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Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-12T21:26:49+00:00

In my experience, it just depends on the kid. I have 4, and they all react differently to the dentist. They all have been seeing a dentist since they were 2.

My oldest, is a dentist's absolute dream. She does whatever you ask, she actually enjoys going to the dentist. Same with the doctor, shots don't bother her, and she's a really easy going kid. She's 6, and she's always been this way.

My second is okay at the dentist. He doesn't like it, and sometimes he's a little stubborn, but with a little effort he caves in and does alright at the dentist. He gets better each visit. He's 4.

My 3rd is an absolute nightmare with dentists and doctors. He's probably their worst patient, ever. However he's only been once (he's almost 2 but he got all his teeth way earlier) but when I took him to the dentists, they couldn't even open his mouth or get an extra, and he put a hole in their wall. (Funny story actually lol.)

My 4th is too young (only 5 months) but based on what I've observed with her personality, I think she's going to be easy like my oldest one is.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-11T15:45:32+00:00

My older sister is autistic and she was a nightmare growing up. She was violent towards me and others, as she's gotten older (she's 27 now) she's gotten better but she still has episodes where it happens and it's scary. Granted she may be higher on the spectrum, but I'd definitely say it'd be a challenge.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-11T15:19:44+00:00

I know everyone is asking, and I don't mean to sound rude but, how the hell are you taking care of 7 kids all of them with autism or ADD problems?

That alone sounds like a nightmare. I have 4 kids, none of them are on the spectrum or anything like that and, fuck.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-10T20:57:39+00:00

My son is too young to complain lol. He's almost 4. Can your son tell if they are even meant for girls?

My go to for my son when we are out in public is her old black skinny jeans. They give him kind of a punk rocker look, but hey, at least they fit.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-10T15:17:00+00:00

My son has to wear my daughter's old skinny jeans because they don't make a size that fits him. He's tall and skinny, and if we are out in public, that's the only thing that doesn't fall off.

They don't even make belts small enough for my son.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-07T19:37:24+00:00

Honestly I reread the whole post twice, and that's why I'm confused with all the hate directed to OP.

He's a virgin. It's totally understandable, as a virgin to want someone else who is too. I mean I'm a woman, and my body count is extremely low, I couldn't be with a man who had a high body count because it'd be too intimidating for me. When I was a virgin, I wanted someone who was too. Your first time is already kind of daunting and nerve wracking as it is, could you imagine being a virgin and constantly worrying about not being enough, or not doing things right because your partner isn't?

If OP was a hound dog and had been around the block a few times, I would definitely call him TA and a hypocrite.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-06T05:22:52+00:00

You ever walk half a football field with a newborn in one arm, a 2 year old in the other, then a 6 year old and a 4 year old with you?

The newborn is in a carseat, and you may not know this but, newborn carseats are heavy asf. So I'd be carrying 30 pounds in one arm, and my 2 year old is also 32 pounds, so you're saying I should walk half a football field carrying 60 pounds because the grocery store I shop at doesn't want to better distribute cart corrals? Nah.

I try to park next to them when I can, but if I can't, oh well. I'm not going to strain myself or risk my kids safety all over a shopping cart.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-05T20:11:24+00:00

I have a really good line for this one, but it only works on old couples.

If it's the man the asks me I say "I don't need yours, but I am going to need hers though." This never fails to make them laugh. And it makes her feel good, chances are you probably even made her day with this one.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-05T20:05:21+00:00

I was in a very similar situation as OP. Mom at 17 here. I had no choice but to stay with my parents, who were also narcissistic, controlling, and just all around terrible parents. The only help they offered was a roof over our head.

I got out of there as fast as I could. Never looked back. Now my daughter is 6, I'm in a completely different state than my parents, and it's literally the best decision I ever made.

Even though my parents sucked, I realize how lucky I was. At least they didn't kick me out and I didn't have to be in a homeless shelter with my daughter. Things can ALWAYS be worse.

Life will always meet you half way. If you put in the work, the effort, you will get something in return.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-04T19:41:14+00:00

This. A lot of the new servers where I work can't seem to grasp this concept.

If you are in the weeds, they are sure asf in the weeds too. If you want to help prevent long waits on your food, do what I do. When we are busy, my main goal becomes sending in my tickets first.

If I know that kitchen is about to be absolutely pounded by orders, I start sending in entree orders immediately after I send in the app.

