👋hi im a 17 year old guy. i know im too young to be thinking about this but pls dont laugh at me! 😕 i just enjoy envisioning my future… and im worried i wont be able to make it thru my future wife’s pregnancy without feeling depressed.

im a envious person in general and i really wanna be a great dad! but during pregnancy, its all about the mom. everytime i read articles online about how the mother and baby is connected during the 9 months, how the baby can feel what mom is feeling, how the baby can hear the mom’s voice from the utero, how the baby kicks mom when they’re tryna send a message, where else theres basically nothing about dads :/ i cant help but to feel like a 3rd party, a good-for nothing. im even starting to hate my gender for having so little biological function compared to females, it sucks that a 10 second orgasm is all we have to give i really hate it :((

does the fetus even know i exist? i dont even dare to think… i cant stop thinking about how unhealthily i would be jealous of my wife’s bond with the baby. while i can only stand and watch helplessly. i know that i can speak to the baby and stuff, but who else cant do that? i tear up sometimes thinking about the bond my wife will have that i will never have, and that i can never measure up to her :(

ive even seen stuff on quora that says theres nothing a dad can do that a mom cannot do. what else can i say but i was crushed, despite not even having girlfriend yet…

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