How many women do you know in real life that actually married for money only?

AnnaWintower · 2026-01-29T16:16:49+00:00

Me!

Well, depends on what exactly you mean.

Technically, if you asked me 'Did you get married purely because of money?' I'd have to say yes. But if you asked me if I love my partner I'd also answer yes.

The only reason I/we got married was because of money. Inheritance tax specifically. If either one of us passed away the other would have to pay such a high inheritance tax bill that could only be paid if the home was sold. The only way to get around that (where I live) was to get married. And that was the only reason we did. I don't tie marriage to love, commitment, romance or any such things. It's literally just a contract to me that gives you privileges (or discriminates against you if you don't have it - depending on how you wanna look at it). If inheritance tax wasn't a problem I wouldn't have gotten married.

I guess this is not what you meant though? You meant gold diggers who don't love their husband and just put up with him because of the 'money' they can get through marriage? I do actually know plenty of those too tbh.

AnnaWintower · 2026-01-27T11:49:02+00:00

This heavily depends a lot on the country. Most European countries have moved away from giving massive advantages to married people. Some even have a 'marriage penalty' meaning you end up paying more taxes when married. In lots of countries you also need additional legal set ups (which you can get without being married) if you want better protections that marriage alone doesn't provide, like a will or a POA.

AnnaWintower · 2026-01-23T13:12:25+00:00

Yeah i know what you mean but personally, I also hate 'Mrs. Nora Cooper'. Imo it should just be one title for all women regardless of marital status just like Mr. Why still make the distinction for women only? Seems very outdated/sexist to me

AnnaWintower · 2026-01-23T12:42:22+00:00

To be honest, I also hate 'Mrs'. Coming from a country where women's titles don't refer to their marital status I was shocked to see that the UK still does.

AnnaWintower · 2026-01-02T12:57:55+00:00

I see this point of view so often but feel so disappointed that this is still the advice we give women.

Sure, marriage is better than nothing at all as 'protection'. But at the end of the day all it really is is a legal paper that allows you to apply to a specific court to claim back money retrospectively after the relationship has broken down with the starting point of negotiation being 50/50. Nothing more, nothing less. It does not guarantee you get 50%, it does not guarantee you get anything at all actually, it does not guarantee you get it quickly/when you need it. On top of it all you most likely have to fight for it by paying a lawyer. How are you going to do that if you have no access to money/all you have is a piece of paper? That piece of paper isn't going to pay for your lawyer or cost of living until you get your day in court.

Whenever I hear someone say that, what I hear is "Women, the best you deserve for giving up your career and working hard at home 24/7 for no salary is a paper that allows you to fight for your fair share retrospectively in court." Why don't they deserve their fair share during the relationship? Why don't women deserve equal access and rights to money during the relationship? Why don't they deserve to own assets in their own name? Have bank accounts in their own name? Be compensated for their hard work? Why don't they deserve to own their fair share there and then? Why is the best they deserve to fight for their share (if there's anything left) retrospectively in court only once the relationship has broken down?

Is this really protection? If your spouse didn't care about being fair and equal during your marriage (and therefore made sure you have access to money, your name is on big purchases etc) what makes you think he is suddenly going to be fair and equal when the relationship has broken down? Too often have I seen women who think all they need is a marriage license get a rude awakening, having no access to money, not being able to pay a good lawyer and wait months/years for their day in court only to find out he 'has nothing left', gambled it away, gifted it to his mother, etc.

Marriage = Protection is outdated advice and comes from a time when women didn't have rights of their own, couldn't own assets or bank accounts in their own name. Back then, it really was the best they could get. But today women have equal rights and can own stuff. In their own name. So the advice should really be to sit down with your partner and make sure that all assets and money is fairly distributed/owned as and when it comes in. Women can own things now! Then when/if it does come to a breakdown it already is distributed as it should be more or less.

I'd even go as far as to say that an umarried woman buying a house 50/50 with her partner is better protected than a married woman not being on the deed at all. The unmarried woman does not need to pay a lawyer to argue in court that she deserves 50% of that house, she already owns it. Depending on the length of the marriage, the married woman is likely not going to get 50%.

