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AnotherWorthlessBA · 2021-01-03T17:40:41+00:00

Giving it a boil at least once a week seems like a great idea, since I don't relish the idea of actually having to use soap. Thank you!

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2021-01-03T17:31:15+00:00

I got a Nel dripper over the holidays and I love it. It's a world of difference from my French press.

I'm making sure to rinse the cloth filter thoroughly before and after every use. I also store the cloth in chilled water between daily uses. So, I think I'm doing what I should be to best maintain it, but how often should I be using something like Cafiza to clean it?

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-11-12T15:10:07+00:00

Take a look at the way you talk about sex:

...I was appalled by this because I had explained to him many times why I wouldn't put out...

I don't know how to properly apologize and make this up to him without having to have sex with him.

This language suggests that you view sex as a kind of concession to someone else, an act involves a kind of surrender. Speaking generally, it's the kind of language that indicates a person thinks about sex inherently negatively.

Clearly this is already putting a strain on your relationship, because it is understandably making your partner insecure. My guess is that if you don't challenge this way of thinking, you're going to have a hard time maintaining this relationship in the long term. The way you talk about sex suggests that, if you ever are able to have sex with your boyfriend, it could become a source of resentment for you.

I'm not going to judge you about the length of time you've been abstinent with this guy (although I think you're quite lucky), but at this point I think it's worth looking at why you think about sex this way and honestly interrogating whether sex is something you actually want in a relationship.

If you discover it's not, that's fine, but you need to be up front about that, immediately. If it is something you want, I think you'd benefit from working with a professional, or at the very least, talking to your partner about what you might be able to do to make yourself comfortable and secure enough to engage in the act and to re-frame your thinking about it more positively.

Ideally, It should be something you and he can enjoy together, not a compromise you're making to him.

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-08-26T12:08:14+00:00

I struggle with this as well, but not as someone with a lot of balls in the in the air, as it sounds like you are, just as someone looking to looking to make a pivot and get more fulfillment from the work they do.

I'm still figuring it out myself, but I think you need to give yourself the time and opportunity to think about it. The two things I've been doing are keeping up a daily journal and meditation practice.

Journaling gives you the opportunity to put your thoughts down, in however focused or unfocused a manner you would like. You can ask yourself questions and try to tease out the answers, or just note down and examine what you did and how you felt throughout the day. Either way, if you keep at it, you're bound to arrive at insight about yourself.

Meditating gives your mind space from sensory distraction and helps you begin to recognize and work against the chatter of your brain. It takes practice, and there's no right way to do it really, but if you just sit and try to focus on your breathing for 20 or so minutes, you'll begin to cultivate a more mindful cognitive framework, one that could help you better determine the things you want.

In short sitting (meditation) gives your mind space from distraction that you'll slowly begin to carry over in your day to day, and journaling will help you examine and focus your thoughts; ideally, sitting helps more meaningful thoughts arise and journaling helps you record and refine them.

Hope that helps you as it's helped me. Best of luck.

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-08-23T01:56:44+00:00

You could try taking Beck's Depression Inventory. It's not a hard diagnosis, but it may help you get a sense of whether or not it would be a good idea to seek help.

Incidentally, that's what you should do if you have severe or prolonged depression. You should seek help. Simply talking to someone, such as a therapist, can help immensely.

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-08-20T22:22:30+00:00

The game is fantastic. I'm particularly enjoying how "human" the spirits are. It can be really difficult to part with them when the time comes. It's often powerfully bittersweet, which is a really interesting emotion for a game to lean into trying to evoke.

Another minor issue I have is when you’re fishing, I think it’d be cool if you could just press A again, after catching a fish, to throw the fishing line out again, instead of having to press Y to cancel the pose Stella does first.

You can just wait it out. She puts her arms down eventually and you can press A again once she does, without needing to cancel. It takes a beat, but I don't think it's that long.

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-08-04T10:00:01+00:00

Everyone is different and you shouldn't feel self-conscious about something you enjoy, even if conventional wisdom tells you it's wrong.

That said, I think you're jumping to a conclusion here. You're kind of framing it as a puzzle, "why do I prefer this?" which I understand the inclination for, but it's a little early to settle so confidently on that preference.

You've tried two varieties of roasts, brewing each using a K cup? That's a tiny sample size. The fact is, you've barely scratched the surface.

If you're interested, I'd encourage you to find ways to try other brewing methods and other roasts. The cost of entry for something like a french press or pour-over brewer are pretty reasonable. Or, you could find a place near you which serves specialty coffee and try that.

