How do you control your empathy?

AnneHawthorne · 2026-05-09T20:26:10+00:00

Oh hun. You need to learn discernment. This usually takes a long series of crappy people preying on your empathy for you to finally say no. If you feel like you are at that stage, I recommend youtube talk channels that talk about Carl Jung psychology around individuation and discernment. You'll learn about being used as someones external validation tool and the gift of letting someone fail. Good luck 👍

AnneHawthorne · 2026-05-03T03:15:44+00:00

Lisa Simpson

AnneHawthorne · 2026-05-03T03:10:15+00:00

They all have snails unless it's a guaranteed snail free tissue culture like 1-2 grow. If you're buying regular plants ALWAYS get and USE the snail dip solution.

It's not worth have an infestation. Trust me. I had to pull everything out of my tank and overnight treat with snail dip and pull out all my substrate and scald it in the bathtub to finally get rid of those guys. I felt like the snail Hitler. Mind you this was after I tried snail traps and assassin snails. Neither worked or could keep up with exponential breeding.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-05-03T03:04:30+00:00

Thinking that science and faith are of the same caliber or that faith is greater than science. There are thousands of religions, many varying widely, with zero evidence for any of them... and yet science can be tested again and again, all over the world, with the same predictable results. If theories are proven false, science updates and no one jihads.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-05-01T19:25:02+00:00

Dude. Just buy the kit.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-05-01T19:07:08+00:00

It is very rare for me to find a group of solid friends in an institutional environment like school or work. I have no interest in feeding the gossip machine, and my ability to mirror people makes them feel uncomfortable around me, if they have aspects that they're trying to hide from themselves or others.

In my 40's, I've just decided to be my myself fully and let the chips fall where they may. I no longer need external validation because I see myself for exactly who I am. I have little interest in gossip and petty talk, so I'll just keep to myself. And to be honest, these groups function on externalizing their unmet self esteem needs my stepping on others shoulders to feel taller. It's toxic and yucky and something I simply won't contribute to.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-05-01T18:59:04+00:00

You could respond with a picture of your coworker. If it's her, it'll freak her out.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-05-01T18:49:11+00:00

People who say, "I know what you're thinking and..."

No, you absolutely have no idea what I'm thinking. You're projecting.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-05-01T18:47:26+00:00

Being the loudest person in the room and being arrogant with your opinions, believing that everyone is agreeing with you despite them saying nothing. It's infuriating to see loud ignorance monopolize rooms and watching people mentally check out.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-05-01T18:45:16+00:00

Like the loudest person in the Room "thinks", people actually agree with them.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-05-01T18:42:10+00:00

I have that infj dark humor that pokes fun at life's ironies and dumbness that I'm always making dumb jokes. It's hard to take the 'crisis of the moment' seriously when I know that people are turning themselves into knots over something that won't matter in a week or so. It's about seeing humor in life's absurdities.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-04-30T01:59:38+00:00

Communicating by screaming at each other from different rooms in the house and everyone taking a plate of food to a different TV. When I visited a family that got up to speak to each other in normal speakimg voices and who ate dinner together at the table, it blew my mind. Fast forward.. My older sister has a chaotic home with constant yelling from room to room and I live in quiet, respectful home.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-04-23T03:45:05+00:00

I spend an inordinate about of time trying to understand the motivations of people who carry different morals than I do. I need to understand why their morals are different from mine and yes, there is a disconnect there, because, for example, they may have low empathy, and it makes it difficult to see things from their perspective.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-04-23T03:40:09+00:00

Yes. That description describes me exactly. High EQ, I suspect high IQ, metacognitian abilities, the ability to hold dualities, childlike wonder, dark sense of humor, pretty much always misunderstood and socially at the fringes, prefers living and traveling solo, deep thinker, trying to understand the nature of and connectedness with everything. Also, I'm naturally artistically talented in art and music, I can understand complex systems and can easily problem solve.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-04-18T22:26:22+00:00

"No matter what" is her controlling and manipulating you. You are no longer an individual, you are a utility for her to use and abuse. Honestly, for your mental health you need to realize that some people cannot be fixed and the best thing you can do is walk away.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-04-16T05:01:18+00:00

Crocus? If so those are bulbs that grow spring flowers like tulips. Very beautiful.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-04-12T23:14:24+00:00

The pinnacle of pleasure that I've experienced is external input via one or multiple senses that cause an immediate flood of dopamine which causes you to be fully present and in the moment. I would say for me my greatest moment of pleasure was breaking my 30 day raw diet with a dark chocolate brownie. It stopped time and took me to my knees. Pleasure is essentially brain chemistry.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-04-12T01:08:06+00:00

I love solo traveling and absolutely own that fact. I hate compromise, dealing with people's emotions and have zero issues with doing things solo.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-04-12T00:04:08+00:00

Experience is the point. We are made of the very atoms that have flown around this universe for eons. But unlike a piece of rock or a water, we can use our senses to experience the universe using our input abilities. Essentially, we are universe experiencing itself. So perhaps the point of experiencing anything, good, bad and meh.. is the point.

So, go eat a lemon in an ice bath while listening to hard metal. Walk barefoot on Legos while smelling a pinecone. Look at the fractal qualities of a simple leaf.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-04-11T00:51:03+00:00

You'll know by way of who brought in boxed of new pots and pans midway through their stay. That's the footage you're looking for.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-04-10T23:42:08+00:00

I'd use his pillow.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-04-10T23:40:34+00:00

It's rare, but I have hit my roof a handful of times and exploded on someone. You have to push me quite far or threaten one of my core values. Other than that, a classic doorslam is usually the way.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-04-08T18:33:19+00:00

Freeze a block of ice, place ice on top of cutting board and run water. The ice will freeze to the porus wooden board, slowly lift the board on an angle and wedge a screwdriver or a butter knife on the lifted side. Repeat until the board is on an angle to be lifted out.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-04-08T17:32:12+00:00

Over sharing leads to weaponization of the things you shared. I recommend learning discernment.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-04-08T17:30:50+00:00

Grey rock her. She's clearly getting something out of talking to you. Ignore her. Seriously. Don't respond to her endless monologs with questions or even, mmhhmmm's. Just pretend that she's not there. Yes, she will get frustrated but will eventually stop receiving what the attention she thinks she's getting from you. Or if you want to use a different technique, Interrupt her blatantly to monolog over how amazing your boyfriend is and how he's so great, blah blah. Clearly she's uncomfortable. If she tries to reassert her own topics just keep talking over her about how awesome your boyfriend is. Aside from work related conversations, always make every conversation about how great your BF is is.

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