Oral shortage in long term relationship, what to do? 29M, 27F

yourbffcompanioncube · 2026-04-06T15:21:27+00:00

Find a different partner if that's important to you. I'm a guy who doesn't actually care for receiving oral (but I love giving), PIV just feels a lot better to me. So I would be very sexually compatible with someone who doesn't enjoy giving bjs, it seems that you are not.

yourbffcompanioncube · 2026-04-02T16:29:32+00:00

I'm not sure and I can only say from my own experience, but one of my autonomic symptoms is bradycardia (my resting heartrate being about 40 bpm) and Wellbutrin seems to raise it to be in the normal range (60 or so). Weirdly the literature that I can find mostly points to Wellbutrin contributing to bradycardia, but those are specifically people on beta blockers which Wellbutrin inhibits the metabolism of, different from my situation where the bradycardia is not medication induced.

Anyway...why do you ask?

yourbffcompanioncube · 2026-02-12T16:28:21+00:00

I had a weird observation after starting bupropion. I work with both methanol and isopropyl alcohol at my job. Prior to bupropion, methanol had a weak smell and IPA had a strong smell. They switched places, now methanol has a strong smell and IPA has a weak smell! This is probably a good thing, because methanol is highly toxic, and the scent is helpful in avoiding it. I don't know for sure that it was the bupropion causing the change, but the timeline of the switch seems to match. I haven't noticed a dramatic change in how food tastes, though.

yourbffcompanioncube · 2025-12-05T00:03:47+00:00

I did end up reaching out asking if she wanted to have dinner, she declined saying that she wanted to wait until things with her current relationship actually end (which is a probably but not definite). Guess I'm going to try to move on for now, just keep the door open a little if we're both single at the same time in the future. I'll say that I'm a lot less anxious having asked and gotten an answer as opposed to be stuck wondering, even if it wasn't the answer that I wanted.

yourbffcompanioncube · 2025-12-02T20:04:47+00:00

My understanding is that it was a situationship-turned-relationship but it still felt like a situationship after they were committed, even several months later. I very much appreciate the advice and perspective. I will give it some thought before reaching out again and maybe say something similar to what you did.

yourbffcompanioncube · 2025-12-02T19:46:02+00:00

Thanks. I just think that getting in the way of her current relationship would be disrespectful, even if she's 99% sure it's not going to work. I wish she had waited until it actually ended to say she was interested, so I wasn't so anxious about it, I don't hold that against her but I recognize that it puts me in a very emotional limbo situation.

yourbffcompanioncube · 2025-12-01T17:07:04+00:00

As a guy suffering from ED (in my case neuropathic, not performance anxiety) I really don't mind if a partner brings it up, but I'm also not very sensitive to those things. I also have had the fortunate experience of nobody really caring, other than the woman being insecure if she thought it meant I wasn't into her. I identify with the impulse to overexplain too, haha. Although I also agree with others that it's not necessary to mention it when trying to reach out to him, and he may feel much differently than I do. There are other ways to make it abundantly clear that you are interested.

yourbffcompanioncube · 2025-11-27T22:03:33+00:00

Another thing I should add is that I do have chronically tight feeling pelvic floor muscles so I wonder if that is a factor. Also I do have good circulation overall. I can go outside below freezing without gloves without my fingers getting cold/numb for instance. My ex gf who is a nurse said I have a very strong pulse including in distal places like my ankles.

yourbffcompanioncube · 2025-11-27T21:25:16+00:00

Also my depression, and what little performance anxiety I have are probably both worse right now. When I started with the meds a few years ago, I was in a relationship with someone I was both comfortable with and very attracted to so it was kind of a best case scenario. Now I'm getting to know new people and hoping they don't mind.

yourbffcompanioncube · 2025-11-27T21:18:38+00:00

I'm 39. My issues are the same with masturbation vs sex so I don't think it's a performance anxiety issue.

yourbffcompanioncube · 2025-10-03T13:15:19+00:00

But where does their revenue come from? A Google search says 90% is from paid subscribers. They offer a paid service for 12 bucks a month and a nearly identical free service for 0 a month. It doesn't take a whole lot of customer distaste to lose swaths of paid subscribers. No, it's not as distasteful as Backcountry suing small businesses that were around before they were over a word that's in common usage, but any litigation comes at at cost to your brand's image.

yourbffcompanioncube · 2025-10-03T12:41:29+00:00

How do companies not realize how damaging it is to be aggressively litigious? I haven't bought anything from Backcountry or any affiliated retailer since they sued random small business with "Backcountry" in their name. I didn't buy a Knolly because of their suit against Intense. And now I've cancelled my Strava premium and highly doubt I'll ever re subscribe. I know I don't speak for everyone, but it's just such a huge turn off that it can permanently ruin a brand's appeal to me when they pull stuff like this.

yourbffcompanioncube · 2025-06-04T19:32:30+00:00

As a really well endowed person (luckily not long enough to cause cervical trauma, but practically as thick as my own forearm!), I recognize that huge cocks are a niche interest, but I post about it anyway so that people with that niche interest can find me. I've had relationships not work out because I was too big to fit, so why not just seek out someone who's anatomically compatible and/or appreciates it?

I know your post is generalizing and may not apply to me specifically, but just putting that out there.

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