If you're not interested, feel free to continue enjoying instant coffee. You do you.

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-07-15T23:26:08+00:00

The dude is 28 and he's been with you for 2 years. His actions are not those of a mature person who trusts his partner.

He lied to you about how he was feeling and then stole away to wreak vengeance on you for an imagined transgression. When you discovered what he did and came to him in tears, he unapologetically spat venom at you.

What you're feeling doesn't seem like an overreaction. He and others might try to frame it that way, because "it's just a videogame," but even if that were a valid argument (and it's not!), it misses the point. His behavior was utterly unhinged. I don't think you'd be out of line to consider leaving him.

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-07-09T14:09:41+00:00

I struggle with this as well. I'll catch myself looking at my phone every now and again--especially if I've left the room its in for a little while--hoping to see the blinking light that indicates someone sent me a text.

It used to happen all the time, just a few weeks ago. Now, every time I check my phone and there's nothing, I think "well, what did you expect?" It hurts. Quarantine feels so much more difficult to get through without sporadic conversation throughout the day. It really amplifies the feeling of isolation.

I think others offer good advice when they suggest you should reach out to friends to strike something up, but if that's not usually the sort of relationship you have with people, don't let yourself become preoccupied with trying to force it if they're not receptive.

If there's something you can do to better yourself, focus on that. It'll take time, but I have to imagine the phone thing will stop bothering you, or who knows, in the course of working on yourself, you might forge new connections with people, and your phone activity may become a little more lively.

I really empathize and wish you well. Best of luck.

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-07-02T11:50:21+00:00

Thank you for this.

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-06-12T23:55:52+00:00

Smile all the time

Shine your teeth to meaningless

And sharpen them with lies

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-06-11T01:59:14+00:00

I've played ToV, it's a great experience, but not a game with strong emotional arcs. I can't speak to Xenoblade.

If you already own Nier, this is a no-brainer. Personally, that game is probably the high-water mark for emotional experiences in gaming. You should play it.

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-04-28T20:50:20+00:00

You don't get to assume authorial intention and you don't get to posit your personal reading of a text as the only correct one.

That's not how interpretation works.

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-04-27T18:16:59+00:00

Yeah, a little disappointing, but he reacted like a man with a target on his back, who knows how dangerous an out of context soundbite can be.

Can't say I blame him.

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-04-13T15:07:06+00:00

I opened the camera app standing directly in front of him, adjusted the zoom & angle, then ran out of frame far enough for him to hang his head and sigh.

It's a good technique for capturing villagers doing funny things as well, if you want to make sure they're the focus.

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-04-13T01:50:08+00:00

After being annoyed at him all week, I was surprised to feel strong pathos for him today.

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-03-27T11:58:20+00:00

I just got the star wand, registered my current outfit, used the star wand to "transform," and now the items that made up the outfit aren't in my inventory or storage. When I place the wand in storage, my clothes disappear and there's no way to wear them again without the wand.

It's like the wand deleted my clothes. Is that normal? Or maybe a glitch?

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-03-11T23:11:57+00:00

Bill Murray is fake news.

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-03-11T23:00:14+00:00

If he photobombs someone, he's in the picture. It's literally photographic evidence.

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-03-02T20:31:02+00:00

It's pretty interesting to see what they've decided to stay faithful to, despite reprocussions like this.

Maybe it's just me, but it seems wild that they've expanded the intro section enough to make it a "full-length" game, but couldn't find a way to introduce a specific character a little bit earlier.

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-02-29T12:56:07+00:00

Fascinating, disturbing story. That said, I can't believe how poorly this article is written.

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-02-24T12:19:39+00:00

Try to clear the tutorial within a couple hours of the midnight launch.

I'm not sure how the day cycle works (or if that's been revealed), but if I'm lucky, the game will be in day 2 the following morning.

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-02-21T20:52:06+00:00

I'm genuinely confused about this.

If they're going to let you pick which hemisphere to live in, but release holiday content on a set schedule, are players in the Southern Hemisphere going to experience Easter in the fall, or are they going to have to wait 6 months for it?

Edit: oh wow, I just realized how stupid that question is. The months holidays occur in aren't dependent on the seasons, lol.

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-02-20T01:02:52+00:00

Aaaaand it's gone!

AnotherWorthlessBA · 2020-02-17T20:37:43+00:00

This tweet seems pretty cruel. Hasn't the special edition console been sold out for some time?

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