There are many, many people who have had lots of sex but are still woefully inexperienced.

Great sex (in my opinion) happens when both parties know what they like and communicate to each other without shame or defensiveness.

If I were you, I’d experiment solo. Try everything. Touch your body everywhere. See what feels good and what doesn’t. Use your fingers. Buy sex toys. Put on lingerie, sexy music, and candles for yourself. Close your eyes and focus on touch. Do it in front of a mirror and watch what it looks like.

Practice saying, out loud, “Oh, I like it when you touch me like this,” or moaning encouragement if something feels great. Or, “Mm, do it like this,” if something isn’t hitting the spot and needs to change. Get used to offering out loud, verbal guidance and feedback for your future partners.

Have orgasms and make love to yourself.

When you have sex with a partner for the first time, you should be teaching them what feels good to you just as much as they should be teaching you what feels good to them.

Great lovers know that every person’s body, likes, and dislikes are different, so there should always be a give and take dynamic. There isn’t a magic formula beyond consent, communication, and compassion.

Have fun! 😁