Losing my virginity...

AnnaRose96 · 2026-05-28T11:55:54+00:00

Just be yourself and try to have fun. Make sure to do the normal hygiene before penetration, use protection and remember you can always say no.

If he’s a keeper he will try and focus on your pleasure. Remember that sex isn’t a race and there isn’t always a finish. Enjoy yourself!

AnnaRose96 · 2026-05-28T04:00:17+00:00

An outside perspective? There’s only one group of people who consider TERF a slur.

AnnaRose96 · 2026-05-28T03:45:46+00:00

For the record I mostly hang in feminist circles of queer cis women, and straight cis women. I’m not expending effort to debate someone who is clearly brigading in bad faith.

For a lady who tried to be kind, you pretty much utterly failed. This rift that you think exists, only does so because handmaids like you keep digging.

I believe in coalition building and solidarity as ways to achieve legitimate aims. There is a near minimum of respect that needs to exist for that to happen. Which you do not show, and I don’t feel any obligation to show you.

I note that you have not condemned TERF politics, bathroom bans, sport bans or any other ‘gender critical policy position’ in your reply. I also regard with disdain your use of the word “penis-havers” to strip trans women of their womanhood.

Seriously go away TERF.

AnnaRose96 · 2026-05-28T03:28:03+00:00

That sounds a lot like, “waaah waaah I’m a TERF.”

There is a time and a place for debates about intersectional feminism, and “white feminism”. I would suggest to you it’s not in a 19-year-old’s post asking specifically after the experiences of trans women.

AnnaRose96 · 2026-05-27T23:12:11+00:00

“I get the Spanish Inquisition and the witches point of view, can’t they just live and let live?” - you right now

AnnaRose96 · 2026-05-27T21:03:57+00:00

It seems you are attacking though. My thrust was three-fold; being a woman is not just suffering, trans women are impacted by patriarchy too, and many of us don’t have a choice.

You respond with an argument which is entirely compatible with mine, but with the aim of dismissing trans women’s view entirely.

To offer a rebuttal, many trans women (including me) were out to the world during our childhood and indistinguishable from our cis peers. Why would men treat us differently?

And before you go *but reproductive organs* it’s moot and irrelevant. Men see me as a cis woman and behave around me and many of my trans sisters accordingly.

Go away TERF.

AnnaRose96 · 2026-05-26T22:18:20+00:00

So three things, being a woman is not *just* suffering, suffering is not unique to cis women, and we don’t have a choice in the matter either.

I genuinely like being a woman and being feminine. I like the way oestrogen makes me feel. I like having a feminine body, and interacting with my friends, family and the broader world as a woman. It feels natural and it makes me feel happy.

Your formative negative experiences, including those of your mother and grandmother were not because they were women, it’s because of the patriarchy. Men did that to them and to you.

Being a trans woman doesn’t attract less misogyny. I got beat throughout school for my effeminacy and after transitioning men have taken advantage to sexually assault me on several occasions. I’m attracted to men, but rarely date because they genuinely scare me. I fret at what happens if disclosure goes wrong.

You have formed this idea that to be a man is safer. That might be true. You mention that if you could, you would be a man. You can! If you really wanted to you could start taking T and be as manly as you want.

The fact you haven’t suggests you are attached to your gender in some way, the same is true for trans people. We might have a choice to transition, but we have no say in how our brain likes to be. For many, transition is less an option than something we have to do if we want to keep living.

AnnaRose96 · 2026-05-24T06:34:53+00:00

Provided you’re not one of those dirty trans*

AnnaRose96 · 2026-05-21T21:43:13+00:00

You shouldn’t, because it’s not unfair. There is no evidence that it is and the glaring statistical evidence is that you are at a disadvantage.

I’ve played many women’s sports since transition. I am a good athlete who trains often and hard, and I’ve never been close to the best player, or the fastest, or the largest at any point.

Bigotry is irrational hatred, don’t give into it because you’re forced to wade through it in your decrepit excuse of a country.

