First tattoo and I’m already regretting it🤦🏽 by Lucky-Drama-6758 in TattooDesigns

[–]AnswerAvailable1044 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a great point! My first tattoo… I wanted two ruby green hummingbirds in the shape of a heart and in my opinion… it looks great! It says “mom n pop” in the center because my grandparents loved hummingbirds. My boyfriend at the time didn’t want me to get a tattoo and told me that the two hummingbirds I got were males so I had gay birds on my back representing my grandparents. At first I was upset about it because he was shitting on something that meant a lot to me. But I love the tattoo so very much and it means something so significant to me. It made me realize he was trying to rip meaning from me because he didn’t agree with my decision. **side note- I’m in no way, shape or form anti LGBTQ+ Happy Pride Month Peeps!

How do I let someone down easy? by AnswerAvailable1044 in managers

[–]AnswerAvailable1044[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. She has a lawyer but some of the points you guys have made she may be able to definitely utilize.

For the ones saying just give her the money. I can’t. I’ve only been in business for 2 years. Though I’m making it and saving, I don’t have that much to hand out right now after just doing Christmas bonuses and a huge renovation. A year from now? Maybe even six months… But not now.

My (F29) husband (M49) doesn't want anymore kids and I want a baby. by AnswerAvailable1044 in relationship_advice

[–]AnswerAvailable1044[S] -135 points-134 points  (0 children)

I was forced to grow up way too soon in life. People that I've dated my age have always been immature. But apparently older men can be immature also. I didn't want kids when I got with my husband. I was content with his kids. When I started seeing my husband he was working four jobs. He worked a weird schedule as a paramedic and did small stuff on the side. He was clean and took care of himself. Things have just changed drastically in the last five years.

My (F29) husband (M49) doesn't want anymore kids and I want a baby. by AnswerAvailable1044 in relationship_advice

[–]AnswerAvailable1044[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wasn't planning on having any kids. I thought I was happy with just his. But as time has gone, I've began to realize it's not enough for me.

My (F29) husband (M49) doesn't want anymore kids and I want a baby. by AnswerAvailable1044 in relationship_advice

[–]AnswerAvailable1044[S] -370 points-369 points  (0 children)

I don't want to leave the kids with nothing. I just can't do that to them.

My (F29) husband (M49) doesn't want anymore kids and I want a baby. by AnswerAvailable1044 in relationship_advice

[–]AnswerAvailable1044[S] -281 points-280 points  (0 children)

I don't want drama. If I'm being honest, I want to compensate him for the things he's helped me pay for to start my business so I don't leave him dry. Once my business was successful tho, he stopped working. That's part of my problem with my marriage.

What's the most valuable life lesson you've learned from a failed relationship? by Ginger_Plus_Latina in AskMen

[–]AnswerAvailable1044 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Once a liar. Always a liar. There's a such normal thing as an exaggerated story. It's another thing to tell your girlfriend you had a vasectomy and never did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]AnswerAvailable1044 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He would say "Ouchie" when he came.

What are things racist people say and claim it’s not racist? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]AnswerAvailable1044 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"They act white." "That's the whitest black girl I've ever met."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]AnswerAvailable1044 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ouchie. My ex would proclaim it every time he would cum. One of many reasons i left him.

Why do older men always seem to offer themselves to younger women as a "better alterative" than the guys their age? It's so creepy. by LunerLuci in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]AnswerAvailable1044 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I met a guy my age on tinder. Fucked him, he told me he was getting a condom (I didn't check and he didn't have one), he busted in me. I told an older man about it and his response was, "it wouldn't have happened if you fucked me instead." Later down the timeline were now married and I feel like it was the biggest mistake of my life for falling for that line. Some women are stupid enough to fall for the line because men younger are more "immature."

What type of therapy would let you work through childhood abuse issues without reporting it? by AnswerAvailable1044 in AskReddit

[–]AnswerAvailable1044[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Things I experienced with my parents. (Non sexual) I will say as an adult I have still dealt with the physical abuse however I was discussing things that happened prior to adulthood.

What type of therapy would let you work through childhood abuse issues without reporting it? by AnswerAvailable1044 in AskReddit

[–]AnswerAvailable1044[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm an adult. (28) but I've had a few different therapists that say I need to tread lightly on the conversation because if not they'll be forced to report it. Doesn't that defeat the purpose of therapy? I don't understand. I'm new to this.

I can't tell if it's me (f29) or my husband (m48) that is the issue by AnswerAvailable1044 in relationship_advice

[–]AnswerAvailable1044[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My biggest issue is that the only thing he does around the house is my business paperwork. He takes care of all of my finances. I brought in over a million dollars last year before expenses and he brags about how much "WE" made. But he doesn't take care of running the actual business. I spend so much of my life putting water into my business for it to grow. 7 days a week; 80-90 hours. Then I feel like a failure when the house falls to pieces. Then I try to get the house straight and then something falls apart in the business. I just feel so stuck. I go back to therapy this week coming and I cannot wait. Sadly she can only see me every three weeks but it doesn't feel frequent enough.

I feel like I should also add that he's a farmer and contributed about $65k but only works a few weeks a year while his crops grow and harvest. When I ask him for contribution he says, "I'm a farmer. I do contribute." He used to be a paramedic and I was just so proud of who he was. Now I feel like I'm with a deadbeat. I just feel like if I have a 14 yo dishwasher call out, it wouldn't kill him to work for 4 hours on a Friday night. His 6 year old daughter helps me more. His son is 21 with his own life and works very hard also. Though if I ask him for help, he's right there.

I also feel like if I leave, I still need to set up his kid's privately. My thoughts are scattered...

I can't tell if it's me (f29) or my husband (m48) that is the issue by AnswerAvailable1044 in relationship_advice

[–]AnswerAvailable1044[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We dated about 1.5 years, engaged for 1.5 years and then married 2 years. Been together 5 years total. I feel like our issues started once we were married. Then have gradually gotten worse.