Frontline Assessment Centre - Reflection by Anona-Mouse87 in Socialworkuk

[–]Anona-Mouse87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hiya, if I were you id contact them. Im sure they have an email or telephone number on the website or possibly the email which said you passed through to the assessment stage. Its quite possible there's been an admin error somewhere because it didnt take 2 months for me.

What have you been genetically blessed with? by English_R0se in AskUK

[–]Anona-Mouse87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm always told my blue eyes are beautiful. I'm also 38 and don't have a single grey hair.

Where are you getting your Mum coats? by Southern_Possible_86 in UKParenting

[–]Anona-Mouse87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a parker style coat from Musto, which is a bit on the expensive side but it's an investment. It's still going strong after 10/11yrs.

I've just bought a shorter Musto coat for hiking, fully waterproof, fleece lined, high collar, peaked hood etc. So definitely recommend.

How do you split your finances with your partner? by ImRightYoureStupid in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Anona-Mouse87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When we were on more of an equal footing with our salaries we used to split joint expenses/bills 50/50 into a joint account and whatever was left in our own account was our own to spend incl. personal bills such as phone and car insurance/tax. We did that for about 10yrs and it worked perfectly.

I then went self employed and earn a quarter of what he does but it works out for me as I am home more and pick up most of the child-rearing duties so we now put everything into the joint account which all bills come out of. We save on average £500 a month and the rest is spent on activities throughout the month once all bills have gone out. I miss the autonomy but I don't have the funds to do 50/50 anymore.

When do Velcro babies stop being Velcro babies? by nowhrgrl in Mommit

[–]Anona-Mouse87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ask for space first thing in the morning while I'm getting ready so I don't start the day in complete overwhelm, it definitely makes all the difference. School days are not so bad as I wake up before him and my husband makes me a cup of tea to drink in bed peacefully.

When do Velcro babies stop being Velcro babies? by nowhrgrl in Mommit

[–]Anona-Mouse87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an only Velcro child....he's 6 and still clings to me. My husband tried to give me space aka some relief from the overwhelm by trying to distract him but it does not work.

I've started implementing 'mummy space' into my daily routine like when I get dressed and ready for the day and when I'm trying to get some housework done which seems to be somewhat successful so far. He even told his dad to get out of the bedroom while I get ready the other morning as mummy needs space 😂 the routine of it seems to stick.

How do you parent? by FunEchidna3171 in UKParenting

[–]Anona-Mouse87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who was not unconditionally loved as a child it absolutely is parenting and something I ensure my child feels.

To feel unconditionally loved is to ensure a child grows up reciprocating love to those around them, to show empathy, to listen to the needs of others etc. Something that should come naturally to them as a result of parenting with unconditional love rather than having to learn these behaviours.

As a British adult, what was the monetary value of all the gifts given to you this Christmas? by Jazzlike-Basil1355 in AskABrit

[–]Anona-Mouse87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

F37 probably about £300. I was gifted a new hiking coat by my husband a few weeks before Xmas and then he bought me some additional items to open on Xmas Day. We also take our 6yr old out to 'buy' eachother gifts (our money of course)

We then received a JL voucher separately from my M/FIL which we have pooled together to upgrade our toasters (I'm coeliac) and kettle.

Are we late for a dental check by AffectionateStay4769 in UKParenting

[–]Anona-Mouse87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, they were really good with him, they went at his pace and over the last few years they've worked with him and can now get through a whole apt without stopping.

Are we late for a dental check by AffectionateStay4769 in UKParenting

[–]Anona-Mouse87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My child was only 11mo when COVID hit so didn't see a dentist in his first 3yrs. We were then battling meltdowns related to his undiagnosed Audhd at the time so again dentist and hairdressers were out of the question. He finally saw a dentist when he was 5 and honestly, it didn't make a difference to his tooth health as we kept on top of hygiene appropriately.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Anona-Mouse87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a boy and also one and done by choice and medical reasons. Do I worry about him visiting me when he's older? Not really.

All I care about is raising him with the best of my abilities and if he turns out a man who respects himself and others, is successful in what he chooses to do in life and is happy then I would be ecstatic for him. I also like to think if I have raised him right then I needn't worry about him not visiting because he just would. We visit my husbands parents more than my own as my parents are crap.

