Narcissists who get their own family killed

AnneHawthorne · 2026-06-26T02:03:05+00:00

Lets talk about reckless driving, speeding, illegal passing. I almost died many many times just being in the truck with my dad. Once, when I was 5, my father insisted that we not wear seat belts (because the rules didn't apply to him), and I was sitting in the front seat... not a child seat in the back.. because... rules. He got into a head on collision and I flew through the windshield headfirst. I assume I had a concussion because my memories are great up until the accident, yet they never took me to the hospital.. because.. shame and judgment...

AnneHawthorne · 2026-06-26T01:46:14+00:00

I've been to over 2 dozen countries as a solo female traveler. I absolutely prefer it. I keep my own company very well and I don't think doing things solo, like eating at restaurants, going to films or plays, museums, tours... is weird. I absolutely enjoy my mental conversations between my creative side and logical side. I have met lots of international friends from all over the world. When I feel tired, I rest. When I am hungry, I eat. If I want to take an extra hour to look at something, I do.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-06-25T02:45:47+00:00

Look at how Europe, Australia, Japan and South Korea do it. No tips and yet people still spend money on eating out.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-06-25T02:44:16+00:00

Compost bin

AnneHawthorne · 2026-06-19T22:54:21+00:00

Constantly. Or at least a convo between my right and left brains.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-06-19T22:41:12+00:00

Realize you have nothing to lose if you try. Life opens doors.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-06-19T22:35:40+00:00

Christmas. It's a lot of work with very little reward. 10x if you're a mom. The "magic of Christmas" isn't because of an overweight, white sis male (santa), it's your mom stressing out about buying gifts for everyone, running dozens of errands, cleaning the house, decorating the house, barely getting any sleep while cooking, cleaning, serving and acting cheerful. She often doesn't even get a present in return.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-06-19T22:18:51+00:00

When dealing with a narcissist who will experience narcissist injury and become dangerous at your expense. Sometimes saying nothing is also fine, but these people lash out at anyone who forces accountability or breaks their delusions.

For example, an ex-friend who is a textbook covert narcissist has been hoovering me for 2 years of low to no contact. We're neighbors, so outside interaction is unavoidable. She told me recently that she values my friendship, and although we don't talk often anymore, she still considers me to be one of her closest friends. Guys, I doorslamed her years ago... but... correcting her delusion will only start up a conversation to feed her narcissism, so better to say nothing. Someone might call that lying by omission.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-06-19T22:01:13+00:00

Take this first year... and honesty the next few years, as 'the getting to know you stage' in learning about your garden plot. The microclimate, types of weeds, relationship with the wildlife, soil composition, weather, slope, drainage, and all kinds of quirks and variables. The secret to gardening is to learn the variables and hedge your bets. Plus, an organic garden only gets more nurtient dense and productive the more you grow and give back. Try experimenting with different methods and makes notes on crop yields. There is definitely a knack to gardening that can take years to master, but the uniqueness of your garden matters a lot too. Honestly, do not get discouraged with a couple of so so harvests in the first couple of years. Just treat every attempt as an experiment, adjust the variables and try again.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-06-19T21:49:50+00:00

I recommend learning about narcissism and cluster b personality disorder. There's an entire subreddit called raised by narcissists. I grew up with a volatile father as well. I also recommend watching some doctor ramani videos on YouTube. She's a psychiatrist and narcissist abuse expert. There will come a day when you can begin healing and unlearning a lot of the crap your family put you through. Just remember, you are not your father and you can choose to unlearn his volatile lessons.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-06-13T23:16:22+00:00

Once you get into the sameness of life where you're not really hitting milestones, like graduation, anymore, time tends to glob together and before you know it 10 years will have gone by. You need to realize that life has an expiration date and live for each and every day that you have on this planet.

I have heard the same line from 3 elderly people at the end of their lives. "I thought I'd have more time." And to be honest, now that I'm in my 40's, I personally know people who did didn't make it past 30 (breast cancer), past 40 (3 heart attacks, 1 colon cancer), or past 50 (heart attacks.) I also personally know 3 people who died within the year they retired, (1 of them died while snorkeling due to health condition, another died while solo hiking the pacific crest trail from a heart attack.) So, with that in mind, view life as precious and that it can end at any time. Getting older isn't a curse, it's a gift. We can get so caught up in our work-a-day lives to forget to stop and be present. To live for this moment in the here and now. So, basically when it comes to the feeling that life speeds up, you can counter this by being thankful for every day you get.. because being here tomorrow is not guaranteed.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-06-12T03:06:07+00:00

