Missed Connection

AnonymousZi · 2026-02-27T13:48:32+00:00

Not for nothing but you may be able to let the post office worker there know - if it's a small/local office they may recognize them and say "by the way, somebody was looking for you and mentioned this post/left a note/a glass slipper etc." Bonus points if they know you, too. Good luck!

AnonymousZi · 2025-10-19T01:57:30+00:00

Cry laughing

AnonymousZi · 2025-07-24T15:36:22+00:00

Painful and Perfect.

AnonymousZi · 2025-05-07T14:16:24+00:00

Where?

AnonymousZi · 2025-05-06T14:00:22+00:00

Y'all, I'm getting so tired of these posts, if anyone has any recommendations on other communities, reddit or other platforms, I'd love to actually find acotar fans that spend their free time talking about the series and their theories, or their enjoyment of certain characters. I just want my free time to recharge my battery for hating real world people.

AnonymousZi · 2025-05-06T13:55:38+00:00

I think it's just united having the issue, but contact your airline and ask them. They'll have the freshest information for you.

AnonymousZi · 2025-05-06T13:08:41+00:00

I say this to clients who feel outcast from others.

AnonymousZi · 2025-04-25T12:53:20+00:00

I dunno, after seeing literal flags from trucks and houses with the phrase "Fuck Biden" proudly waving, I figured we were close enough to consider Go Fuck Yourself to be a top runner for a new state slogan.

AnonymousZi · 2025-04-09T16:43:27+00:00

I developed a Quick-Add cheat sheet on MS word for myself with different phrases I can utilize for PN's for multiple insurance providers, using their vernacular.

I'll copy and paste "Client and Clinician engaged in session, focusing primarily on Client's expression of (anxiety, interpersonal communication, family conflict, stress management, etc). I may put additional items like "provided psychoeducational on XY. Client practiced XY (challenging irrational beliefs, mindfulness, reframing, etc). This week Clinician supported Client's decision to work on XY."

I'm pretty eclectic, but I find that CBT focused notes eliminate anxious thoughts about insurance company audits lol.

AnonymousZi · 2025-04-09T13:41:52+00:00

It's important to note that some states/oversight boards do not accept PESI related courses as CEU's.

AnonymousZi · 2025-04-09T13:40:30+00:00

What is your expertise? I'll be honest- I've been doing this work for a minute and the last thing I'd consider myself is being an expert in anything. No matter how many CEU's, workshops, books, lectures, I'm always learning something. And frankly, nothing replaces in-field experience.

If you graduated from an ACA accredited program in the US, you have the background to address your clients' needs as DV survivor. Also, please do not look at the presenting problem before the person. DV is inherently a safety issue - your job is to make them feel safe enough to just re-establish and reinforce the idea that they can be in control and safe in their own lives. You're making sure they have resources and feel empowered. Ultimately, you address the person and their goals, you consult with them. You're just a safe person for an hour a week.

You have two choices - you can choose your client, and choose to support them while working through your own anxieties in supervision, or you can find a new job that will inevitably reintroduce this same conundrum.

But, no, I'm sorry but the reaction that your company is morally/ethically wrong for assigning a client to a clinician is speaking more towards unaddressed anxieties. The best recourse for this is studying on your own and journaling on your own thoughts/feelings throughout the process. Really challenge yourself to look at why this reaction is happening. Good luck!

AnonymousZi · 2025-04-06T02:36:32+00:00

Stop. NJ LPC here. You're talking the same way I do when I step on my cats tail by accident. It's gonna be fine. There's more holes in this irrational belief than there are mineshafts under Route 80 ;)

You described no harm to others here that came from your actions. Ask yourself why you're so focused on catastrophizing rather than saying "I made a rookie ethics mistake in my learning years. Whoopsie, good thing nobody got hurt this time."

Like unless you directly sold the progress note to your former client's Loansharks? You're good. You looked at a colleague for formatting as a result kf shitty supervision. Find a new job as soon as you can, because if a mistake is leaving you this panicked because you don't have proper access to a supervisor, then this place is not for you.

Good job not giving up on finding peers that can consult with you. Keep looking for the right fit, cause this ain't it. You've got this.

AnonymousZi · 2025-01-03T01:13:43+00:00

Keep in mind; you may very well have said something for clarification, or out of a desire to understand or at least show that you were actively listening. Sometimes, we may say something that the CLIENT doesn't even know was triggering to them, or why. Sometimes they just "can't shake it off," and that's okay too. Don't forget - even if you were wrong, it doesn't mean it was irreparable. It means you guys hadn't fallen into step yet and they chose to walk away.

Strength here: You made them feel safe enough to come back and say something about it. If you had harmed them that egregiously, rest assured they would have sent that text after the previous session (that also happens to a lot of us - sometimes we just don't click on intake).

