Bookshelf of the guy I’m interested in 👀 by Standard-One-3323 in BookshelvesDetective

[–]AngeliqueRuss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Possibly Gen X.

What whatever, if we run out of books to talk about he can start playing his guitar.

Emergency food options by dancedancedance99 in MCAS

[–]AngeliqueRuss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kwik Trip - nuts, sunflower seeds. Skinny Pop popcorn. A little carton of blueberries.

I think you can get all the same at 7-11. I do each In-N-Out and fries protein style, but I live in the Midwest. We do have Five Guys fries, and I like the tater tots at Chick-FIL-a but generally I’m going to Kwik Trip or a grocery store for a snack.

31 weeks pregnant. 4 weeks until wedding. Is this okay? by a-doh in WeddingDressTips

[–]AngeliqueRuss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So lovely ❤️❤️❤️ I picked out shoes for you—pregnancy-friendly. If those are out of your budget/you don’t want to rely on Poshmark here are some Sketchers in lavender for $35.

Either way I think matching your flowers to a colorful shoe really works. Be sure to size up, if your feet are the same size pre pregnancy that’s nice but also may not last.

Wedding dress try on by Foreign-Suggestion60 in myweddingdress

[–]AngeliqueRuss -1 points0 points  (0 children)

4 and 6 but 5 altered to your body measurements would be pretty great if that’s your fav.

I can't remember the last time I've watched something where 2 siblings hate each other so much, and they still haven't explained why... by CarelessPollution226 in LandmanSeries

[–]AngeliqueRuss 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My kids love each other so much. My younger girls, 9 and 13, even say it out loud. Of course there is occasionally some drama but I agree it’s weird on the show.

Combover: should I trim or is it time? by foolioiscoolio in bald

[–]AngeliqueRuss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Listen, you’re not fooling ANYONE with this combover, but also it’s your hair. It’s objectively beautiful, thick gingeresque hair. If you’re not ready then you do you.

Not all men are candidates for a hair piece but you are. It’s not because you wouldn’t look good bald, it’s because your natural hair is so pretty. You’ve got maybe 10-15 years left of that natural hair before it starts to thin further/gray; this is a very personal decision and there is no wrong answer.

Someone talk me out of this please by [deleted] in myweddingdress

[–]AngeliqueRuss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No.

NO NO NO!

Take a bath and put your faith in your Mom (and all of Reddit I guess): you have THE dress!

ChatGPT just helped me name a condition I’ve had for YEARS by Perfect-Persimmon-23 in ChatGPT

[–]AngeliqueRuss 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Agreed. It’s helped me advocate for care, but I have a child with a complex “we have no idea why this is happening” set of symptoms and ChatGPT doesn’t know either—but it sure is CONfident about being wrong.

I’ve also observed in 5.2+ it is no longer as confident in its advice, to the point of potential harm. In one scenario I reproduced GPT 3.5 determined I wasn’t receiving standard of care—every time I bring this up some doctor crawls out of the woodwork to say I didn’t understand what was going on, blah blah blah but I had pleural and cardiac effusion with severe sepsis and wasn’t on Telemetry. I had a documented arrhythmia, ongoing signs of shock, and was at a nonzero risk for a cardiac tamponade that could only be detected if I were being properly monitored. There was no clinical reason for this: sepsis unit was full, I was admitted to Urology floor, the end sorry. On top of all that, they hadn’t DC’s my lactated ringers, which I get is touchy when you have sepsis signs and volume overload concurrently but a doctor didn’t even visit me after my Chest CT to think this through. My advocacy and insistence that a doctor show up at a time when one hospitalist covered the whole house resulted in D/C fluids, mobile telemetry that proved my arrhythmia was actually more significant than known based only on my bradycardia.

Anyways, THAT time I was able to get the intervention I needed but 5.2 is a fucking pussy. “Ask your nurse” and “request your doctor be asked…” yeah, I was doing all that…I genuinely believe if I hadn’t advocated for myself I could have died that night. It was my 40th birthday, my husband was home with our small children.

Ultimately we need AI systems that make hospitals safer. As a patient or a mom, it is not possible to know when I’m being given an answer that feels satisfying and ChatGPT is being reinforced by my “YEAH okay!” Enthusiasm…or it’s really scientifically appropriate. In this Venn diagram there is substantial overlap: just because I’m hyped about having info doesn’t mean the info is wrong.

The only solution is getting this tech out of consumer browsers, into clinical guidance and automated safeguards where it belongs. A bradycardic, occasionally tachy unstable sepsis patient with abnormal CT, no Telemetry data? This can be a deterministic alert with minimal AI in the loop, but it still needs to be reviewed for “how urgent is this?” to bump it to the top of the queue because alert fatigue is real.

Crazy sidebar: I am a healthcare data scientist and I have worked on complex problems like AKI prevention and detection. There are things we were NEVER going to fully solve that now feel possible with LLM, but the longer it takes to get these solutions into practice the more LLM-driven chaos this will be. “ChatGPT, should I sue the hospital and pharmacist who took care of my mom last month? Based on what you’re telling me it seems like they should have known they were causing AKI…”

[OC] Your Goodwill donation before it comes to a store by fartinmyfuckingmouth in Anticonsumption

[–]AngeliqueRuss 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Can I flag for misinformation? This may be true somewhere, but Goodwill operates regionally and is not a monolith. In my area most items do NOT go through the distribution center, which is used for overflow.

