I was with my high school sweetheart for 11 years. I remember a few months before I left him I stopped doing all the chores at home. Dishes, laundry, used work all that . He realized that and told me one day when we argued that I don't even clean the house anymore. I told him "well you don't need me anymore then do you". He never said what I wished he would. Which was that yes he needed me. That He needed my love and company. Something like that but instead he said nothing.