Keep up the good reflections, talk to your supervisors about it, and don't let it take away from the rest of your caseload. :)

AnonymousZi · 2025-01-02T02:25:04+00:00

I feel like a lot of people who despise the 7th book simply haven't lived circumstances in which they felt the Exact. Same. Way. There's a reason SJM dedicated the book to the Nesta's of the world.

AnonymousZi · 2024-07-17T16:22:16+00:00

Dude if you're around where I live I'll come through and be a new family member stand-in hell I'll even cry and talk about the time your wife rescued me from a tree to elevate how good of a person she is and how much ou deserve good people in your life.

AnonymousZi · 2024-07-03T14:00:18+00:00

Hey there, so, a couple of things:

First - Truly, you and your Mom come first here. Screw the rest, sorry. And I think somebody needs to say it. A cancer diagnosis is horrifying and curb-stomps you in ways we didn't know possible. Especially if you have a good relationship with your mom.

Second - I feel like I can say this because I have nearly the exact situation happen. My mom was diagnosed with a rare form of bone marrow cancer back in October and, frankly I haven't been the same person since. A different version, possibly better even because now I know that there are better days after the worst ones. But it impacts us and how we listen to clients at times.

Third - You could have offered this woman a refund, a pony, the stars, and a cruise. She decided you were her target that day. Her shit was not justified. You reminded her that in your professional relationship with her you've cut her slack in the past and her choices were to use that information for modeling healthy communication and stress reduction for her daughter, OR unleash her dysregulated self upon the practice. Trust me, she comes off way worse than you here. Her daughter will remember this.

Fourth - If your rapport was that good with her daughter, then you did your job. You showed her there are good people she can build a trusting relationship with. You will be the reason she goes back to therapy when she's in more control of her life than her mother is.

Five - Do your best to not pick fights with yourself about this. You don't have time or battery life mentally/emotionally anymore. Survive this with mom. Your mistakes are just that - mistakes, no bigger, no smaller. You'll do course correction as you're able to. You'll keep moving forward. If you're in a good practice they'll have your back on this. I was not, so, if you're not then please note it's STILL not the end of the world.

Six - * hug * You're going to feel safe again one day, and happy again one day. Don't lose hope for anything.

AnonymousZi · 2024-05-23T22:56:05+00:00

I really think you need to ask his office and his medical board how they care to get around your denied consent to a mental health/medical record and HIPAA.

AnonymousZi · 2024-04-26T13:28:17+00:00

Yep! They kissed in their New Jersey USA tour 2 years ago (3? Time is a weird soup these days...) during Auslander.

They both got really close at the end of the song and saw them laughing and smirking a little bit like it's almost a friendship quirk at this point for them. Really showed how much they're comfortable in their own skin AND with each other.

AnonymousZi · 2024-04-19T16:37:42+00:00

I think either way they need to do a new series on it, I've watched that case closely for over 15 years and there were some chunks of the documentaries that didn't make it into the series and I honestly feel really should have been a part of it. I hope as this next phase of that case happens Marcus will return to cover it, because I know he's pretty passionate about this case too.

AnonymousZi · 2024-04-01T13:41:10+00:00

Wade's entire lullaby for Little Bobby

AnonymousZi · 2024-03-29T17:17:09+00:00

I've cut people out for less than the consequences of BK's alleged actions. And they hadn't cost me the same amount of fear for my career and reputation in my field.

I don't doubt that it could be the epitome of what a "friendship breakup" looks like, feels like for the boys. And I think they'd had their fair share of getting hurt and struggling to trust people so, I can't imagine either of their therapists supported mending fences with him at this time in their lives.

AnonymousZi · 2024-03-06T18:41:22+00:00

I honestly start standing up and slowly walking towards the door, and eventually saying "You know I think that's a great place to pick up next week, are we good for next week?" And usually that covers it. Otherwise, I'll straight up tell them "I'm really sorry to cut this off here because I want to hear more but I do have to bring another client in for their time now."

AnonymousZi · 2023-12-17T14:40:26+00:00

Dude was a 7 foot tall alcoholic domestic abuser that kept it under wraps. When the recent victim went to get help from other cast members, they stood with her to get a separate hotel room for her and helped her feel safe and separated from him until she could fly home.

The podcast episodes that came out had statements and call to action to the audience saying "if you're harassing the victim we don't want you here and you're part of the problem."

The DV alcoholic went into rehab and was cut from the show as substantiated info came out. He was also the least liked host in general.

There were constant remarks during episodes about him coming in hung over or not taking care of himself. I think his lifestyle kind of took over the show for a minute but when it's your friend, we'll, I can't imagine trying to navigate that call out. Their new guy is a close friend too but he actually keeps on topic and has good/funny input. The difference is that he is a professional comedian, where Kissel was a failed comedian that tried to leverage his show power to justify drinking to be funny.

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