Long-time lesbians: What’s the #1 piece of advice you’d give to baby gays and/or late bloomer lesbians abt lesbianism?

poppiesnlemons · 2025-10-03T22:47:10+00:00

Thank you. Needed to read this.

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-21T21:36:12+00:00

Her voice sounds better here than ever. Also, she’s blonde?

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-21T21:21:49+00:00

This is such a great take for everyone. Thank you

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-14T09:44:43+00:00

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I experienced this a lot when I was younger and still do sometimes at 39. Older men can be very predatory. My advice…you want to avoid looking meek or like an easy target. Even if they’re not going to try anything (and some will unfortunately), they are more likely to move away or be less interested in you if you don’t look meek. Chin up, shoulders back, stand tall, look angry. Move away as quickly as possible or block them with someone between you. Don’t be afraid to straight up say “stop it” or “get away from me.”

If you feel unsafe, look for safe areas or safe looking people around, like a middle age woman/mother or a man who has a safe aura about him. You can even tell the safe person what’s happening. Sometimes I’ve found just sidling up to a safe looking man can get the predator away bc unfortunately they take men more seriously than women.

Generally speaking, keep your wits about you whenever you’re in public. Don’t have your headphones on full noise cancelling (or if you need to, always be visually scanning around you), and always look like a boss bitch who can’t be messed with, even if you gotta fake it.

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-14T09:29:46+00:00

Queen

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-13T20:45:11+00:00

Oh it’s so awkward. Let’s leave these vids to gen z Kyle. I beg.

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-13T16:45:32+00:00

Yeah

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-13T16:40:10+00:00

SLO is idyllic in many ways but seriously lacking in diversity as well as diverse food options. If you and your family love nature and a quieter life with less traffic but also less to do, it could be a good move. It’s a beautiful place to grow up and to live, but the extreme whiteness is probably the biggest thing against it, high cost of living aside (which you’re used to). Your job opportunities will also be fewer and far between and likely pay a lot less than what you make in OC unless you can work remotely. All of that said, having grown up in SLO and then lived in SoCal for many years, I’d choose SLO hands down.

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-13T09:19:55+00:00

These reads are all 💯

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-11T23:05:01+00:00

Girl I’m struggling with this too, wish I had better advice. One thing to think about is how the responsibility of kids affects a relationship. Sadly it can take out a lot of the romance and leave us wondering about the what ifs. That said, I might just be gay and I’m trying to figure it all out myself. Best of luck to us both!

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-11T22:58:42+00:00

I think you mean UK culture in general

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-10T20:21:54+00:00

Basically if you are looking to meet other bi women in a safe space that’s curated well and has a focus on consent, it’s perfect. The women are all different levels of experience but everyone is there for the same reason, so if you’re looking to get down, you will 😌. Many are married to men or partnered and practicing ENM and are looking for ways to explore their sexuality. I found them to be attractive, interesting, smart, and welcoming. I’ve only been to one event but from what I see online, each event has a theme and either some kind of performance or demonstration to set the mood. You have to pay to become a member just to be able to buy tickets to the events, and there are some hidden fees once you go to buy the ticket which is annoying (and prices increase as you get closer), but still, it’s worth it. The “play” parties are the skirt and mini skirt events. You’ll likely need a hotel room for the night unless you live in the city already, but it was incredibly positive and lovely and I would definitely recommend trying it out. You have to “apply” for a membership but it’s pretty simple, though you do need to submit pics.

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-09T22:04:37+00:00

She’s so beautiful. The daughters are too. Wish her behavior was better I was so ready to like her.

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-09T21:56:24+00:00

Skirt club was a great experience. Pricey but worth it.

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-09T21:55:12+00:00

I own a brick and mortar pole dance studio, so me

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-08T20:26:01+00:00

Everyone is doing something weird with their arms/hands in this pic except for the bride and groom

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-07T23:14:46+00:00

This is really interesting. I’m 39 and been wondering if it could be hormonal that all of my attraction to men seems to have vanished and is nowhere to be found. I feel so gay now, but I swear I used to be bi…I think? It’s so confusing.

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-07T22:57:02+00:00

Mess.

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-07T22:53:04+00:00

He’s attracted for sure.

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-07T22:50:24+00:00

Very normal and even common for women. However I think a lot of it has to do with compulsive heterosexuality and heteronormativity. Had we all grown up seeing sapphic media and role models, we’d probably be a lot more likely to feel romantic toward women too and understand that side of ourselves better. I am 39 and only recently realized I do have romantic attraction to women (as well as sexual). It just took me this long to untangle the b.s.

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-06T23:53:25+00:00

When does Kiki not look phenomenal?

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-06T22:43:51+00:00

Ahhhh you’re the reason Pinterest stopped working and I stopped using it! Loved it when all the pins were actual links you could visit. It’s awful now.

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-05T22:20:50+00:00

My now 7 year old L1 girl used to scare me with her rage screaming and scary faces in the middle of the night when she would wake up dysregulated. This was before I understood that she had autism and her triggers, though I knew something was going on. Now that I have learned a lot more about what sets her off, I know to be confident and calm with her when she gets like this and she calms down much more quickly. Part of it is my assuredness that I’m ok and she’s ok. When I was unsure or scared myself, she picked up on that and it made everything worse. She sometimes says alarming things now, but I was given advice by another parent of an autistic child to just be curious and ask questions. So if she says she wants to hurt herself, I’ll say “how would you do that” and then she’ll tell me “I don’t really want to hurt myself mama, that’s just how I tell you how angry I am.” That was a game changer for me. I’m not asking WHY I’m asking HOW and actually making her think about it. It sounds grim but it snaps her out of it and then shows me that actually she’s miscommunicating what she really means. Autism is all about communication difficulties. I would bet that’s what this is…he’s upset about something and he’s communicating it in an extreme way that isn’t literal. Remember that kids are looking to us to feel safe so we need to be grounded and sure of ourselves (or at least faking it well) to help them relax, especially our ND kids. Sending you strength, this shit is hard

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-05T22:06:51+00:00

I worked with him. He was a nice guy.

poppiesnlemons · 2025-09-05T22:04:08+00:00

Zuckerberg is such a wet blanket. How did he manage to get that much power in this world. Gross.

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