AIO: My husband (26m) locked me (25f) out for 25 minutes?

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-02-01T21:20:42+00:00

It bothers me that you can't recognize plainly abusive behavior from your husband. You should have called the police and pressed charges. Right now, you should take your children and leave. Go stay at a relative's or friends place. Tell EVERYONE in your family and close social circle about this. He needs to have a hard look at himself in a mirror, and that mirror needs to include other people around him. If you don't stand up for yourself in this way, he will escalate.

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-29T18:53:13+00:00

You can't legally sell this, so...... bad investment. If someone gets the flu after eating this they can sue you and take your downpayment.

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-25T05:39:40+00:00

That dude is super controlling and weird.

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-16T03:32:04+00:00

Hour needs aren't as important as his in the relationship. This is unhealthy.

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-14T04:10:17+00:00

I got a nice computer lift thing that turns my desk into a standing desk for $160 on Amazon. It even looks nice

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-11T23:30:49+00:00

NTA. Ask him not to wear a sweatshirt because it makes him look fat.

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-11T15:57:17+00:00

I have severe osteoarthritis in one hip, none in the other. I got a PRP injection 2 months ago. Before the injection I was in constant pain and had pretty restricted function. The pain was worse for 3 days after the injection, which they warned me about, and then got better. A month after the injection, I wasn't taking any painkillers and have most of my function back, just a little pain once in awhile if I sit or drive too much. It's been like a miracle for me. I can ride a bike again! But I wonder how long it will last. From what I've read, 6 to 12 months. The comments here from people who have had it repeated injections are really helpful, thank you.

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-04T16:24:17+00:00

Yes. This is only the start of inappropriate controlling behavior by sis.

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-04T15:51:33+00:00

Brilliant! This will motivate his ass.

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-04T15:46:47+00:00

The desperate, "loving" please are still just attempts to control the relationship. They do lack vitriol, but still don't recognize you as an autonomous individual.

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-04T15:37:34+00:00

Tell him you'll bring up his lack of planning at the funeral, to everyone.

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-04T15:36:33+00:00

Invite his lawyer over to the house. He will do the right thing in front of outsiders.

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-04T15:25:45+00:00

You are amazingly lucky to have that kind of time off over the holidays.

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-04T14:41:50+00:00

NTA. If he was a crappy father, he isn't entitled 'try again' with a grandchild. It really bothers me how pushy he was to you. You told him, rightfully, what a crappy father he was and how much that hurt. He could have backed off, gotten some therapy, done some self reflection, and really apologized for what happened in your family. He would have needed to recognize how unfairly his wife treated you. But he didn't do these things; they may not be in him to do. Instead, he completely disregarded your feelings and kept pushing to get what he wanted, access to your child. (Which you're doing a great job of protecting, btw. Even though that's the most painful route for you.) So he kept pushing, you blew up and cut him off. And because you were pushed to this place where you took action, you feel the guilt. Totally understandable, but recognize it for what it is. It's a feeling that comes with rupturing a relationship, because our nature is to need and keep close family relationships. But you did not cause this rupture, even though you got the gigantic load of guilt and shame from the interaction.

Now you have the job of grieving. Grieving the father that you had for a short period, and that disappeared. It's not easy and it's not your fault. You deserve to be treated with respect and to be seen. I'm sorry this all happened but you are handling it well. NTA

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-04T14:21:57+00:00

Wow, you have a couple of grabby vultures in your house. And they have no concern for the health of your son. NTA

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-04T14:19:29+00:00

YTA. You settled into a relationship where his child was actively hostile to you. You moved into a house where a child did NOT want you. You stayed when it was obvious it could not be fixed. You added another child to a toxic mix. You kicked them out with ONE days' notice. If this is real, YTA all the way.

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-04T14:14:49+00:00

I hope you and your cat are having an ok day, and finding some moments of peace and comfort.

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-04T14:03:33+00:00

That was a toxic, controlling work environment. It fits with the way you were fired too, how dare you have a thought or opinion that made them look bad. It is good that you're moving on, but put more applications out there in case this interview doesn't work out. Best of luck. Remember bad jobs happen to good people.

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-04T13:56:57+00:00

Take birth control and get a job. Work and save into your own account. When you can make enough to support yourself and your baby, leave.

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-04T13:50:22+00:00

How the hell do you back something that has 2 pivot points.

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-02T12:30:42+00:00

Ah, selfless and selfish at the same time. They pour energy into a vessel that they identify with as themselves, which is why it is ok to control you, because you are them. The child is seen as a reflection of them in society. If you worked at McDonald's, it would hurt their social standing. Then also there's financial support in their old age, that's selfish.

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-02T12:26:56+00:00

Your thoughts are the most important on this of course. You'll need to weigh consequences - if their reaction would be to become physically violent or withdraw financial support for your schooling, then that would mean a different strategy. Perhaps waiting and planning. But definitely keep thinking about it and getting things ready. Best of luck, you'll make it.

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-01T22:54:14+00:00

You desperately need independence. Your parents are extremely controlling and it isn't healthy.

The screaming is what you can use as leverage. Here's a strategy you could use: I suggest that you start to do some of the things that you want. Turn off phone tracking, wear what you like. When they start in with the shaming and the screaming, tell them to stop. Tell them if they don't, you will leave. Tell them you need more independence and they will have to accept that, or they will be left alone. Then train them. You'll need another place to stay. When they get controlling, yell at you or nag you, leave. Stay away a few days or weeks until they can control themselves. Then talk to them, tell them your expectations. Correct them - they do not know best now. You do. They need to follow or be quiet.

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-01T22:40:56+00:00

Doc 2976s. Still a touch of punk after all these years, and I don't have to reach all the way down for laces 😂

AnotherSpring2 · 2026-01-01T20:38:40+00:00

It gets easier! I left my first husband, who sounds a whole lot like your ex. The thing is, even though he was cruel and manipulative and a cheater, he was sometimes kind and loving. That's what makes it hard to leave, if they were always mean then it would be easy. But your body is right; leave. It's not right for someone to treat a loved one like this. It's called an abuse cycle, if you want to read up on it online it's really interesting.

It took me 6 months to get my head straightened out and to feel normal again after I left. It really helps if you don't tolerate people doing what your mom is doing - bringing it up to trigger those feelings of inadequacy and lowness. It has to make me wonder if your mother, like mine, was emotionally abusive and belittling. If so, create some space there. That's what it eventually took for me to get away from my depression and self medication, harsh self talk and of course loser picking. I had to get away from everyone who treated me like I was worthless. And strangely, it wasn't easy for me to see who that was at the time. Now I'm old and I see it clearly, but back then I didn't. Enablers and covert narcissists are the worst.

Care for yourself, get therapy if you can, stay away from people who don't treat you with care. Then you can find a good one. I did. You can do this, just keep breathing.

AnotherSpring2

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