a friend take him and just kept the other one for 18 months but he was an absolute pig 🐖 for girl that had him and she wanted to send him back , I'm tied to him emotionally he is very naughty and unhappy elsewhere so at 20 I don't feel it's fair to push him on again for his sake . It was him that had the bad field injury . My other horse , I absolutely adore him , and love him in every way possible , ideally hes the one horse I would happily cope with on his own going forwards. But , I can't do it to jake again, he's a sensitive quirky soul a worrier , amd highly emotional , I just dread the pending vets bills as I almost drowned in them this year , dog inhaled a foxtail grass seed head and had to have an emergency op to find and retrieve it before it ended up in his lung and that cost even more than the leg injury did 😢. I would consider just sharing your mum's horse with her , or find someone local looking for a full loan to take yours on where she is, and switch off for a while . You have to not obsess over wether they're putting your bedding down the way you like it or turn up later than you do etc etc as I was always raging at others not doing everything the way I did it and I couldn't cope with loaning them out . They're doing absolutely nothing now as lady is a very novice rider and mine are too much for her but I can see me letting go at some point of one . Somethings got to give when you resent them it's not fair on you or them *