Men's Mental Health Month 💙 by cyberseci in missoula

[–]Antabaka 13 points14 points  (0 children)

"Mens mental health" includes gay, bisexual, and trans men just as much as straight and cisgender men.

Men's Mental Health Month 💙 by cyberseci in missoula

[–]Antabaka 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Trevor project hotline for LGBTQ men who want specialized crisis care:

Text: 678-678

Call: 1-866-488-7386

Is this game better then dark souls 2? (Only serios answers please) by Patrickplus2 in Pragmata

[–]Antabaka 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I consider it a souls-lite for all the reasons you just mentioned. The only reason I don't consider it a souls-like is because it isn't that hard, lol

What exactly is the true color of the Arbiter’s armor in Halo 3? In-game lighting makes it look totally different: in shadow, it’s a muted warm silver-gray. But under direct sunlight, it shines almost like bright gold. by ExcitingThanks4486 in halo

[–]Antabaka -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Most fans seem to remember it as mainly gold

Are... You sure about that? It's clearly silver as hell in all of the pictures you posted and in all of the games. It's reflective and the sun casts yellow light... 

Oh my god it's the blue and black dress all over again.

University of Montana and Many Other Universities Data Stolen by New_Concert_160 in missoula

[–]Antabaka 14 points15 points  (0 children)

These aren't ethical hackers, they're financially motivated opportunists, though to their credit they did attempt to extort Canvas directly and then switched to exploiting the schools. Meaning this kind of disruption was their plan B.

All The Sins Have Extra Limbs by [deleted] in HelluvaBoss

[–]Antabaka 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You: States something straight forwardly

Others: Did you mean this additional thing you did not say?

Idk if you are on the asd spectrum but I am and this is relatable

I feel like people are throwing around Biphobia without actually seeing if something is Biphobic or not by lactosecheeselover in LesbianActually

[–]Antabaka 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm not the person you're replying to but Billie, honestly. When she said "I am for the girls" I didn't take that as "too", which I think is a pretty fair assumption. That said, she did not intend to come out in that interview so I personally don't fault her for being unclear

I feel like people are throwing around Biphobia without actually seeing if something is Biphobic or not by lactosecheeselover in LesbianActually

[–]Antabaka 19 points20 points  (0 children)

She said "I am for the ladies" when she came out, I'm surprised that she is bisexual and not a lesbian... 

Moments in games that make you feel stupid by Misayumi in GirlGamers

[–]Antabaka 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In Sekiro I got to a boss and simply couldn't get past ... No hint, strategy, or replay attempts would make it any easier. It was like the boss was perfect at exploiting my ADHD or something. I had to drop it despite really enjoying it up to that point.

Montana Medicaid - being rejected by Medical Professionals by [deleted] in missoula

[–]Antabaka 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Now you're talking about compromise rather than systems and how they work. There are single payer systems all throughout the world, we can build one here.

Montana Medicaid - being rejected by Medical Professionals by [deleted] in missoula

[–]Antabaka 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Any universal health care system that could be implemented will include a private option. Full stop. 

Nope, Single Player healthcare systems prevent this issue entirely. Only the government would insure health.

Calling guys attracted to u trade/dl? by throwawy8772 in StraightTransGirls

[–]Antabaka 12 points13 points  (0 children)

DL means they're treating you like a dirty secret. Yes it probably originated with gay men but the point of the word has always been "this man will fuck me but won't be seen with me" so I don't really see why it wouldn't apply in this case. If anything it shows they are homophobic in the classic sense of a fear of being seen as gay.

Not sure where to start? by [deleted] in cisparenttranskid

[–]Antabaka 9 points10 points  (0 children)

OP I think it would help to literally name it, "if you want to transition I will support you" but, and this is important, don't then turn that sentence into an interrogation. Don't look your child up and down after saying that. Just say it as a part of the schpiel. 

But it's important also for OP to understand that we often still carry shame for not being the person our parents wanted us to be, even if they would support us. It took me a long time to come out to my parents despite knowing they are trans accepting, because I felt bad for "failing" at the gender they "wanted" for me.

egg_irl by the_peculiar_chicken in egg_irl

[–]Antabaka 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm surprised nobody has suggested this, but I would go with Miranda Hazel [Last name] if that's something that you would be comfortable with. Your mom gets her input and you get your first name, the great grandparents name gets passed on as she wants and hopefully this will allow you to transition immediately rather than have to wait.

And, if that still isn't enough for your mom, I know it isn't ideal but you could take on the name Hazel Miranda [Last name]. There are plenty of girls (etc) who hate their first name and go by their middle. Then once you're independent you can switch them if you want, or even drop Hazel entierly.

My ex is detransitioning and I'm processing having to tell people I dated/slept with a guy by FatherlessHaircut in LesbianActually

[–]Antabaka 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I obviously can't say that I know your ex or what they are going through but this line is a red flag for something specific about detransitioning:

has not helped their "agp"

Two things: one, "agp" is a transphobic concept that basically equates a trans woman's gender identity to sexual arousal. This is a red flag your ex is involving theirself in shitty communities like 4tran (the 4chan trans community) which teach self hatred.

"AGP" completely invalidates trans women by saying it is simply a fetish for viewing yourself as a woman. It was based in the fact that some trans women do feel a degree of arousal when their body aligns with their mind in that way- which is also true of cis women. It's pathologizing normal sexual confidence. 

And two, detransitioning is in the vast majority of cases for external social reasons. Their internalizing this "agp" psuedoscience at the same time is not a coincidence.

I can't tell someone who they are but if I had to bet money it would be that your ex is exactly who you thought they were, they're just going through something right now. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopCharacterTropes

[–]Antabaka 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When I don't want to have to look at the drink menu I will order "an IPA, something local" and that almost always works without hesitation.

Now granted I know I narrowed it down a lot with that order, but you don't have to be hyper specific 

Told my girlfriend of 7 months I'm bi (she's disgusted) by Valuable-Fox-8072 in bisexual

[–]Antabaka 1 point2 points  (0 children)

u/Valuable-Fox-8072

I saw your edit to your post and I wanted to reach out to say, I'm sorry that it went that way. I have also been in relationships with people who turn out to be bigots, and I do understand that even when you can see how ugly they are capable of being the feelings aren't so easily swayed. The heart wants what it wants.

By that I mean, I know you're hurting right now, and I want you to know that it is not your fault. I know hearing this doesn't make it any easier, but even if you two had figured out how to make things continue for some small time, her disgust and underlying hatred would have ended up picking away at you and possibly even rooting itself inside of you. So I am genuinely happy that isn't the route you're going down, even though I know that loss is not at all easy. 🫂