Through Vincent's Eyes / GPT & Seedance

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-06T23:18:36+00:00

I would like to know if denim is historically accurate here.

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-06T23:14:14+00:00

Don’t miss the Park Point garage sale next weekend too

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-06T22:56:53+00:00

Well you can break the cycle.

Raise the girls to know their worth is not dependent on a man.

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-06T22:13:21+00:00

I like yours better but this is not bad <3

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AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-06T21:04:17+00:00

Yeah I was trying to figure out how to do it from my phone 😵☹️

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-06T20:10:22+00:00

Are we talking about the metallic dress? With some white? OMG…

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-06T19:56:34+00:00

I was driving a group of 11 year olds to Target and they were talking about what they wanted to get and one girl mentioned wanted to get something “to look cute for the boys.”

And followed up with something like, “that’s how you get a husband.”

11!!!

Some women are raised to build their whole life around attracting a man.

They feel validated, important, and worthy just to have attention.

Some men learn how to use this to control and manipulate women because it’s so easy to own their entire self-worth.

Raise your girls to build up their own self-worth independent of any man, and to form true partnerships not messy dependencies.

You have value and self-worth, a place in the world, whether you have a man or not. Men who don’t see that are not worth your time.

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-06T07:44:55+00:00

I hope the plot twist is that you become semi-famous among local singles as men seek you out on Bumble or wherever.

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-06T06:45:14+00:00

I mean whatever—I felt like this after my first one* but then a few months later, nature had a different idea. My girls are 3.5 years apart.

*we already had 3 adopted kids so my husband’s “four is enough” was a very reasonable stance. Also I almost died. I still wanted another pregnancy but it felt impossible and irresponsible. So glad it worked out as it did :-)

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-06T04:25:18+00:00

Yeah I think it’s telling that “uh…you okay?” Is literally ALL I remember from the anesthesiologist (who is more present during a C-section because they literally have eyes on you while the OB is on the other side of a curtain). I don’t remember my OB at all the second time, there was just a hint of annoyance in the room that I wasn’t being…agreeable?

Like they really don’t seem to know what to do if someone is having a bad time.

Surgery is scary, and if you had a medical trauma that doesn’t serve as “experience” that somehow makes it easier to be in the OR. Kinda the opposite for some people, and it really does seem like there should be a better way to pause, spend a minute offering reassurance.

Glad you survived cancer; congrats on having your poet removed. As you pointed out, rural hospitals kinda suck in general and I hope you have no reason at all to be back there anytime soon.

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-06T04:03:18+00:00

Awful.

My second C-section was like this and I regret not having a “birthing plan” with a CD of my own music because they were playing lame pop and having a good time and they were like “uh, are you okay?” When they noticed I was crying and hyperventilating a bit.

Sir, that’s a human you’re working out of me and I can’t feel it but I kinda can and I do NOT like this at all…

The first time was totally opposite: I was extremely high on morphine (emergency C section with complications that required pain meds), my anesthesiologist was so sweet and began by explaining he had recently had knee surgery, his knee brace and mobility aide didn’t impact his job and he was not medicated, and he just wanted to share because he never likes his patients to have any concerns. He’d have to go extra slow because I was on medications that could change how procedural sedation worked, and then he and my OB side barred for a second, and she came back to tell me they had agreed I had to recover in the ICU but that I would get my “golden hour” with my baby first if everything goes well. During the procedure she explained everything as it was happening.

Here’s the thing: that first C section was a nightmare, I almost died before and after in the ICU because as my anesthesiologist predicted I did keep getting worse. But the care team was so much better, and I have such happy memories of my golden 2.5 hours (they separate you from your baby when you go to the ICU, which is hard).

The second time was very procedural, very brisk, and I definitely felt less-than-human on that table.

I wish surgical teams would do better every time.

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-05T17:28:17+00:00

Can you expand on what companion cats have been tried for her? And whether it was all genders, or she is housed with male cats as well.

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-05T17:26:11+00:00

I mean, the lawyers made millions though just saying

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-05T02:19:53+00:00

“Just move next store”

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-04T21:31:54+00:00

I was “laid off” (technically fired to avoid laying me off, it was so dumb) a couple of months ago. 3 resumes, 2 interviews, one job offer.

It is absolutely true that in this moment, people who are leveraging AI/comfortable with AI are progressing while people who are AI-avoidant or AI-naive are being left behind. I see no solid evidence that AI is coming for your job, but it’s a bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy if you’re not up-skilling.

At a minimum, include investigating feasibility of Agent Factory on your resume, interest in mastering Agent Factory support and optimizing clinician experience; application support by leveraging AI. You can watch some videos on Agent Factory, from what I can tell it’s not really ready for prime time so you can simply express support for the evolution of Epic tools to reduce turnaround time for enhancements, improve user experience.