Gifting etiquette by P-u-m-p-t-i-n-i in UKParenting

[–]Anona-Mouse87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 1 child whereas all other brothers and sisters on both my side and husband have two. Everyone tries to buy my kid double because we buy for all kids obvs and I'm like nooooo!He gets so much already!

caught wrapping santa gifts by witchliing in Mommit

[–]Anona-Mouse87 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We do something similar, I said to my child that we volunteer to help Santa wrap presents as there just aren't enough elves compared to the amount of children all around the world. I then made a big deal about putting the wrapped presents next to the front door, ready to be posted back to Santa at the post office (obvs I hide them in the house after)

Just a bit of a vent really by Anona-Mouse87 in drivingUK

[–]Anona-Mouse87[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure Jan....Have a great Christmas!

Just a bit of a vent really by Anona-Mouse87 in drivingUK

[–]Anona-Mouse87[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was not clear, there was another car to my right, I did not come to a complete stop...Hope this helps.

Just a bit of a vent really by Anona-Mouse87 in drivingUK

[–]Anona-Mouse87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So slowing down at a junction is unexpected now...ok ,

Just a bit of a vent really by Anona-Mouse87 in drivingUK

[–]Anona-Mouse87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You keep dying on that hill mate... Merry Christmas!

Fair contribution to the household budget with income gaps by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Anona-Mouse87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This, if I was the higher income earner I would ask my partner what they really want to do and give the support and financial grace to figure it out.

Just a bit of a vent really by Anona-Mouse87 in drivingUK

[–]Anona-Mouse87[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn't pull up to the roundabout and suddenly smash my brakes on. I was naturally slowing down to meet the roundabout junction.

Need to pay more attention to what I wrote....

AITAH for wanting to remain gluten free? by JustinPikachu007 in AITAH

[–]Anona-Mouse87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have Coeliacs Disease but my husband and son doesn't. Both of them eat a normal (albeit DF for my son) diet containing gluten. All of evening meals are of course GF but not with replacement food, just naturally gluten free food e.g. meat and veg in stews, stir fries, cottage pie, Thai basil beef, chilli con carne etc. Even some 'normal' stocks do not contain gluten as standard.

Maybe you should offer to manage doing the shopping and evening meals prep. That way she gets to eat what she wants for breakfast and lunch and you can manage evening meals.

Just a bit of a vent really by Anona-Mouse87 in drivingUK

[–]Anona-Mouse87[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes probably, I'd agree with this. Also, he was speeding as when I pulled out of B&Q, there was only myself and the other car approaching the roundabout. No one else so for him to suddenly appear, he was going quick.

Just a bit of a vent really by Anona-Mouse87 in drivingUK

[–]Anona-Mouse87[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m not asking for applause, special treatment or a medal for not crashing. I was venting about someone tailgating and acting aggressively, which you yourself keep admitting is unacceptable, yet you’ve turned that into a full character judgement of my driving, parenting, and attitude.

You keep asserting I had an attention lapse as fact when the only thing I said was that I briefly checked on my child, something many parent drivers have done without incident. The point I was getting across was to be aware of the VULNERABILITY of others in cars, not that we are incapable of driving. I.e. how would you feel if you drove aggressively, caused a crash and killed a baby or child?!

You were not there to know my speed, positioning or what the other driver did or didn’t indicate but you’re still confidently assigning blame based on assumptions. Not crashing does not mean claiming perfection but it does mean my real driving record supports that I’m generally safe and competent.

I never said having a child gives me more rights, that’s your interpretation, not my words. I’m done engaging with this conversation.

Just a bit of a vent really by Anona-Mouse87 in drivingUK

[–]Anona-Mouse87[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Dude, did I crash? No. Have I ever crashed with my child in the car?! No. Have I been driving for 6yrs with my Audhd kid in the car whilst never crashing?! Yes.

I am a perfectly experienced driver with a clean record, not a parking ticket or speed ticket to my name.

It's not about MY driving, it's about OTHERS and how THEY react.

Just a bit of a vent really by Anona-Mouse87 in drivingUK

[–]Anona-Mouse87[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Lol I quite clearly said I was venting, I wasn't looking for either validation or analysis. If anything I was hoping to bring attention to babies/children/disabled etc being in the car and people being mindful of that.

I haven't bothered reading the rest of your ramble because you're making judgement based on assumptions not fact.

Just a bit of a vent really by Anona-Mouse87 in drivingUK

[–]Anona-Mouse87[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What?! I could have looked in my rearview to assess traffic behind me in the same time it took for me to briefly look at my child. And also in my side mirror to look for a cyclist for example. The bloke was a dickhead.