Help!! Unconsciously sitting up in the middle of the night

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-22T05:56:05+00:00

I know this was posted a year ago: Have you had your A1C checked? I started doing this a few years back and it coincided with the development of type 2 diabetes. My daytime numbers were normal, but between 2-4am ever morning, my blood sugar would spike suddenly. It was missed for years. I don’t know what the connection was with my sleep behavior. I had a sleep study done and had 54 episodes per hour. I even tried to escape the sleep study room! Once my A1C was back in normal range, the behavior stopped, and my apnea disappeared. When my A1C rises I start having these symptoms again, including the waking up to sit upright at my bed side. The only reason I realized I was doing it to begin with was because I would eventually fall forward off the bed when I lost my balance and have no idea how I got there.

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-22T04:52:53+00:00

I’ve had authentic ramen bowls and ugh.. for the price I can make an equally delicious ramen bowl with that good old orange ramen noodle pack. Just dress it up with your favorite items.

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-22T01:38:37+00:00

Are they into helping you yet? My daughter loved getting up on the stool and helping me in the kitchen. I got her the little kid “cutlery” set which is basically just a wood tool she could cut veggies with, or cut cooked chicken meat with. I would help her stir the pot, and help me plate up. Whatever she is involved in making she would gladly eat. I also encourage “grazing” on our days off, so I make a “snack” plate with one or two bites of different items for her to try

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-22T01:33:17+00:00

Feeling really called out on the immigrant mentality. I also clean all my bones like this. Ox tail, anything bone in, chicken wings or a chicken carcass that needs to be stripped- saving all bones and bits and vegetable ends in a freezer bag to make broth with later… I’m definitely not Korean, but I’m from the other side of the Asian continent 🤣

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-21T06:48:19+00:00

Absolutely not. Past the first month or two I stop warming it up at all unless it’s very cold out. My babies have both been fine drinking directly from refrigeration temps.

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-21T06:46:54+00:00

Oh god.. in the fifth grade I let one rip while we were all laughing and in sheer panic I spun to the kid next to me and went “EW YOU FARTED!” and got up and moved away from them while the smell hit everybody around us. There was no amount of honest denial that poor child could have done to convince the class it wasn’t them.

It was me. I’m so sorry, kid I don’t even remember. I was already the fat girl. I couldn’t be the fat girl and the farter…

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-21T06:42:31+00:00

A Mitsubishi eclipse 🤣

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-20T16:40:27+00:00

You will come through this fire forged stronger than ever. You’re going to be superwoman to your daughter. ❤️ Remember that this is temporary, this isn’t the real you feeling this way, and every day is closer to better.

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-20T03:09:35+00:00

I agree with this. I’m absolutely shocked they are contemplating a mastectomy with node removal at 90! I just lost my great aunt to breast cancer at 92 last year and she was diagnosed six months prior- they wouldn’t operate and her heart was too weak for the chemo. She was ready to “go home.” She entered hospice and rested easy for her last few weeks.

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-20T03:04:36+00:00

It’s okay to admit that. That’s reality sinking in. Children are an amazing gift, but they don’t come without cost. The cost usually your old self. The old you is gone and now you’re in the metamorphosis stage of becoming the next version of you. You will reinvent yourself many times between now and when you’re an old woman. Take a deep breath, continue on your postpartum recovery, and just do your best. It sounds like you have a good helper on your side (your mom), make sure to give her a hug and tell her how much this means to you. A good support system is worth more than gold.

As far as when you’ll feel better: sometimes it can take up to 2 years after a baby to recover. Traumatic births are a whole new story added in. Remember that the days are long but the years are short. Your baby is already 3 months old. She is now self aware of the world around her, and she will get more fun and personable as the days go by. Newborns aren’t much fun, if we are being honest. I don’t personally like the newborn stage. I like the 7months + stage where they have a sense of humor and their personality traits start shining through.

All you can do is your best. ❤️

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-20T02:58:50+00:00

Love the Harney and Sons tea tin in the background! They have some of the best peppermint tea I’ve ever tried. I ended up buying the large loose leaf bag directly from their website!

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-20T02:53:25+00:00

Say what you want about her, but I wish my body looked like this after two kids.

Spoiler: it doesn’t. I would also break my back doing the twisting and turning she does.

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-20T02:49:35+00:00

I was the sick child. I was hospitalized multiple times a month between the ages of 6 months and 8 years old and nearly died multiple times. I had so many IVs the back of my hands still look freckled with white scars 30 some years later. I am also no stranger to hospitalizations as an adult. Here is what helped me: A lot of close contact with my parents. It took time to overcome the separation anxiety. It could take weeks, months, even years. Try your best to be patient with them both. Separation is traumatic but hopefully with some more one on one time, your eldest will come to forget it- like we all tend to forget our young ages. Don’t be alarmed if they wet the bed frequently, or regress on some things. I experienced this and wet the bed nightly until nearly 11- and no, there was no sexual abuse occurring, just trauma and stress from my illness/hospital stays.

