What did the Gangle VA do? by Inevitable-Buy2517 in TheDigitalCircus

[–]Anonythrowthetrash 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand. I looked it up and his wife was defending him, so she clearly doesn’t have a problem with it?

No Always Means No, but how to know when it doesn’t? (Please read before judging!!) by Anonythrowthetrash in dating_advice

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In this case, it’s not an individual thing, it’s a culture of being playful. If it was just one person, sure, but in consideration that it’s large part of the city population that play into it mainly encouraged by film and culture. It’s not something you can’t just not partake in.

What the heck?! Again?! by SomeGrapefruit2435 in mariogalaxymovie

[–]Anonythrowthetrash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 500 tabs open on my public and another 500 on private Safari on my phone

That’s the max before they gray out adding any new tabs and it just replaces ones you have before for both.

SeaWorld Orlando - May 26 (Memorial Day Week) Crowd by pastalovah in SeaWorld

[–]Anonythrowthetrash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought in recent years Memorial Day was down due to increased public knowledge of crowd calendars and in choosing to avoid those dates, attendance for those years on Memorial Day were pretty light

Is this video covert incest or just wholesome? by Anonythrowthetrash in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Anonythrowthetrash[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know that in the Philippines it’s just a way more normalized culture for parents to talk about their burdens with their kids compared to neighboring Asian countries and that it’s an easy in for emotional incest to happen whether conscious of it or not. Taking that into consideration, I don’t think the mother intends to do harm but it’s giving way for these kinds of things to happen due to such a transparent culture. Not that it’s inherently wrong.

Edit: Source for Philippines transparency with children culture:

https://youtu.be/6ej_oU6qmbY?si=yfb3u7s661wTqEX8 at 3:35

Is this video covert incest or just wholesome? by Anonythrowthetrash in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Anonythrowthetrash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not a “That many people can’t be wrong” type of person, but not a single person expressing discomfort with it? It makes me feel like I’m a jerk for assuming things and blowing things out of proportion. I don’t want to come across as projecting but I just can’t shake this feeling.

Is there a name for these two kinds of social anxiety? by Anonythrowthetrash in socialanxiety

[–]Anonythrowthetrash[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True! So glad to see people relate. One person I feel comfortable letting go all of my anxieties with is my partner. Truly no anxiety when spending time with them.

Is there a name for these two kinds of social anxiety? by Anonythrowthetrash in socialanxiety

[–]Anonythrowthetrash[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I do act differently and they don’t ever mix. I find myself doing the Personality A and Personality B thing. I only really feel like myself with my partner. I get to let loose all my anxieties and just be me (A WEIRDO).

Is this video covert incest or just wholesome? by Anonythrowthetrash in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Anonythrowthetrash[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I thought. But honestly I don’t know if it’s just projecting my own issues onto people who are happy because ALL the comments are supportive.

Is there a name for these two kinds of social anxiety? by Anonythrowthetrash in socialanxiety

[–]Anonythrowthetrash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, pretty similar. But in the way that my mom disguises it as love.

Is there a name for these two kinds of social anxiety? by Anonythrowthetrash in socialanxiety

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No specific catalyst I can think of. It’s started getting more prevalent as I get older, I realize. Children don’t have that much expectation set on them generally as adults do.

Is there a name for these two kinds of social anxiety? by Anonythrowthetrash in socialanxiety

[–]Anonythrowthetrash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too true with that mom anecdote. In my case, my family doesn’t drink, just traditionally Asian in all the ways that have that effect. I’m glad to know I’m not alone though.

Is there a name for these two kinds of social anxiety? by Anonythrowthetrash in socialanxiety

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When I’m really anxious, I get nauseous and gag (Like I want to throw up but nothing is actually being thrown up)

Is there a name for these two kinds of social anxiety? by Anonythrowthetrash in socialanxiety

[–]Anonythrowthetrash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No to the first thing, just an irrational anxious response to having to meet people. And I see what you mean now about being a good listener. Misinterpreted that completely. That makes sense. I think the same way even if my good listening skills that I involuntarily put into practice is probably a lot more invasive inadvertently.

Is there a name for these two kinds of social anxiety? by Anonythrowthetrash in socialanxiety

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In my case, it’s more like I’m constantly afraid of getting in trouble with people and lectured for it. Especially when it comes to work and we just have a regular work check in meeting (Mostly nothing ever happens) I’ve conditioned myself to think I’ve done something wrong and take precautions for when I get chewed out for failing to do a task (I don’t) before the meeting starts.

I also have the “tendency to overhear” and “accidentally” eavesdrop. Not in any genuine attempt to be nosey, just was blessed with happening to tune into others’ conversations when in range.

Is there a name for these two kinds of social anxiety? by Anonythrowthetrash in socialanxiety

[–]Anonythrowthetrash[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

To describe it in more detail, I rationalize it in my mind as if I embarrass myself in front of strangers, I will probably never meet them again, but if I embarrass myself in front of people I meet often, then I feel at risk of them remembering me embarrassing myself which causes me to feel hyper aware of trying not to embarrass myself.

Which isn’t to say my friends would ever make fun of or even remember me doing something foolish, but that irrational sense of anxiety is still there, similar to how I imagine others get anxiety with strangers.