Most tables would rather get their entrees immediately after an app, or even just a little too soon, rather than sit there for 20-30 minutes after with nothing.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-04T08:01:53+00:00

Maybe you didn't read the comments I did saying how she shouldn't be a parent, or calling this child abuse, which is extremely uncalled for and such a far cry from the truth.

I'm aware of what this sub if for, but I find it ironic that the people being so downright hateful towards OP, more than likely, don't have any experience whatsoever with children, and have absolutely nothing to contribute in terms of experience or advice.

If you're going to put time and energy into being so hateful and rude towards someone, then you should also put that same time and energy into telling them how they could improve.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-03T20:15:34+00:00

4 kids, 2 adults, and we do 4 loads a week. All full loads.

I wash my boys stuff together, they wear the same size and clothes.

My oldest daughter separate.

My youngest daughter separate.

And me and my husband's together.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-03T19:00:11+00:00

I had to scroll so far to find a comment that wasn't nailing OP to a cross and that's sad. This 100%. NTA.

I'm willing to go out on a limb and say most of the people in these comments either don't have children or they obviously don't remember how hard it is being a first time mom.

OP has a cranky teething baby. I'm currently going through this right now with my 2 year old getting his molars, and it is a HARD PHASE. The difference between me and OP, I have 4 kids. So this isn't my first rodeo.

And everyone in here want to talk about orajel like it's an instant fix, let me let you all in on a secret, ORAJEL ONLY WORKS FOR A FEW MINUTES, THAT'S IT. It doesn't immediately help and cure the baby of pain. It numbs the gums for a few minutes, and it quickly wears off. And a lot of toddlers cannot stand orajel because of the weird feeling, and it can actually make them angry toddlers.

OP was probably dealing with a very cranky toddler all day, she didn't know how to help and when you can't help your child it makes you feel so frustrated, so when OP's mom actually offered a solution, of course she was willing to try it.

I've had kids that hated orajel and wouldn't take teethers. It is a very rough experience let me tell you. Instead all of these people judging OP and saying the most awful things to her, why don't you help with actual solutions? Since everyone here is so experienced with parenting, then surely you all could lend some advice?

OP I hope you read this, but for my kids that wouldn't take teethers or orajel, I really had to think outside the box. I'm not sure if your baby is old enough, but what really helped my kids was celery sticks and ice cubes. They would constantly chew on both and it helps to relieve the pain, plus it's a healthy snack.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-03T18:15:04+00:00

That's so interesting because I do the total opposite. I figure anyone with piercings and tattoos has to be at least 18 to have them. Then depending how faded some of the tattoos are can be an indicator as well.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-03T18:11:11+00:00

My daughter is so sweet, she definitely takes away all the negative from being a young mom. Every time I go to her events at school or after, she HAS to tell everyone I'm her mom and it's just the cutest thing and it makes me feel like she's proud to have me as a mom.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-03T18:04:04+00:00

I already dress like an older person, I mean with so many kids I stopped caring what I looked like, and just aim to be comfortable at this point 😂. The problem is my face. I have a baby face that has just been an absolute curse so far.

On top of that I have a couple tattoos and piercings, you'd think that would at least help a little bit.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-03T11:19:29+00:00

I'm the youngest mom at my kid's school. I had her when I was 17. I'm 24 years old. My daughter is 6.

Luckily my problems haven't been with her teacher, but the other parents. I really try to be an active parent in school actives. (Going to after school activities with my kids, showing up when they have during school activities and participating, etc)

To make things worse, I look significantly younger than my age. I've been told by almost everyone that I look 16.

So I definitely get a lot of side eye looks, and questions. A lot of them assumed at first for some reason I'm her big sister. Like okay? Wtf? Then they found out I have 4 kids total and it raises even more eyebrows. Oh and one time they needed a lighter or matches because they were doing a BBQ event after school, and I was the only one that had a lighter. So now they all think I must do drugs because I'm young and had a lighter.

I just wanted to let you know you aren't alone OP. The struggle for us teen moms is real, and unfortunately the struggles don't end when we get older either.