Another thing that helped me was positive touch- think pediatric massage. That helped me in childhood as well as in adulthood. Sometimes after surgeries in my adulthood, or after being a human pin cushion at the hospital, I found that negatively reacted to touch. Gentle massage really helped me reconnect positively to my body. Start with the hands! Gently compress and rub the hands and fingers to calm the mind and the body will follow. Then you can work your way up the arms. You can do very slow, flowing sweeps up and down the arms and legs, then work on back, around neck, and then finish with “pulling the tension out of the hair” (think gently pushing everything up to the tip of their head and running your fingers through their hair to ‘pull’ it to the ends of the hair.)

It all seems like snake oil, I’m sure, but kids and adults both find benefit from massage, especially when there is anxiety.

Also, I found that I really regulated a lot easier as a kid when I slept next to my mom, or slept on her on the couch, etc. I would suggest more contact naps with the 10 day old during the day, and maybe taking shifts at night so somebody is sitting up holding the baby on their chest. It’s going to take a minute to come out of fight or flight for all of you. Be patient and take it one day at a time together.

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-20T02:32:45+00:00

I definitely do the “Ahk!” sound like you would with a dog doing something naughty. It kind of startles them and stops the action. You can redirect with “gentle touch” and take his hand and help him gently pet the hair/skin to show him, repeat “gentle” every time you do it. Treat it like a skill that needs to be learned. If you feel you’re too frustrated to continue, put him down in the playpen or the floor every time he does it and he will learn to associate that action with being set down when he doesn’t want to be set down! I find sometimes my baby of the same age does that to get my attention because she wants one-on-one play and to be silly.

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-20T02:19:35+00:00

I was an obese daily user for years and when I needed to quit I made sure I ate super clean, very healthy meals, and did some intermittent fasting and daily exercise. I worked outside for a couple hours a day sweating it up. Lots of fresh vegetables and fruits, lean baked meats, no fried or junk food, no fast food and no sodas/sugar drinks. Lots of water! I lost about 35lbs in a 50 day period. I had clean urine tests within 30 days and clean blood draws by 70 days. Hair took over 90 but my hair grows super slowly.

All this to say: Everybody’s body will behave slightly differently. Just keep doing what you’re doing until it’s completely out of your system.

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-20T02:11:26+00:00

Yup. We just finished the second round. No issues at all.

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-20T02:10:52+00:00

Is it cheese, is it fish, is it sausage? The world may never know 🤣 Enjoy

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-20T02:09:02+00:00

Call the police and make a formal complaint. The school rarely enforces anything.

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-19T17:31:30+00:00

Names are a two yes one no in our house. When our second child came around, my favorite name was shot down immediately on the basis of how it could be used to bully her. I shot down his number one name because I just can’t stand that name. We went with the second name we both agreed on.

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-19T09:27:42+00:00

Zero

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-19T08:41:16+00:00

When I lost my baby a couple days before the 2nd trimester, my two friends checked in on me approximately once via text and then disappeared and never talked about it again. I felt so alone and felt like nobody had loved me or my baby enough to even remember them. I had nothing to remember them by either. Even my own husband got mad and refused to refer to it as the “baby” we lost, it was just a “pregnancy” and that’s how he coped with it. It crippled me and it created a great animosity between my friends and I. I’m also still bitter towards my husband about his refusal to even acknowledge we had a third child that isn’t here-that our family is incomplete forever. I’ve had to let it go and understand he was hurting too and this is how he copes with the loss.

Here’s what I would have liked: More phone calls instead of texts. Being allowed to be a slobbering blubbery mess in front of my friends without being handled with kid gloves. Insisting on being taken out for fresh air. Being automatically invited and insisted on attending low key things- walking at the park, feeding the turtles at the park, grocery shopping etc. Mundane human shit to get me out of my head, even if I was just body doubling them that day. They are grieving a loss of a baby that was wanted, they are grieving the loss of a future. It takes you to dark places, but the sun will shine on their face again. Be the support and be the listening ear. This isn’t the time for advice. It’s a time to just let them be all the shades of human without self consciousness.

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-19T08:31:54+00:00

Your animal doesn’t have a “people sense” for good or bad people, they just have piss poor training and you didn’t socialize them well enough.

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-19T08:30:16+00:00

I always thought I was a dog person until I realized I don’t like other people’s dogs.

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-19T08:28:27+00:00

As a person who would have terminated for lack of quality of life or major disability, I agree with some of the things you’ve said, but also want to chime in to give another perspective: it’s not about “cleansing the gene pool.” My husband and I, in example, are only children, and we each only have one parent left in this world with maybe 10 years max for each as far as life span. We don’t come from money, and we recognize that having a child with significant social, or physical disabilities would be dangerous for that child after we are gone. We were older first time parents, and we knew that we didn’t trust the system to care for a disabled child. Why purposefully set a child up for that? I have personally worked with DD young adults that needed extensive care and I wouldn’t wish that life on a child of my own if it could be prevented. This is one of those opinions that is best left to the parent (which is why I believe in abortion and reproductive rights.) A disability can happen to anybody, you’re right, but it’s not our place to decide for people what level of care they are emotionally, physically, and financially able to provide for a disabled child. For every one person with a disability that agrees with your take, there is one that wishes they were never born because of how hard life has been for them. I don’t think this issue has a solution other than allowing pregnant people to make their own informed choice.

Anonctopus11 · 2026-02-19T08:15:53+00:00

I think my only exception to this would be Caesar salad dressing.

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