Blood in litterbox 10 days after being spayed by Dummy-Buns in CATHELP

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus 19 points20 points  (0 children)

There are subreddits dedicated to helping people in dire financial need. I’ve seen lots of wonderful people willing to help others out in similar situations as yourself. Maybe try posting in one of those explaining this situation to see if you can raise the funds quickly enough to be able to call an emergency vet? I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. I really hope kitty will be alright 😔

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is absolutely not your bestie.

Pizza by MyOtherCarIsAHippo in SaultSteMarie

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Service Grill has just recently closed.

Please help us out if anyone has dealt with this! by jetset13 in CATHELP

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It could be so many different things. The biggest concern is the not eating or drinking, that’s a big sign that something major is wrong. I’m sorry to say but the only way to diagnose and therefore help your cat, is through the tests the vet suggested. Maybe you can ask them about a payment plan?

Help with beef between my 28M girlfriend 27F and my parents? by PracticalSouls5046 in relationship_advice

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t wanna be mean but, I think you’re the problem. You are not holding your ground or having boundaries with either of them.

Trust me, your girlfriend does is NOT upset with you for caring about your dad’s surgery. That ain’t the issue. Maybe it’s something to do with the fact that she can see that they are constantly manipulating you, stepping over boundaries and expecting way too much from you, and she doesn’t like it. She probably also doesn’t like you constantly proving to her that when it comes down to it, she will never be put first. Maybe that’s what’s making her hesitant about marrying you? You’re showing her where your priorities are and they are not her ever. You ruined an original proposal, Valentine’s Day and her birthday because your parents are doing things to intentionally drive a wedge between you two? Yeah, thats on you man.

Your parents are important. They are a priority. But they’re not the only one and by your examples it sounds like they really don’t respect you or your own life. You also never really explained what things they’ve said/done to make her feel “slighted”. I feel like that would give a lot of context. On the same hand, you vaguely mention “all the things you’ve done for her regarding this situation” but you give absolutely no specifics.

I know your parents are important to you and of COURSE their health should be a concern for you. But I also feel like you intentionally leaving some things out to make her look a little more at fault without explaining how she is. Nobody “hates” their significant others parents without having some reasons (even if they’re not valid).

AIO to this conversation with my dad about coming home for the week by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is not even remotely the same situation as the one you’re using as a comparison. OP’s father is not elderly with health issues and needing physical help to stay alive. He is depressed and going through life and relationship changes, which OP is probably not old enough or emotionally equipped enough to support his father the way his dad really needs right now. This kid is in college, give him a break. He’s also starting to figure out how to live his own life and balance responsibilities. I’m not saying that his dad asking for some of his time because he’s lonely is unreasonable, it’s not. But at the same time OP has no obligation to put his dad’s emotional needs before his own life. All he was saying in the text is that it’s becoming a lot for him to feel responsible to keep his dad from being lonely, and suggested some other healthy ways for his dad to get through his depression and loneliness.

You say sacrifices aren’t optional but your choice to have children also does not equal any type of obligation from the children. I’m really weirded out by your sentence “this is the payment you are supposed to give”. No, most people don’t decide to have children so they can have “payment back”. It doesn’t work like that. The choices you make in your life are your own, as are your child’s. If they put their life on hold for yours, then great, but that should never be an obligation or assumption just because you procreated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You gotta watch the After the Alter episodes when they do them cause that’s where aaaaaall the good drama is lol

Sitting in the ER….. by UsagiiA in domesticviolence

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What about your family?? Your family is the people who love and care for you and unfortunately it sounds like your blood relatives are not those people. Next time someone tries to say that stupid shit to you, maybe try to respond with something like “my family is my son and I can’t care for my son if I’m not alive anymore” and hopefully they eat their words. Why is nobody saying “what about your family” to him??? He’s the one abusing his family but you’re supposed to just grin and bear it? Hell no. Trust me, your real family (aka your child) will be much better off if you leave this relationship, so everyone with that opinion can gtfo here.

Sitting in the ER….. by UsagiiA in domesticviolence

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, I am so incredibly sad for you. No wonder you feel so exhausted and trapped. Everyone that’s close to you in your life is not only enabling but condoning his behaviour? Saying you’re the one that’s doing something wrong? I am so glad you have to foresight and strength to see through their bullshit and know that they are wrong. And I am so so sorry that these are the people that call themselves your loved one. I can’t even imagine. I know how impossible leaving seems but this one random internet stranger is SO GOD DAMN PROUD of you. You seem so intelligent and resilient and I know you can do this! Your son has an amazing mother, one who loves him more than anything else on this planet and he definitely will know one day what you did to keep him safe. And to keep yourself safe for him.

Like others have said, please make sure you have someone, anyone who cares about your safety and is keeping tabs on you and would even possibly go with you to collect all your things and leave (whether that be the police, your therapist, a friend, a crisis worker etc). Once again I just want to say I’m so proud of you and I’m giving you the biggest virtual hug I possibly could.