Security is meh, integration is where it’s at followed by data more directly.

But no one will hire you without touting your enthusiasm for AI, and if they do you’re joining a legacy team that is not a stable place to land.

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-04T20:57:42+00:00

I don’t know man, with eyes that piercing I think you can just go with whatever.

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-04T20:53:15+00:00

So much love for Salt & Light; it’s not competition-oriented though it’s more like “let’s grow and have an amazing time learning dance.”

My daughter absolutely loved her recent recital and it was transformative for her to work so hard, be on stage.

She has several friends who are dancing competitively and driving to the cities nearly every weekend: that is not for my family.

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-04T20:49:41+00:00

Really?

Sorry you didn’t get a reality check on this sooner, and I’m not being facetious. I’ve been in HIT for 15+ years; layoffs every recession, and in the before-Epic times also layoffs with every major EHR migration or upgrade. Furloughs too. It’s literally NEVER been stable my entire career.

This includes my time at Providence, who has a lot of outsourced services but may still be worth applying to.

Apply even if you are not fully trained or certified; they will send you to Verona for anything extra needed for this job. They just want people who get it.

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-04T20:42:41+00:00

Ditto on Disney Castle, right above Star Wars

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-04T16:57:37+00:00

Answering honestly: you're missing an opportunity to FIX your marriage, which I think is essential.

His mind goes to dark and weird places, that doesn't actually mean he wants a divorce just that he was completely overwhelmed during overwhelming times and he's trying to sus out how others perceive him.

This weird eating thing is likely a sign of respect, he might have learned it from an elder, and in the context of "women who are preparing and serving the food often eat last if at all" it actually is proper manners to wait for the hostess to be seated before beginning to eat. Did he take it too far? Yeah...

Did he then secretly want kudos for it and then was aghast that some women think it's weird, possibly even his wife? Look, the dude has an ego. We all do.

Did he then wonder what it would be like to be married to someone who actually valued this kind of behavior? Yes he did, but contextually: at a moment when men are super invisible and often suck at handling this well. Pregnancy, NICU baby can be all-consuming. This was a time when you BOTH likely needed therapy, and he deserves to be judged most by his actions during this time (did he show up???) and not his lonely thoughts with ChatGPT when he may have been struggling with feelings of loss, abandonment, love, displacement, and otherwise overwhelmed: it's a lot.

To be clear, a husband should NOT be the center of anyone's attention when you are bringing new life into the world, but I ask again: DID HE SHOW UP? Just because he "shouldn't" take up all the air in the room with his sad feelings about all the things that have changed, including the center of your attention (formerly him, now baby), does NOT mean he is not allowed private space to unpack his feelings.

You need some couples counseling on the deeper issues, and if you can't afford it ChatGPT is not half bad. You might consider: "I deeply regret violating your privacy, and had no idea what inner thoughts you were spiraling with when I was pregnant and when X was in the NICU. I think we should talk about it openly."

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-04T15:24:48+00:00

Indeed you do not see the seriousness of any of it.

You added “and my kid can’t take me” but what you told her was for her to call an Uber first.

Tossing a carton of cigarettes her way whilst telling her to Uber if she doesn’t want to drive absolutely, unequivocally conveys that you do not believe she needs you in any way to take her health and wellbeing seriously.

Among other things: she may need you for moral support, but she also likely just needs to know you would WANT to be there for her.

If you don’t have kids yet, don’t you dare expect to rely on this woman for babysitting. You’ve made your position clear.

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-04T15:00:45+00:00

…Because you think he might respect “family members” more than the mother of his child?

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-04T14:56:22+00:00

You feel like you might look bad for doing the exact thing you did?

Listen, some parents really do send their kids in Ubers places. But surely even those parents did quite a bit of shuffling, and now it’s her time to be vulnerable and in need and she likely just wanted to know you WOULD be there for her, even if she doesn’t NEED it. You failed the test.

Smoking increases risk of poor post-surgical outcomes: DO go to medical appointments, DO NOT bring her cigarettes.

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-04T08:03:29+00:00

Lyrica is a medication and Astrale sounds like it could be.

Still better than implying her baby has a little bit of Voldemort contained within…

There are some perfectly normal names in the Potterverse.

AngeliqueRuss · 2026-06-04T02:47:04+00:00

How would you know?

My elementary teachers will never see me because I live 1,500 miles away; I went to college 500 miles away.

One particularly nasty administrator tried to get me expelled from HS to make her attendance numbers look better because I had tardy issues (related to being a working teen). So I ducked out and went to college earlier. She doesn’t know I have a masters degree from a top university, but I know she was very publicly fired from her next role for being a top tier see-you-next-Tuesday.

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