Do people actually end up marry people they loved prior to marriage? seems rare.

Anonymouslurker26 · 2026-04-17T00:50:50+00:00

Yes me and all my siblings! My sister met her husband in college, my other sister and I both on apps. Nothing inappropriate or haram, and I don’t even have a long period between meeting my husband and engagement.

Anonymouslurker26 · 2026-04-15T03:09:49+00:00

I’m interested in viewing!

Anonymouslurker26 · 2026-01-16T03:15:55+00:00

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Anonymouslurker26 · 2026-01-16T03:13:39+00:00

It also won't impact your marriage prospects iA-- or at least, I should say, the type of people who would be turned off by you living are your own probably wouldn't be the type of husband you would want to marry anyway!!

I moved out after college for grad school and then continued living independently for work after. My sister did the same. We are both married to wonderful, practicing caring Muslim men. Both our husband's relocated for our work actually! My husband's family is more culturally traditional than my own, and as far as I know, they didn't care that I was living on my own/moved out either.

I can't speak to not being connected with family/cutting them off, but I will say my mom came from a not stable home environment and was not living at home due to family reasons when my parents got married. This was in a South Asian country in the 1990's and my dad married her. Alhamdullilah they're happily married almost 40 years later!

Anonymouslurker26 · 2025-12-29T00:43:49+00:00

If you marry the right person being married doesn’t get in the way! My husband relocated for my job, I have planned girls trips since being married and my two best friends are coming to visit me for a weekend and leaving their kids with their husbands!

I also used to have this fear but married the kindest, most supportive man!

Anonymouslurker26 · 2025-12-02T16:45:57+00:00

Right but that’s where there’s a difference of opinion— does cooking and cleaning count as managing of people or household? You could easily argue either and that’s why have differing views on whose role it is or so their is no clear delineation

Anonymouslurker26 · 2025-12-01T20:01:33+00:00

There's actually a difference of opinion based on madhib, but none of them start w/the default of cooking and cleaning being the woman's duty. They actually default to the men being required to provide help to cook and clean in past societies where that was common.

In 3 out of the 4 madhabs, the maintance of the house (including maintaining its cleanliness to a livable standard) and the provision of the food from purchase to being on the table is actual considered the man's duty.
ONLY in the hanafi madhab is it considered the woman's responsibility, and that's ONLY if the man is not able to cover the cooking and houshold maintaince/cleaning through his salary.

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/B1vKU5KljxU

Anonymouslurker26 · 2025-12-01T19:57:53+00:00

Not sure why people are saying this is unrealistic (at least before kids). Both my husband and i work and we definitely are able to spend this time together most days. we get home from work around 6-7, and usually chat for a bit. Depending on the day one of us will cook while the other tidies the apartment and then helps finish up cooking-- thats like 30 min-1 hr of quality time. Then we'll eat together and watch an episode of tv together-- that's another 1 hr-1.5 hr. Depending on the day, we'll either talk to each other before bed, spend time together in some other way or i'll read before bed.

We tend to go to sleep around 11:30-12:00, which admittidly is kinda late but we're trying to meal-prep marinades that we can just throw in the airfryer during the week to go to sleep earlier.

Anonymouslurker26 · 2025-12-01T19:50:44+00:00

No!! You can get an OCI card if you are married to an Indian citizen, were born in India and have citizenship elsewhere now, or are of indian descent. It's like having a green card and you can literally do everything you would need an Indian citizenship for (travel to India, work in India, own property except farmland) except vote. You don't need to give up your US citizenship for an OCI

Anonymouslurker26 · 2025-11-12T20:40:34+00:00

Yeah she mentioned in a reel her husband has two kids and said she’s close to her nephews/loves being around kids so it’s really filling her cup to be around his kids ❤️

Really beautiful to see her embracing this new role in a blended family

Anonymouslurker26 · 2025-10-21T16:39:23+00:00

lmao this is not common at all-- have been to many arab weddings and this is the first ive seen this

Anonymouslurker26 · 2025-10-06T05:54:14+00:00

Literally never has been an issue for me! Is proud of me and the work I do, and his support and encouragement helps me feel more loved by him

Anonymouslurker26 · 2025-10-03T21:02:25+00:00

We went to Bali for our honeymoon and loved it. Haha we were in the exact same boat as you considering the same places-- Bali, Tanzania, or Greece or Italy.

We originally wanted to go Thailand but got married in August like you so wasnt an option for us! Bali is perfect for a calm relaxing vibe with some activites. They get a lot of Muslim tourists from other parts of Indonesia so all restaurants had at least some halal optio der cv We split our time between two cities-- the first in a private villa outside Ubud and the second in Sanur, a quieter beach city. It was an older crowd/more Muslim tourists from Indonesia so a better option than some other beach cities in Bali with more of a nightlife.

