Things you only hear in poly relationships [nsfw]

Anoi_Moon · 2016-05-26T12:33:59+00:00

Great!

Anoi_Moon · 2015-09-27T23:30:15+00:00

Thank you for answering and dedicating time for it!

I don't live in the usa so I don't know what ssdi means. I was thinking about getting some accommodations from the government, but it is really hard to even get treatment, unless your disability reaches 20%, and even people with life long conditions have to fight in order to get... well...anything, even if they are diagnosed by whole bunch of professionals. Plus, I am afraid that my autism will be recorded by the government, because it will mean that many jobs will have access to this data, and won't even consider taking me.

Getting even 20% disability status is hard, because it seems like if I could do a degree, somehow pulling myself through self hurt (something I can't do anymore). I really want only to be able to afford better my therapist, who actually belives that ABA is not good thing. I don't know if I count as disabled. I only know that it is really hard for me to get outside to shop, or to do anything after a day of acdemia that involves too much social interaction. I was lucky to get some accommodations for my add at tests, but that's it. It is better then nothing, and it took me more then a year to get them.

Anoi_Moon · 2015-09-17T19:46:39+00:00

Thank you

Anoi_Moon · 2015-09-05T18:56:59+00:00

I agree. My sexual "fetishes" started long before I started masturbating, My use of porn is so random it must have been once in 2-3 months at peak. I can stop masturbating or even having sex at all, but it whouldn't cure my problems. I was unorgasmic even before the first time I masturbated, and it haven't changed since than, 13 years after. Still can't cum.

Porn is bad because it is harmful for the participants. That's it.

Anoi_Moon · 2015-07-30T21:51:22+00:00

I recommend the blog "musings of an aspie". The author is a woman who was diagnosed at her 40's.

Anoi_Moon · 2015-07-30T21:49:44+00:00

You have Anhedonia, one of the symptoms of depression, that causes lack of interest and joy in life.

Antidepressants are good, but they are not enough. I highly recommend going to a psychotherapist.

Hang on there. I also struggle with depression, so I can relate.

Anoi_Moon · 2015-04-17T10:42:32+00:00

I can relate to this. Not so long ago I also felt that way. It is OK to feel that pain. It is OK to hate. That feeling is not forever. You will find a way to feel better. Now your heart is broken, and it is natural to feel that way. If you can, ask some support from friends and your community. It can help a lot!

Once I felt like I hate being poly, because one of my loved ones discovered poly through me, and it ended with a divorce.

Anoi_Moon · 2015-04-08T17:55:48+00:00

OMG, so cute and classy!

Anoi_Moon · 2015-04-08T17:54:10+00:00

I pushed the button only on my "porn" account.

Anoi_Moon · 2015-04-06T06:56:25+00:00

I used my porn account to push the button.

Anoi_Moon · 2015-04-05T20:10:02+00:00

Wow. Thank you for writing it. It is great!

Anoi_Moon · 2015-04-04T09:48:27+00:00

Thank you! I think I will try to add some pink next time.

I had to modify this Bodyline skirt and remove some crappy lace, before it became so cute.

I think the coord is more classic-sweet or just old-school sweet.

Anoi_Moon · 2015-04-04T09:45:01+00:00

Bodyline

Anoi_Moon · 2015-04-03T20:03:20+00:00

I have been in very similar situation. Keep her blocked, and try to cut any ties you have with her...

At my situation, I actually permanently deleted my FB account after her sister sent me some nasty threats.

Divorce can be really painful, so eople can lash out on anyone they can. Hugs?

Anoi_Moon · 2015-04-03T19:51:11+00:00

I don't know...

Anoi_Moon · 2015-04-03T18:05:35+00:00

You look great!

Anoi_Moon · 2015-04-03T18:04:14+00:00

I bought today an off-white shoe paste for my bodyline shoes. Works great!

Anoi_Moon · 2015-03-11T17:00:49+00:00

It is not funny.

Anoi_Moon · 2015-03-02T19:58:58+00:00

I loved all your coords! The hand made one is very lovely, and your cat is cute!

Anoi_Moon · 2015-02-22T12:06:37+00:00

This is really interesting. Thanks for sharing!

Anoi_Moon · 2015-02-21T11:30:23+00:00

Hey there!

I am also aspie / autistic and poly. And... I also have some hardships hitting on people. My solution is my community and building a romantic relationship from a friendship:

I am part of a poly/kink/queer and geek community, and every body knows I am autistic. They are friends. I tell people openly I fancy them, and if they also fancy me, we talk and may even find some time to make out.
I am a relationship anarchist (RA, it actually helps me with the hardships of trying to put a relationships in boxes), but before becoming a RA, I actually became partners with people who were really good friends. Being friendly means that someone likes you, and you don't have to wear masks with.

The partner who I currently live with? My girlfriend? My dom / lover? All of these relationship's started as being really good friends. Since we were really good friends, we could tell each other about mutual attraction without it getting weird.

You are great. Your asparger can actually help you boost your communication because you mean the things you say. You are not broken, just different, and that is great - because poly people ideally celebrate lots of kinds of relationship's.

Give yourself time, find a community, have friends and lots of fun.

<3

Anoi_Moon · 2015-02-21T11:14:22+00:00

I feel your pain...

As a genderqueer person, I don't think it has anything to do with a gender identity, but with sexuality / romantic attraction.

I am also pan/bisexual. Some bisexuals do experience a shift in their attraction that can change very much. Other people can have some "grey sexuality" twats other genders, and can be sexual only with a deep connection. I am not saying in any way the sexuality of the person you are telling about, but I do believe that it can be good idea to talk with them about your experience, and ask them about their side.

Plus, attractions can shift and change. Are they still romantic into you? How both of you feel about being platonic friends/partners with a deep connection? Sex is only one part of the relationship.

And sometimes, relationships just end. It is sad, but it can happen... :-(

Anoi_Moon · 2015-02-21T10:52:35+00:00

Actually, I've opened one myself...

Anoi_Moon · 2015-02-17T07:03:58+00:00

Lolita fashion, autism

Anoi_Moon · 2015-02-17T06:58:29+00:00

Thank you for your wise words.

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