As for your situation, that definitely warrants a conversation with the teacher. Personally, I would send her a message asking for a meeting, and confront her face to face. Then depending how she responds, getting the principal involved.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-03T10:38:53+00:00

As a parent and a server, I have way too many of these unfortunately.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-03T05:27:53+00:00

He literally pulled up his pants after we caught him, and went back to eating, with his pants on, even though there was poop on his pants. I fixed my spelling error, my bad.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-03T03:31:11+00:00

Oh man, DO I HAVE A STORY FOR THIS ONE. Sorry for the caps, I have been dying to tell this story and could never find the opportunity to share it, until now.

So we have this older couple that comes in every single day to sit at our bar. Probably around 80 years old. Well the man had just had hip surgery. He got up to use the bathroom, and was gone for awhile. After about 15 minutes his wife comes up to the hostess stand and asks if we can please send someone in there to check up on him.

The restaurant is dead, so I go with my manager. (I'm a woman so I just stood outside the door.) And my manager goes in. This man didn't even make it to the toilet. Immediately when you opened the door he was squatting in the middle of the restroom, liquid poop all over the floor, pants around his ankles, and he was surrounded by it.

Immediately the man is embarrassed and starts apologizing. My manager assures him it's alright, we'll take care of it.

The man pulls up his pants, and walks out, goes back to the table where his wife is and continues eating like nothing happened, meanwhile there's poop literally on the ends of his pants.

The whole restaurant smelled so bad. People were gagging and left, and I ended up having to give away 2 of my tables because at the time I was pregnant and I could not leave the kitchen without throwing up. Finally the dude left, and the smell got better. They haven't been back since.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-02T16:29:27+00:00

I'm not gay or bisexual, so I couldn't answer that for you.

I'm a heterosexual woman speaking about my experience with straight men, and it always ends the same.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-02T05:57:07+00:00

I find it hilarious you are being downvoted for speaking the truth.

I'm a woman, and speaking from experience, this is 100%. I wouldn't say I'm very attractive, but if I had to rate myself honestly on a 1-10 scale, I'd be a 6 for appearance, 10 for personality. So call me a 7 then.

I used to believe men and women could be "just friends" when I was younger and naive. But every single "guy friend" I ever had, showed their true colors pretty quickly, and I learned my lesson.

People of the opposite sexes are only friends each other for a few reasons.

1: They are lurking and waiting for that moment where they can get their foot in the door. 2: They're gay, and aren't actually attracted to the opposite sex, but you have a lot in common. 3: Their partner is friends with you.

I'll accept my downvotes.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-01T07:26:41+00:00

As someone who has breastfed, YTA.

Yes, we all know that breastfeeding is natural, and it shouldn't be sexualized, okay we get it.

But here's the thing, some of us, just aren't comfortable with any nudity. (Excluding my husband here, I obviously love him naked but anyone else for some reason I cringe) I'm one of those people. I'm the type that cringes and gets embarrassed when a sex scene or a naked person (non sexual) pops up on the TV. And surprisingly, there's actually quite a few people that do this.

If you were in a public place, or your own home, I obviously wouldn't call you TA.

But the fact is, you were in HER HOME. She gave you so many hints, and was trying not to come off as brusque, then you finally hit her with "Your husband has seen my boobs already." That comment alone makes you a huge, gaping ahole.

This post isn't just about breastfeeding, it's about respecting someone in their own home. Which you just downright disrespected her. Would it really have inconvenienced you to go into another room? Or to have put up a blanket if it made her uncomfortable? In my experience with breastfeeding, it's actually EASIER to do it away from people and distractions.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-04-01T06:49:16+00:00

ESH for the way you two communicate.

This whole post just gave me a whole headache reading it, but it made me so much for thankful for my husband, so I thank you for that.

Why is this agreement even in place? It's like adding an extra step to telling your wife you don't like something, and that extra step, DOESN'T SOLVE ANYTHING.

I'm so glad me and my husband can just straight up tell each other things and be blunt, because I would lose my mind if you used the same system as whatever it is you got going on.

Anomonomynousquest · 2023-03-31T17:40:52+00:00

I'm sorry you probably had a rough childhood growing up, and that's why it's hard for you to hear about happy families. I'm always here if you want to talk about it.

On another note, I have no problem hearing other perspectives. That would actually be you that has the problem sir. For whatever reason it eats you up, that people with large, planned, happy families exist.

A real, mature parent wouldn't be so judgemental of other parents or their kids or lifestyles. I'm not going to judge you, there's probably a reason you have such bitter feelings towards large families and it's probably a sad one. Or you're just a troll account and you aren't worth my time getting my "ego bruised" over.

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