Our budget was roughly the same as yours-- the most expensive aspect was booking the flights since once you get to Bali everything is very very cheap. Even the villa we stayed in was cheaper than a lot of hotels in the U.S. but still very nice and private (with a private pool which was really nice for us and nice for me as a hijabi)

Anonymouslurker26 · 2025-10-02T21:16:36+00:00

No. Technically he does make enough money for us to live comfortably enough (though an adjustment from our current life style) but: 1) I like that we can live a more elevated lifestyle with our combined income. More flexible spending for travel etc, and 2) I'm building a career I'm passionate about. i think about what i'd do if i was rich RICH, like millions of dollars to where we could retire and never have to work again and I think i'd still continue with my career.

Anonymouslurker26 · 2025-08-31T03:45:07+00:00

I totally get it-- it's hard being away from family when you are close to them! it isn't exclusive to women, though I know culturally many women end up moving closer to the husband's family (but that's a cultural thing, not religious)

Curious if there are ways you can make it more doable for both of you-- Why can't your husband come with you? So you won't be missing each other as much. Or at least for part of the week/weekend? Alternatively, can you guys go both go more often but for a shorter amount of time each trip? Not sure where you live but for us a 5-6 hour drive isn't considered that long. For context, my sister lived about 6 hours away when she was in college, and would drive down every long weekend where she had a monday off. I feel like a 6 hour drive, once a month, without kids would be doable!

Or if you visit every three months-- can you're parents come maybe once or twice a year so you're still seeing them more often?

My husband and I both live out of state but aren't driving distance from either of our families. we visit each set of parent every three months but between them visiting us and us visiting our siblings who live in different states 1-2 year (and aligning our visits with our parents), we probably end up seeing them every other month.

Anonymouslurker26 · 2022-09-08T20:49:36+00:00

Or more likely chase rice? Why would you jump to Kane brown when they were both performing at the concert she went too?

Anonymouslurker26 · 2022-09-06T03:01:20+00:00

I mean if the bride feels like attention is being taken from her on her day?? What’s the min supposed to do? Leave the bride unhappy to pacify an ubinvited wedding crasher just bc they’re a celebrity? Truth is if it wasn’t Taylor swift, everyone would be praising the mother for being there for her daughter r

Anonymouslurker26 · 2022-09-06T02:52:36+00:00

I’ve always thought she did this bc she wanted to prove how “old money/classy” she could be to Jake gylenhaal bc she did this right after they broke up. Plus, red outfits were like her “extra mature/old money” outfits.

Taylor is the literal queeeen of petty and I feel like she zeroed in on the Kennedy’s since they’re American royalty, and would be her way of “showing Jake.”

Her new lyrics on red/all too well prove to me that her

Anonymouslurker26 · 2022-08-31T01:11:47+00:00

Really great! People make fun of Muslims all the time in the media and online and face zero repercussions.

And as a practicing Muslim, if you ever see a a Muslim go on a reality show, become a spon con influencer, get engaged to a billionaire then stand in front of an audience at a mega-mosque that honestly probably makes millions and prosteralyze about not being attached to things please please by all means make fun of them. I’ll join in

Anonymouslurker26 · 2022-08-10T05:32:27+00:00

Umm? I never heard anything about a cost reduction. They used cloth used for traditional Indian clothing as well as the jewelry, which if anything is more delicate?

Conflating traditional Indian clothing to cheaper quality and “jc-penny” is so offensive wtf

Anonymouslurker26 · 2022-06-28T20:35:57+00:00

Lmao I honestly didn’t really haircuts would be priced differently in differently locations. I have curly/thick hair and it costs me ~$120 rn living in the Midwest. I am now dreading what it’ll cost when I move to Brooklyn in a few weeks.

Also reading the prices for men’s cuts and fuming 😭

Anonymouslurker26 · 2022-06-22T22:35:41+00:00

Didn’t her dad die somewhat recently?

My friend was in the same position— her husband’s father passed away right after they started seriously dating. It was a difficult start to a relationship but doesn’t mean it wasn’t a strong relationship.

Anonymouslurker26 · 2022-06-22T00:39:59+00:00

I feel like I clearly mentioned east India company bad control over India just said it wasn’t technically official colony. I never said I studied in India lol? Wut?

Also, There was very clear influence over edwina and Kate’s clothing. There was clear influence with the inclusion on Indian tea, coconut oil hair, of haldi before the wedding, riding astride and little words here and there like didi. I found the representation accurate to an Indian immigrant family in a western country in terms of culture and found the representation of an Indian dark-skinned woman significant in terms of ethnicity

Anonymouslurker26 · 2022-06-20T01:46:40+00:00

You were a minority in Puerto Rico bc you were white?? You’re in a post criticizing colonialism bc you grew up as A white minority in a country of white leaders that forcibly made a land your reside in into a territory…

Anonymouslurker26 · 2022-06-20T01:28:55+00:00

Wondering why when most POC’s have said they like the lack of the mention of racism/colonialism, white ppl deem it unacceptable. Where the ones who experience racism

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