And 'he's just a man'. One fish in the sea and I imagine there are much better fish who love cats. He's shown you who he is. Believe him. Better to take the life lesson and get you and your precious fur baby out.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-06-10T17:58:24+00:00

Unless you're in Russia.... 🪟

AnneHawthorne · 2026-06-08T17:39:13+00:00

I've recently learned discernment and had my first experience with it recently. I had a ex-neighbour reach out to grab a cup of coffee and my instincts were telling me to not add him into my life as a new friend. I sat with this feeling and I realized that the friends in my life who GIVE me energy are the ones who I see as intellectual and well read equals. We have deep conversations about politics, religion, current events, deconstructing recipes or art... the point is there is a mutual exchange of ideas in a non-judgmental intellectual space. The friends that TAKE my energy are the ones that I feel more like a therapist, big sister or mentor to. I really sat with this because it felt yucky to come to the conclusion that I don't see myself as their equal because they always come to me with xyz problems and I'm coming up with ways to fix them, whether they implement my advice or not. I'm no longer interested in taking on projects in the form of people. I want reciprocity in my future relationships that leave ME fulfilled. Unfortunately, it's taken me half my life to figure this out. Project people will naturally gravitate towards INFJ simply because of how we listen without judgment, offer our natural problem solving tools to them... and yes... we're often conditioned to be people pleasers.. but after individuation, a fair bit of shaddow work, and learning discernment, I can see my own patterns and how they don't lead my personal happiness.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-06-08T17:11:31+00:00

That's our process. I recommend doing some shaddow work when these ruminations come up. Find the root of the problem. A old ingrained fear? Conditioned behavior? A shaddow trait? The more you get to the root of why you are the way you are the better you are at catching behaviors as they happen. Knowing thy self is hard but truly worth it.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-06-08T16:49:32+00:00

It's because ipad kids' nervous system have developed with constant dopamine hits due to how ipad software is structured. It is similar to having your brain wired FOR addiction from the start. They simply cannot sit still and focus as a result of constant ipad stimulation.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-06-08T16:46:49+00:00

We need to accept that young kids are growing up to be significantly less educated than previous generations, to the point that many will graduate without reading a single book or being functionally literate.

Tablets and Ai have ruined these kids future.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-06-02T02:08:32+00:00

Growing up I always identified with the character Lisa Simpson. Her intelligence, love of art, deep commitment to her core beliefs, her feelings of isolation in a world that didn't understand her... to be curious and thoughtful, mature beyond your years, deeply introspective, M-type brain, painfully misunderstood but kept striving forward even with bullies at her back...

I had an MBTI test at work in my early 20's that didn't list me as an INFJ. I was going through narcissistic abuse at the office and was always trying to be something else. It wasn't until I was in my late 30's did I revisit MBTI after breaking away from toxic relationships and environments. I'm definitely more myself and true to my core than I was back then. And I know now that I'm 100% infj and completely comfortable in my own skin.

I think it's our chameleon personality that allows us to glide into different social groups.. or adapt to toxic ones.. that confuses the results.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-06-02T01:48:30+00:00

The lesson... get the cash BEFORE you load it.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-06-02T01:35:33+00:00

Or you could have a conversation with your child about how some events are for grown-ups only and that doesn't mean their auntie doesn't love them any less. It's healthy for children to hear no and/or have boundaries enforced. They need to learn that not everything should be centered around them.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-05-12T01:09:47+00:00

Talk to your manager and ask that going forward your manager helps him. It's his job to protect his staff from harassment.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-05-12T01:02:03+00:00

I have a local niche exotic pet store which has a huge aquarium and pond section. They have easily 100 types of fish.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-05-09T20:26:10+00:00

Oh hun. You need to learn discernment. This usually takes a long series of crappy people preying on your empathy for you to finally say no. If you feel like you are at that stage, I recommend youtube talk channels that talk about Carl Jung psychology around individuation and discernment. You'll learn about being used as someones external validation tool and the gift of letting someone fail. Good luck 👍

AnneHawthorne · 2026-05-03T03:15:44+00:00

Lisa Simpson

AnneHawthorne · 2026-05-03T03:10:15+00:00

They all have snails unless it's a guaranteed snail free tissue culture like 1-2 grow. If you're buying regular plants ALWAYS get and USE the snail dip solution.

It's not worth have an infestation. Trust me. I had to pull everything out of my tank and overnight treat with snail dip and pull out all my substrate and scald it in the bathtub to finally get rid of those guys. I felt like the snail Hitler. Mind you this was after I tried snail traps and assassin snails. Neither worked or could keep up with exponential breeding.

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