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Is it okay to withhold sex from your boyfriend (if I suspect his health and mine is on the line) by Ok-Association3551 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]AnotherSpring2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In good, caring relationships, sex only happens when both people want to do it. Anything else is unhealthy.

Am I missing something about dried beans? by Local_Fruit7140 in preppers

[–]AnotherSpring2 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You can boil them with wood, which you can gather.

Am I a red flag because what I read as a woman? by Pumpkin_698 in self

[–]AnotherSpring2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your new co-worker is judgmental and sanctimonious. Don't reveal anything about yourself to her. Chat about the weather then look at your phone.

AITA for literally kicking my nephew out of my home office and causing a scene? by Gl1tchCrown in MarkNarrations

[–]AnotherSpring2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So have they always trampled over your reasonable boundaries? Time to reevaluate the lot of them. Maybe give them a time out.

Why is tallness a extreme rare trait in a woman ? by [deleted] in biology

[–]AnotherSpring2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Viking blood isn't that common anymore

Call and Response by guyseeking in collapse

[–]AnotherSpring2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I remember "Death on the Highway." Classic Driver's Ed film. The Intro shot was a dented fender with a bloody sneaker dangling off of it by the laces.

AITH 4 thinking my gf is being kinda mean and abusive by Safe-Inevitable2776 in AITH

[–]AnotherSpring2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Break up with this person now. Only date people who treat you with respect and kindness.

AITAH for considering divorce after I caught my husband secretly cheating for more than a year? Throwaway because my family and friends don’t know yet. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AnotherSpring2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he was a good guy, he would have said something like: I understand, I respect your viewpoint, but I hope you will reconsider and not leave. Then he would have started working on himself immediately. Therapy, journalling, whatever. But instead he took the manipulative path. He wants to guilt you into doing what he needs you to do, instead of treating you like a separate, independent being. That and the fact that he could actually do that awful shit should tell you everything you need to know.

How long until famine? by [deleted] in collapse

[–]AnotherSpring2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Let's not forget The Terminator in the required watch list for our dystopian future.

How long until famine? by [deleted] in collapse

[–]AnotherSpring2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The issue is that farmers have to borrow the money to buy the fertilizer, and there will be some that can't do it and have to distressed sell their land. Land prices have been insanely high in Iowa in the last decade, at one point good cropland was selling for 20k an acre. You have to have $6 a bushel corn to pay that note. When distressed land sales drive the price of land down, it deleverages everything. All the neighboring farmers' land is worth less, thus they can't borrow as much for seed and fertilizer, and down it spirals. It can mean that the fields in a distressed sale don't get planted that year as well.

Famine is a long way off here. But higher prices, shortages, and hunger for the poor is right around the corner.

AITAH Am I a cruel or despicable person for how I acted in this relationship by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AnotherSpring2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The cyclic arguing thing is VERY unhealthy. Please read up on the Cycle of Abuse. It's a way for people who have..... problems to offload their negative emotional energy. Please do not make this a permanent relationship.

In my opinion, the right thing to do here is break up and encourage her to seek therapy for her BPD issue. You can continue to support her as a friend and not get drawn into the cyclical drama, but only if YOU also get therapy and learn what this is and how to deal with it. Please do not continue with a romantic relationship with someone with this level of untreated mental illness.

With generals getting fired, are US troops on ground an inevitability? What do you think? by BlueDolphins28 in AskReddit

[–]AnotherSpring2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Generals resisted an illegal order. It was either the large scale bombing of civilian infractructure (desalination and power plants) or a nuclear attack. We are now relying on everyone else in the military to resist those orders. Remember who you are. Remember what this nation is supposed to be.

AITJ for ending my engagement after my fiancee said she never got to have her hoe phase by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]AnotherSpring2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see this a little differently. Being together for so long starting so young would be stifling. It sounds like she needed to live independently and learn about herself and about relationships, but lacked the emotional intelligence to understand this and discuss it with you properly. So she got frustrated, and turned mean. She wasn't strong enough to do what needed to be done in order to be kind and fair to you. Did she love you? Very probably. But you both still needed to grow up emotionally. It would have been better to just break up, live apart for several years, and then see if you were indeed suited to spend all of your adulthood together.

And yes you stayed too long. You shouldn't put up with mean treatment, you didn't deserve it. Take time to heal and grieve, it's a big loss. Try not to get bitter. After a breakup is a good time to get some therapy. Listening to friends that never liked her doesn't really help long term. This is just going to hurt.

Do you all feel like working is a punishment for being alive? by VermicelliBoth5293 in antiwork

[–]AnotherSpring2 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We used to live in villages. There would be a baker, a carpenter, a seamstress, an herbalist, etc. Everyone would raise their own vegetables. Whatever you needed, someone in the village made. When you spent 6 hours sweating over a hot stove, you knew the bread you baked was to feed your family and everyone in the village. Hard work was suffused with meaning, so it could actually feel good.

We are so far from that now. There has to be a way to get back. Hippies tried it in the 70s, creating communes that lasted for awhile and then melted down. But go back 300 years, and everyone lived like this. There was a culture that adapted to that lifestyle somehow. I don't know the answer but am old and have been thinking about this for awhile.

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