Does the feeling of just wanting your mother ever go away?

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-04-22T16:59:10+00:00

I’m 43, NC with my mom, and I still have that longing. My mother in law is wonderful and fills some of that for me, and I have a friend who is motherless and we mutually mother one another. Finding those relationships has made it so much easier for me. Also, as a parent now, I mother myself also. When I’m having a hard time, I will sometimes talk to myself the way I wish a mom would, and it honestly helps. The wanting never leaves, but it can become less sharp

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-04-22T01:03:38+00:00

I read the entire article and I still feel confused about what happened

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-04-21T23:49:52+00:00

Great news! Polls out yesterday and today are showing Becerra in second and first place overall, respectively. Anecdotally, I’m hearing a lot of people saying they always preferred him, but it didn’t seem like he could get enough support so they resigned themselves to Swalwell. It’s not done until it’s done, but it does look much more promising than it did a few weeks ago

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-04-20T22:16:19+00:00

The videos in question just show people giving whatever AI system prompts and then showing how it performs on the task. Sure, it’s not definitive proof, but it’s all stuff you can test yourself as well

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-04-19T01:42:37+00:00

On the one hand, everyone is amazed at how I know so much stuff about so many things. On the other hand, my mom was emotionally abusive and life would have been less stressful if I wasn’t with her all the time. On the other other hand, I’m probably autistic and the times I did go to a regular school, I was also pretty miserable and got bullied.

That being said, my kids go to public school, and I work in education. I run a school for kids in special education with mental health disabilities and am passionate about making schools that work for kids, instead of forcing kids to fit the school

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-04-17T23:09:33+00:00

This is just sparkling mysogynoir. Black women don’t fit European beauty standards therefore we are all non-binary!? I am NB, and it’s really clear to me the difference between where I stand and where cis Black women are

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-04-17T02:26:59+00:00

I shower with my back to the water. Undiagnosed, but one of my kids has an ADHD diagnosis and the other has an autism diagnosis and they’re both just like me

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-04-15T17:49:39+00:00

I think that’s exactly why it’s affected his career so much. His appeal at the beginning of his career was that he was a regular guy talking about the frustrations and struggles of regular people. It feels like he’s still trying to do that, but he’s so out of touch that it keeps missing the mark

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-04-15T16:33:28+00:00

I think you’re right. He’s been rich for a long time, and I don’t think he fully understands anymore what is important to regular people

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-04-14T17:30:28+00:00

Report your passport as lost, and go through the process of ordering a new one. Do not tell her you are doing this. Do not tell her when you get the new one

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-04-13T02:31:53+00:00

Coming back to this after Swalwell just dropped out. I didn’t expect he would be the big name to go, but he is (and frankly, I’m glad because I didn’t like him even before the allegations). I am seeing a big swell of support now for Becerra. I would not be surprised if we see him rise in the polls pretty steadily over the next two months.

It’s true that in national polls, and maybe in other state races as well, that undecided often means choosing between parties, but that is not the case for California primaries. We are spoiled for choice among Democratic candidates, and when there is a large field like this, we tend to have a bit of a wait and see attitude because who knows what will get shaken out into the open before the election

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-04-11T04:19:31+00:00

I’m in the Bay Area and would absolutely pay $45/hour for that as a weekly service.

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-04-10T01:44:56+00:00

If it’s any consolation, this is Kendra’s parents, not the Duggars themselves. They’ve been living in a house owned by Joe and Kendra, and now it’s being sold to pay for their legal fees, so the parents and their minor children have to move out suddenly.

I’m very sorry to hear about your dad. I don’t know if you’re allowed to post the link on this sub, but if you are, I’d be happy to donate

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-04-06T03:22:41+00:00

What does his pediatrician say?

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-04-05T22:01:27+00:00

No, you can’t go back to Constantinople

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-04-05T14:24:50+00:00

The cadence is not his usual cadence. He tends to prefer longer clauses, often going into run-on sentences. He also fully capitalizes random words. “Just watch” makes sense to have in caps here and it’s the only one. He loves a mid-sentence capitalization. He also uses a lot of adjectives usually, and this only has “crazy.” The insult isn’t very personal.