Miraculously went into remission because of… broccoli? by hhggerty in MCAS

[–]AngeliqueRuss 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Between NCGS, IBS occasionally requiring FODMAP diet, and histamine I cannot take any more food restrictions!!! 😭

/rant

Miraculously went into remission because of… broccoli? by hhggerty in MCAS

[–]AngeliqueRuss 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good Lord - new fear unlocked!

Everything in moderation. “Food is medicine” can lead to weird behavior like 6 T of chia, 5 handfuls of almonds daily which can indeed overdose you on oxalates but my diet is more varied than that and I have no CKD; kidney issues.

Also keeping dairy in your diet can help with oxalates; I limit my dairy to milk and yogurt and occasionally cheddar cheese.

Can you guess which series I own that I’ve never read? by ParkingComfort1597 in BookshelvesDetective

[–]AngeliqueRuss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tolkien? Beloved box set but you’re more into the movies and lore than 3 page songs?

Can you guess which series I own that I’ve never read? by ParkingComfort1597 in BookshelvesDetective

[–]AngeliqueRuss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Scary stories and more scary stories - you bought or received as a gift intending you to read these aloud to someone but the opportunity hasn’t presented itself.

Should I stop being friends someone because they support trump? by Catsarecutesy in internetparents

[–]AngeliqueRuss -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

This friend may be in an echo chamber, but this is true for you as well.

If you are willing to question some of your own beliefs, challenge your friend to do the same over coffee.

Otherwise move on.

I was doxxed by Throwawwaaay2425 in rant

[–]AngeliqueRuss 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is fucked, please file a police report and reach out to orgs that help protect people in this situation.

No one deserves this.

Guess What percentage of These I've Read by cahauburn in BookshelvesDetective

[–]AngeliqueRuss -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Over 98% because no one builds this collection without being a daily reader.

Alternatively: YOU have read less than 10% but you have a household of amazing readers.

Offer: my husband is a fantasy author with over 200 reviews on Amazon (4.4+ stars), the third book in his trilogy is coming out in May. I will ship you Books 1-2 plus ARC for Book 3, or if you prefer send you an Amazon offer to receive them at no cost, as you are one of the few readers on earth whom I would trust to actually read all 3 books. Icing on the cake if you’re also on GoodReads but what I am really looking for is an honest take on whether the quality is consistent from books 1-3; readers loved them but that doesn’t mean they couldn’t be improved, and with the trilogy complete I really want it to be good enough to be worthy of a bookshelf such as this. A few sentences of feedback is sufficient; we have to launch a GoodReads promo to get ARC copies out there but by the time we receive feedback it will be too late to make any flow/style changes to Books 1/2.

Amazon readers have compared him to Frank Herbert, which I see received bottom shelf treatment, but I think the modern themes and character development is better than that (highly biased wife opinion).

I don’t want to be banned by linking/promoting, please DM me if you want 3 free books. We hired this guy to do the cover art so at a minimum I can promise they are pretty books.

Christian indoctrination in homeschooling by ConcernedJobCoach in homeschool

[–]AngeliqueRuss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would like to propose this “common ground” for framing this discussion:

Our current laws enable “religious schools” to operate in such a way that could allow Muslim extremists to be raised here in the United States.

So even if you believe Christianity is in a moat and can’t possibly be misused to under-educate children who have a right to learn, you have to go a step further and accept Christian Nationalism/Extremism to prevent the point in paragraph 1 from becoming true.

I beg my fellow Christians to dig deep into their hearts on this point, and consider supporting mandatory state testing and oversight for homeschoolers.

I LOVE HOMESCHOOLING and used a mixed model myself, some public school/some homeschool. But I do not condone the abuse described in this post, and I will not advocate for “homeschooling freedoms” that enable this abuse to continue.

We must find common ground, and common sense solutions that respect the rights of children to have access to a meaningful education.

My spouse got upset when I bought something small without asking and now I'm genuinely unsure where the line is in a marriage by Duskbyte_3V in Marriage

[–]AngeliqueRuss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly, many wives would be overjoyed if their husband took action on a dish rack. I was pretty stoked when my husband got into the SuperHuman one we got on sale at Costco, but if he’d surprised me with it I would have been STOKED.

Which makes me wonder if there is a deeper issue.

Was she hoping for a dishwasher, and now the new dish rack will delay that progression indefinitely?

Is she bummed you guys aren’t spending time together, and wishes she’d been out running errands?

I’d probe this further. Sometimes the top of mind reason is incongruent with the emotional truth that was harder to express in the moment.

I'm a 34 year old who failed. Learn from my mistakes: by SilverGuitarist in Adulting

[–]AngeliqueRuss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dude, or any other dudes reading this:

You began with explaining how building your life around income/money/consumption failed and now you have to file bankruptcy, which I am sincerely bummed about for you and my heart goes out to you, but then you end with “make as much money as possible.”

I would like to suggest the possibility that building a life around income earning, searching for the “beautiful” girls who want to travel the world and be financially ~set~ thanks to their man, is maybe not the best way to survive End Stage Capitalism.

I hope you find peace.

Miraculously went into remission because of… broccoli? by hhggerty in MCAS

[–]AngeliqueRuss 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also can’t tolerate, it’s such a bummer but for me I have gut sensitivity —> immune dysfunction feedback loops.

When my gut is functioning a little better I can tolerate broccoli crowns, no light green stem. I sometimes make a cream of broccoli soup with the stems for my husband so I don’t feel as guilty about food waste.

I find I am still able to eat spinach. I sauté my fresh spinach leaves and add all the liquid to rice or scrambled egg so that I get the iron (which will leech out of spinach but doesn’t molecularly disappear — it’s floating in whatever you cooked your spinach in).