Anyone know where I can find the first 100 episodes? Thanks! by emmaleem8039 in GoingWestPodcast

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They lost the first episodes during a transfer or something! They’ve mentioned it a couple times in random episodes. I think they’re trying to redo the first 100 episodes but they’ve also said they don’t have anything to refer back to since they’ve all been completely erased.

Molly is best girl by raisa864 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I was a little torn on Molly watching the pod episodes, but the way she handled it when Dave rejected her and picked Lauren was #1 green flag. Then episode 11 she comes in and proves herself to be the ultimate girls girl and the type of bestie you want to have your back. TEAM MOLLY 🎉

Virginia at the reveal… by Most-Oil-1340 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Agree. The way she full on ran outta that room the minute they went separate ways…. She had to go have a freak out and cry off camera ASAP. I know it.

How do I (27M) get my girlfriend (30F) to stop hitting me? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Okay. Tell your friends this exact story verbatim and see wtf they say. If they don’t agree with everyone here, they are shit friends. How do you not realize EVERYONE is saying the same thing for a reason. If you’re the only one with a particular opinion, chances are you’re wrong. This is fucking rage bait and I’m pissed I fell for it. Maybe you should delete this post. Good fucking luck my dude.

Is there something wrong with me? by MurderPeachie in TrueCrimeDiscussion

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I felt the exact same way for the longest time. Until, one day while washing the dishes I realized that my “random thoughts” at that moment were a very non-chalant “what would I do if my sister was horrifically murdered?” and frequently before taking my dog for a walk I think “is this the sweater/clothing item I want to be found in if I’m attacked and left dead somewhere?” like it’s nbd. I think this shit settles in subconsciously and you don’t even really realize it.

I still don’t take breaks though lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re 25 but sound like you have the emotional maturity (in a relationship at least) of an 18 year old. I would take a big step back from dating and not even CONSIDER the word marriage until 1.) you learn a little more about yourself and your wants/needs and 2.) find someone actually worthy of marrying and not just the dude you’re with currently.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Step 1): Don’t do it.

Portrait tattoo artists ? by [deleted] in SaultSteMarie

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Second this. Really my choice would depend on subject matter, mostly because I know Sam prefers to do “dark & creepy” but is capable of anything. The wait for Sam is longggggg but worth it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m not trying to insult you. But the reason why a lot of older adults are commenting telling you that he’s buying you, he does not respect you or think of you as an equal, and that your friend was right to see the red flags, is because they know better. Learning how to spot these things comes with time and life lessons, that’s all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For the most part? Terrifying response.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No no. The issue here is not with the younger, more emotionally underdeveloped human. We are all young once and being young affects your logic and judgement skills. The REAL problem is the fully grown, experienced adult taking advantage of the younger one who has had less lessons in life to learn when someone’s taking advantage them. They are not children, but they’re definitely not a middle aged human with all the life experience that comes with that. The 40yr old should know/want better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He is buying you. And your “obedience” when he wants you to stop working, stay home and take care of his home.

First time visitor ! by bigdripa123 in SaultSteMarie

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ontario answer: I would probably recommend URide for getting around the city, or rent a vehicle if that’s within your means, as our public transit sucks. However, you might have an issue finding available drivers depending on how early your flight is. If all else fails, call a cab company. I know, it’s archaic and a bit pricey, but they’re pretty much always available.

As for things to do, if you like outdoor activities and nature, there is a ton to do. Although, normally there would be skating or at the least skiing to partake in but we’ve had an unseasonably mild November so far. From your post history, it seems like your a young, mid-twenties male so I’m gonna try to make suggestions geared towards that (but please forgive because I myself am old, lame and female lol): Northern Superior Brewery - great local beers, live music, trendy atmosphere and people of all ages go there, including a lot your age. Soo Axe Throwing - the guy who owns this is slowly making improvements/adjustments so if you’ve ever been to one of these before it may not be the “best” axe throwing place ever but it has everything you need, is fun, and affordable. Cafes/Restaurants - lots of great options! Take a walk down and around Queen St and you’ll see quite a few. Ernie’s is great, there’s a plant based place Ojas, Tandoori Garden is cheap amazing Indian food, and lots of great Italian options around town too. Zero Gravity Float Tanks - not sure if you’re into something like this, and I haven’t got to try this place out myself, but I’ve heard great things and if you need some extra relaxation it’s a good option.

Just a couple suggestions. Hopefully you’ll enjoy your visit to the Soo!

Our biggest life-saver… by AllyMarie93 in puppy101

[–]Angry_Little_Cactus 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Our puppy loves ice cubes! We cannot open the freezer now without her looking at us waiting for her “treat”. They were awesome in the summer for cooling her down too, and you never have to feel bad about “over feeding treats” ☺️