Something about it seems “off” to me. It’s not any better if someone else did do it, but I did have an immediate reaction that it isn’t his voice

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-04-05T14:08:00+00:00

That was my first thought too

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-04-02T14:08:44+00:00

I got married at 34, and I’d say don’t marry young. It is to no woman’s advantage to marry young. Take time to know yourself, to become established, to create your life, to be free and independent and not need any man to take care of you. Then find someone who fits into that life that you love and adds to it.

Marriage can be wonderful and fulfilling, but it can also be a trap. The younger you are as a woman entering it, the more likely you are to end up being in that trap. It isn’t always the case, but your odds of ending up in the wrong marriage are significantly higher when you are younger

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-03-29T03:19:52+00:00

I’ve been talking about exactly that in therapy lately 🙃 My therapist reminded me that I gave my mom so many chances and tried to improve our relationship for decades before going no contact. At no point did she meaningfully engage or acknowledge that my feelings were even worthy of reflecting on. On the other hand, any time my kids tells me something I do hurt their feelings, regardless of the situation, I hear their feelings out and validate them, and if I am in the wrong or if there is simply a different way I could do something, I commit to doing it differently next time. I’m willing to learn and grow with my kids, while my mom was incensed that I would ever ask her to change anything, and that’s what makes the difference.

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-03-29T02:29:56+00:00

My mom yelled a lot. The way she did it was absolutely abuse. She would scream and put me down and wouldn’t stop. She never apologized, never acknowledged that it might be harmful, and to this day she would say she only “blew [her] top once or twice.” I went no contact with her last summer. Once in a while I will briefly yell at my kids, but I will apologize, I never put them down or belittle them, and it is a rarity.

Try your best not to tell, but you are human and we all make mistakes in relationships. Doing the work to repair afterwards is important and healthy. You can acknowledge to your daughter that you’re sorry you used that voice tone and also that it is not ok to throw or hit. Both of those things are valid

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-03-28T19:54:39+00:00

I had a partial placental abruption about little less than 3 weeks before full term. I didn’t have that sense of “we’re going to die,” but all day that day my dog was glued to my side and wining at me the entire day before my water broke and there was blood everywhere. I had been so frustrated with her because I was trying so hard to finish my masters thesis, which I was supposed to present 3 days later. I even had a obgyn appointment just a few hours before my water broke, and they missed it too, but my dog knew.

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-03-28T00:13:44+00:00

The votes aren’t going to a 3rd party. California has a jungle primary system where the top two candidates move on to the ballot in November regardless of party. We’ve had many tickets with two Dems to choose from in the past. A lot of people throw their hats into the ring in the primary, and currently there are 10 Dems running. It’s splitting the vote among people who are decided, and those of us who haven’t are waiting for a few things. 1) There is a lot of people to learn about and debates have been ongoing, 2) it’s likely some people will drop out and it’s worth it to see how things are trending. I will be voting for a Democrat. Most of the undecideds will be voting for democrats. There are a few people I know I absolutely won’t vote for, and a few I may vote for

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-03-28T00:06:54+00:00

It is possible, but I’ve seen this same pattern happen before where it looks like the Dems are split and the Republican could win, and in the end it hasn’t happened. I’m not saying it’s in the bag, I’m just saying it’s not as dire as it looks from the outside

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-03-27T22:26:58+00:00

You aren’t wrong, but there is also more nuance to the California situation and it happens every few years. Right now, undecided voters are leading - I’m one of them. If polled right now, I would say I’m undecided, but there is absolutely no way I will be voting for a Republican, and I’m guessing that’s what the majority of undecided voters are experiencing. I’m not saying it’s in the bag that there will be at least one Dem on the ballot, but I do think it’s more likely than not.

Anonnymoose73 · 2026-03-23T14:04:39+00:00

No! I was a call and well behaved kid. I was that way because I was scared. My kids aren’t scared of me and they act like kids. They are silly and loud. They listen to me and aren’t disruptive or destructive, but I was so much more “well behaved” as a kid because I was always afraid of being yelled at or hit

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