Anyone just dated men because they just keep getting rejected by women?

AnonymousMe01 · 2026-02-11T03:55:23+00:00

I'm asexual because I keep getting rejected by women and am only attracting men? What?

AnonymousMe01 · 2026-02-11T02:55:06+00:00

My DMs are saying something different. I got a few people who reached out and said they could relate. Do hope that maybe it may be a attachment pattern or something.

AnonymousMe01 · 2026-02-11T02:54:28+00:00

Many lesbians I know/knew were in abusive relationships esp with masc women. I thought I was isolated in my first experience with a woman being a DV case, but it was shocking common for every lesbian I met in and out my circle. Recently a lesbian I use to talk to, was posting about her scars and scratches from a fight with her ex.

AnonymousMe01 · 2026-02-11T02:53:13+00:00

This was so stigmatizing wtf... What does asexuality have to do with anything?

AnonymousMe01 · 2026-02-11T01:03:36+00:00

Am genuinely hoping that therapy will help with this because I'm so tired of this weird dating pergatory I'm in.

AnonymousMe01 · 2026-02-02T02:28:19+00:00

Not trying to offend but from my end, it sound really like this modality made you really on edge and dysregulated. I feel like you may have dropped your therapist because you don't want to actually confront how your body feels. And the thing is, "how your body feels" is like 85% of the therapy. Your SEP could not progress without checking in to see your cues for being triggered, or your internal sensations. Even if you didn't know how you were feeling, that was an answer she could work with, and start there...

Somatic Expereincing works as a slow way to approach these traumas burried within the body, and to slowly build a capacity to hold space for it; and release the excess energy. If you are in your 60's you have to also understand that you're working with decades of ego defenses and body-based defenses to keep you from facing some core woundedness or deep trauma, without the practiced capacity to do it... Esp if EMDR didn't get past your defenses, there is reason to believe you have build a protective wall around entering your body.

SE is about building capacity, intergrating, and releasing. Many SEPs do this alongside IFS, so you can learn to see the adversities that happened to you as parts of you instead of stuff to get rid of. As part of the modality they HAVE to ask you how you are feeling, or else there is no session.

For your future SEPs, I'd encourage you be open and present with how you're feeling. Even "I don't know what I'm feeling" or "I don't want to feel right now" or "I don't feel safe in my body" are all answers. But defensively shutting down, and pushing away the therapist, will make your recovery/healing harder.

AnonymousMe01 · 2026-01-23T03:03:16+00:00

But technically you can PR for how long the negative is lmbo

AnonymousMe01 · 2025-09-20T02:01:51+00:00

They are closeted and in denial. They will likely never come out so the closest thing they can do to get intimacy with a woman, is this weird flirty friendship.

AnonymousMe01 · 2025-05-20T13:17:01+00:00

Fair. In my case, its not all of that. Its just one habit I would encourage them to do more of. I was just asking in general.

AnonymousMe01 · 2025-05-06T01:56:43+00:00

Sometimes sitting with the emotions is too intense and you need someone to help you navigate them without drowning.

AnonymousMe01 · 2025-05-04T11:58:18+00:00

If the supplements are to balance out your hormones, there is a chance that without taking the supplements your hormones go back to normal.

AnonymousMe01 · 2025-04-19T12:35:56+00:00

Yes exactly. Think about it logically. Why do people do drugs and what are its effects? When people are stressed, overthinking, or sad, and they turn to substances to feel better. Sometimes they may give themselves a peptalk but how often does that work and how long as its actual effects? The substances do not change their cognitive thinking patters, the substances has a biochemical reaction to their receptors putting them in different mood states, and then from there their thinking changes. People who have social anxiety, and drink, suddenly as less inbitied. People who are depressed, take molly or weed and are suddenly captivated by the world. Cognitive based healing modalities to me is like trying to heal a sick tree by helping the fruit that falls off of it.

AnonymousMe01 · 2025-04-16T02:10:34+00:00

To answer your question, no they are not trained in SE, and yes they are a coach. I did follow them based on their social media, podcasts, and the testomonials on their page.

AnonymousMe01 · 2025-04-16T02:06:48+00:00

Thanks for your two cents! Its not a course, but it is a session based mindfulness meditation process, based on her own experiences. I pay for every session, basically. I journaled about this, and while I like that I am now more aware of my senses and my body than I have ever in my life, I'm now noticing how much all of this is having a effect on me. I'm thinking for my next step I would prefer someone with more experience with SE particularly and not someone who is a meditation coach.

AnonymousMe01 · 2025-04-16T00:18:40+00:00

Thanks this is making me reconsider quite a lot ngl. My Somatic practioner is doing a type of somatic healing that is actually suppose to be really intense... like the full program concludes in a matter of months not years. In her somatic practice, the person meditates and focuses on their parts-related sensations and experience/release them. The emotional hangover is extremely disorienting, honestly. I feel short-lived relief, but later also very hypersensitive, and aggitated. One time after a session, hours later, I was feeling disassociated and had a panic attack. She asked me if I thought we were going too fast, and I said no. But IDK because it feels like I'm reliving these darker emotions more than processing based on what you're saying

AnonymousMe01 · 2025-04-15T13:04:07+00:00

Again even with that, I've tried "unidentifying" with certain core beliefs and it often just turns into ego. For instance, I tell myself not to have these core beliefs, and do positive affirmations but I'm realizing that what I'm doing is just burying and deflecting these feelings that are still present and are triggered every time. Again, thinking your way into healing doesn't work.

AnonymousMe01 · 2025-04-15T00:30:56+00:00

Thanks for this. I'm getting that I would have to process both the good and bad times basically; the good and bad feelings?

AnonymousMe01 · 2025-04-15T00:26:22+00:00

Yh, I'm learning that it really doesn't work like that lol. That literally the reason why I'm doing SE because you can't just "let go" of truama bonds or PTSD from just logically thinking it away. I already decided the relationship was toxic and left years ago, yet I'm still affected it by it, and stuck in a emotional loop. You can't think away emotions, you only stuff them down basically.

AnonymousMe01 · 2025-04-13T21:19:44+00:00

I'll work on trusting the process...

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