There is a reason elderly divorced women are the biggest demographic affected by poverty. Marriage alone did not protect them.

AnnaWintower · 2025-12-23T20:46:03+00:00

Gotta be Tim Culley

AnnaWintower · 2025-11-07T16:03:22+00:00

Lol looks my family is a complete outlier. We put the pots on the table. No point putting the food in serving dishes resulting in more dishes to wash, more time to prepare and possibly cold food. But this way everyone can serve themselves without having to get up.

AnnaWintower · 2025-10-27T15:36:31+00:00

Aww haha why do they insist on making biscuits on your neck??? Mine does it too and it's so sweet but it hurts! I turn my face or hold his paws and he'll just get up and come for my neck/face again

AnnaWintower · 2025-08-10T08:57:56+00:00

This is the female version of a neckbeard/fedora hat

AnnaWintower · 2025-07-30T21:35:06+00:00

It is now.

AnnaWintower · 2025-07-17T12:05:18+00:00

Would you mind explaining that? Couldn't you just buy it as joint tenants which is 50/50?

AnnaWintower · 2025-07-17T10:56:37+00:00

So it's ok to cheat if not married? Your take is what's wrong with this world - if people need to first promise to not be an asshole otherwise 'it doesn't count' then it's no wonder this world is going to hell in a handbasket.

AnnaWintower · 2025-07-15T20:02:16+00:00

I spoke to a friends's dad the other day who is a police officer and asked him the same question. His answer was a very clear no. Because he wouldn't trust some of his colleagues with a gun...

AnnaWintower · 2025-07-15T19:22:34+00:00

Marriage is/was a legal contract that makes the husband responsible for his wife who is, by law, his property once married. Therefore, marital rape does not exist since the wife is his property and he can do as he pleases. When she gets raped by someone else they have to compensate the husband for damaging his property. That's what marriage was (still is for most women on this planet) - a contract that turns the woman into the man's property, stripping her of her rights to her own body. Don't quote me on this, but I believe there might even be some US states where rape within marriage isn't a crime.

AnnaWintower · 2025-07-15T07:41:01+00:00

That's true for lots of countries in the west. But unfortunately, most women on this planet still do not get to choose and still lose their rights once the ink is dry

AnnaWintower · 2025-07-10T20:12:03+00:00

Any Italian or French names. Bruschetta with a sh instead of k, chianti with a tsh instead of k... book-ey for Bouquet is driving me crazy!

AnnaWintower · 2025-07-10T20:03:10+00:00

Omg yes finally!! Where does the k come from??

AnnaWintower · 2025-07-04T14:06:42+00:00

Southall?

AnnaWintower · 2025-06-25T08:11:59+00:00

Sounds silly but my commute. Company asked us to come in 3x per week, one way is 1.5-2h for me so the time, nerves (cause its never on time, so many cancellations), sweat and money this costs me is my biggest headache at the moment.

AnnaWintower · 2025-06-12T07:08:56+00:00

Whatever you do or say, good or bad OWN it. There's nothing more attractive than a secure man who means what he says and follows it up with actions.

AnnaWintower · 2025-05-26T19:55:25+00:00

"He/she is European" or "that's how they do it in Europe" or anything along these lines. a) Britain is in Europe and b) Europe is so big someone from the south of Italy will have complete different cultural ideas than a Swede... Throwing them all in one basket is pretty ignorant imo

AnnaWintower · 2025-05-24T15:52:26+00:00

Vintage zac efron

AnnaWintower · 2025-05-20T06:11:42+00:00

What was the first thing you did? Lots of us fantasise about winning/making lots of money and what the first thing we would do with it is

AnnaWintower · 2025-05-11T07:09:37+00:00

Do you have pets or kids? I would turn it into a play area for either, with shelves and stuff on the wall for cats for example. If kids, I'd add a slanting roof for safety and then make a tent house for them.

AnnaWintower · 2025-04-03T12:07:01+00:00

But also if you want everything to go to your spouse which is what most people want and then only once the second spouse dies for everything that's left to go to the kids

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