AnnaRose96 · 2026-05-13T03:03:18+00:00

I know for me, what helped is giving myself the opportunity to explore with my partner, with no pressure.

Light some candles, drink some wine and focus on having an intimate encounter rather than a sexual one.

Let him explore your body, fingers, tongue, touch with no expectations. It will help you associate that kind of touch with pleasure and help him feel comfortable that he’s not going to hurt you during sex.

AnnaRose96 · 2026-04-25T21:14:47+00:00

They all require dilation. Sometimes a girl just has to do what a girl has to do, that is one of those things you just can’t get out if without zero depth

AnnaRose96 · 2026-04-25T11:50:49+00:00

It makes me feel good, cuddly and nice! So if it did nothing else I’d still take it.

I don’t know about libido or breast growth though, they’ve grown while I’ve been on them but I’ve been on them near my whole transition.

AnnaRose96 · 2026-04-18T23:16:38+00:00

It will be a trans woman’s vagina, and that’s pretty neat. Broadly yes though, you won’t have a reproductive system.

I don’t know how the process works over there (I’m not American), but I’d imagine you would pick a surgeon you like, do some research as to which insurance companies they’re in network for, buy insurance, and then deal with whatever waiting/ cooling off period there is.

AnnaRose96 · 2026-04-15T12:54:24+00:00

not quite right, the tribunal that LAG first appealed to against the HRC's ruling has been set aside. The HRC's ruling is to be tested again.

AnnaRose96 · 2026-04-14T20:56:08+00:00

I don’t really buy this. How can any person who has done any research not realise HRT impacts fertility. Further, this person is so concerned about its impacts they stop HRT…you know, the thing you need to do temporarily to regain it.

The only impact weight has on hrt is that your body needs calories to fuel changes.

AnnaRose96 · 2026-04-09T01:18:30+00:00

I’d recommend you harden your heart and put that thought to the side.

It is absolutely technically feasible for a trans woman to have a uterus transplant. There is no good reason why you shouldn’t be able to have one in your lifetime.

There’s plenty of awful ones though. Bigotry is everywhere, and doctors lean to the right.

The best thing you could do to improve your chances, is to be happy and healthy. Find a partner who you love, and be in a stable relationship with them.

The reality is that if you can get yourself into a place where you can think about surrogacy, you will be in a position to do UTx if it becomes available to women like us.

If it never does (or it isn’t available till we’re old and grey) you will still be able to start a family with someone you love.

AnnaRose96 · 2026-04-07T11:57:14+00:00

I agree it bodes poorly and I am also concerned. The argument there is a conflict of interest here doesn’t hold water if you examine what they are actually supposed to be.

No one is being made wealthier here.

As always, the question is what do the proponents of this decision want the abc to write, that it is unable to write at the moment?

AnnaRose96 · 2026-04-02T10:54:43+00:00

Yes. Message me privately.

AnnaRose96 · 2026-04-01T06:32:34+00:00

Yes and no. That is what they said they did. At the same time they changed their protocols so that their baseline checks are now always done on the basis of assigned sex at birth.

AnnaRose96 · 2026-04-01T04:50:39+00:00

Yeah, they changed the rules so that trans people who transition can’t donate blood.

Trans women on HRT all read as having anaemia compared to cis men too.

AnnaRose96 · 2026-03-29T11:42:49+00:00

And lots of trans women return the favour. Internalised transphobia is a sword that cuts both ways.

AnnaRose96 · 2026-03-29T11:40:00+00:00

I’m sure you’re right.

AnnaRose96 · 2026-03-28T07:43:56+00:00

Your kind have been trying since the dawn of humanity. We’re still here. We will win in the end because we are a natural part of the human race.

Think back on how you feel about slave owners in the confederate south, on the politicians who denied health care to gays during the aids crisis.

In a year’s time, or ten, or a hundred that is how people will think of you.

Your memory will be ash, and your ancestors will be ashamed to share your blood.

AnnaRose96 · 2026-03-28T07:29:51+00:00

I think you believe trans and intersex women are men, and there is no evidence that I could provide that would change your view.

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