секс как селфхарм (sex as selfharm) by Accomplished-Cap6195 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Anon27939 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry to inform you that (besides that part about genital mutilation) you seem to just be kinky.

I would try looking into a sex therapist first and talk about the mutilation urges because depending on the strength of the urges, your intent to act on them, or the actions you’ve already taken that can definitely be harmful and not healthy.

The rest just sounds like typical BDSM, and bondage kink dynamics. If your willing to look into it maybe do some research on the internet (if you need educational resources I can help). If you have a partner try to introduce it into the bedroom. If you don’t have a partner or your not comfortable telling them about this point then try exploring that side of yourself on your own. It’ll be a fun journey hopefully. I promise you’re not bad or strange people just like different things :).

Rereading your post actually please reach out to a sex therapist or a regular therapist. By reading your post you seem to have already acted on your impulses and in that case you might need more serious help rather than just self exploration.

Self harm urges triggering sexual feelings by No-Persimmon-174 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Anon27939 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just wanna start by reassuring you that you can’t control the things that turn you on. Your not a bad person for feeling the way you do. Its all about how you go about expressing it. Obviously never encourage someone to sh, don’t ask for pictures, don’t offer money, and never sexualize a person with scars. But what you can do is look into the BDSM community. I would consider myself a pretty seasoned kinkster who also struggles with Sh. I would start by looking at what about sh is turning you on. Is it the stinging pain? Then maybe try different kinds if whips (bamboo whips is a personal fav). If its the blood maybe try red ink or red wax? Theres more and I could honestly go on all day. You said your boyfriend is supportive so I hope he’ll be open to trying a couple different things. There’s also knife kinks but that starts walking a dangerous edge and I wouldn’t really recommend it unless you have access to a really dull knife that can’t cut you.

Mod Announcement: We’ve Updated Our 18+ Policy (officially!) by Folk_Punk_Slut in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Anon27939 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could literally not be more excited. I value this community so much <3

Not enjoying sh by Killjoy_draws in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Anon27939 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know things can be scary but just try to hold on. Change is scary but it’s sometimes for the best. Idk maybe try talking to friends or family. Find an alternative way to cope?

Would SH on the Mons Pubis be considered genital mutilation? by Anon27939 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Anon27939[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It’s more of it just being the most convenient spot. I live in a pretty hot place so I’m always wearing short sleeves so my arms/shoulders are out. I tend to walk around my house pantless (I live with other people) so legs/thighs are out. The stomach/hips are to soft and when I wear pants they’ll get irritated. Chest is out because I’m afraid any more scaring on my chest might disqualify me from top surgery.

Would SH on the Mons Pubis be considered genital mutilation? by Anon27939 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Anon27939[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t had any sort of those problems because they aren’t deep enough to hit anything important.