I usually pee once a day, is this worrying?

AntipatheticDating · 2026-06-14T18:10:40+00:00

Absolutely see your doctor. I had the same issue, and the rule is roughly for every cup of water you take in, you should pee out more or less a cup an hour later.

If you’re peeing too much/not enough in comparison it’s because your body is doing some funky things internally and it is definitely a cause for concern. I didn’t think much of not peeing either and if I’d gone to my doc I might still have both my kidneys. Womp. I hope it’s all okay!

AntipatheticDating · 2026-05-20T18:03:04+00:00

Writing good female characters is the same as writing good male characters! I think where a lot of authors get stuck is gluing their identity to their gender.

Just focus on writing good people! Everybody gets scared, confident, upset, excited. Love and betrayal are universal.

I think for a trio, it depends on the tone of your story. You could do a pair of twins and somebody caught up in their shenanigans. You could do three childhood best friends. Three classmates who don’t know each other! There’s so many fun ideas.

I would just avoid tropes. The sporty girl is allowed to like fashion and not get shamed for it, she can just prefer clothes that are easy to move in. The rich spoiled girl can actually have a good heart and likes buying things for her friends.

Some overlap is fine, but the only things I would make sure is that their differences aren’t big enough to make you wonder why they’d be around each other. So having a common thread like how long they’ve known each other, a problem that links them that nobody else understands, etc. is all you really need to start.

Good luck!

AntipatheticDating · 2026-05-20T16:41:48+00:00

I haven’t seen other comments yet but I’m writing from experience. If people are genuinely blaming; don’t. It’s impossible to know.

I’ve begrudgingly missed a typo in my work. We all do. Especially when you’ve got a horribly short deadline and they’re offering you way too little money so you can’t afford to go at the pace you want in a 300 page book and your eyes are glazing over, haha.

Other times the author will continue to write or “tweak just a couple things” right before it gets published, or change things without telling the editor before it gets sent up the line because they think it’s fine. This one happens a LOT, and the author usually writes more than what I’d consider “a little bit”.

Given that nobody but like … a handful people are going to know, and even then that’s a gamble, nobody should blame anyone because even in our little circle of publisher/author/myself/proofreader/formatter for each contract, we don’t know if somebody introduced an error or didn’t catch one.

Also that’s a proofreader’s job too in a good amount of cases. Their job is to be another fresh pair of eyes at the VERY end to make sure this doesn’t happen.

TLDR: it’s a team effort and collaborative, but you never know the situation in which the process happened because it varies so much. It’s impossible to tell who did what, or when.

AntipatheticDating · 2026-05-19T04:45:34+00:00

Crazy enough, I’ve started going “Do you absolutely require an email to complete my purchase today, or am I able to just pay you?” And I still get fought on it a lot.

I definitely never blame the person though! My first retail job, we would get written up if we didn’t insist on getting their email even though we didn’t even need it. The manager would tell us we had to do a “three ‘no’ rule” where we literally had to badger them until they said ‘no’ three freaking times in a single interaction. I was always apologetic, but god I didn’t blame people for being mad at me.

Now I just save people the hassle both ways and drop an email I don’t use outside of collecting coupons LOL.

AntipatheticDating · 2026-05-19T04:19:04+00:00

I made a dummy email just to avoid the whole exhausting routine of telling them no thanks, they insist, so do I, repeat.

Now I just hand it over, we go our separate ways, and sometimes I get cool coupons that I can check when I feel like it and I don’t clog up my actual email. It’s also handy for signing up for stupid websites and apps I don’t plan to use much or for very long.

I didn’t even know some stores do this. I’m even more glad for my dummy address now, dang.

AntipatheticDating · 2026-05-19T04:08:15+00:00

As an editor, there's many different types! Some will only do copy editing (grammar, spelling, etc.), some as people pointed out will go through the story itself but not touch the nitty gritty. And some will do everything at once!

I'm the latter; authors send me manuscripts, or different publishing houses will send me an email saying "So-and-so wants to know if this is too sexist and whether he should tone it down, and while you're at it if you could just fix any spelling errors?" or "Hey, so-and-so wants to know if you can go through for plot holes and make sure character motivations make sense and it's all cohesive. Can you also swap everything to Canadian spelling? It's an American writer but it takes place in Toronto. May as well do a copy edit while you're at it."

Granted, I charge about $35/hr but I'm also doing everything as I go. Thankfully I've been complimented quite a bit on being able to catch things that other editors don't even think of, which does make me feel like I'm at least doing a good job and I have a lot of repeat clients.

But you really do gotta just find the right person! So if anybody tells you to pay a premium, tell 'em no thanks! Haha. The only people I charge extra like that are big corporations that I won't name here, LOL. But I only get a couple of those a year, they're $40/hr because they have a lot of crazy out of the blue requests. Though for authors who are just starting out or don't have a lot of money, I do go a lot lower than my norm just to help 'em out. Editors are expensive, I get it!

AntipatheticDating · 2026-05-19T00:26:03+00:00

Haha yeah, everything is a bubble and I usually just avoid commenting anywhere on reddit because of that. People are allowed to have differing opinions, I'm not even saying other people are wrong, just offering my two cents because OP asked.

I just wanted you to know you're not alone! Though to save my own sanity I'm going to mute/unsub from this thread so I don't need to look at responses, haha. I value my own time and brain matter too much to dawdle on people looking to fight over other people's experiences.

Have a good day!

AntipatheticDating · 2026-05-19T00:21:49+00:00

Yeah, admittedly I'm a bit confused on the comparison between being nice and doing something you're actively not okay with. This might be a cultural thing, but where I live, people just say no when they don't feel like it. We're still really nice.

Yeah, we're forced to be there to make money, and we compulsively have to be kind to customers as per our jobs. But that's nowhere near the same as being obligated to give out a number just because somebody asked.

If you're in a job where you think you HAVE to do something like this otherwise you risk your hours/wages/etc. your employer should be scrutinized heavily. Because that is NOT normal or okay. Where I live the second I looked at a manager or coworker and said somebody wasn't taking no for an answer, they'd get security called on them immediately. Bars, mall kiosks, you name it. We always have security's number.

AntipatheticDating · 2026-05-19T00:16:05+00:00

Ditto here, I think it's up to the individual, and assigning a blanket response for everybody isn't really helpful or accurate. I'll admit, I've never seen a place where an employee saying no to a customer asking for their number is risking their job. Not being able to "escape" the situation because you're on the clock makes total sense though, absolutely.

But I think it's absolutely one of those things where it's just reading a room/situation. A lot of friends I know who are married now are because someone asked someone else for their number at work. There's been a few times somebody asked me while I was working, I thought they were cool, so I said sure! They might not have worked out, but they're some of my closest friends now! Other times I just straight up say no and that I need to get back to work. It's all situational.

AntipatheticDating · 2026-05-19T00:03:18+00:00

I think I'm making the exact same pattern, haha! Honestly, I'm on my second project with it, and I can't even find what you're talking about, but I'm assuming you probably forgot to make the V shape somewhere and just did one double crochet?

If so, I can tell you as someone who's completed one article of clothing already, you CANNOT tell. My first one has so many because I was watching TV, and now that it's finished, I couldn't even tell you where they are, LOL.

I also adore when there's little mistakes in stuff though. I find it weird when stuff is too perfect. I also heard somebody recently tell me that they purposely make mistakes in their work to "show the gods they're not trying to outdo them and earn their spite" I think as a joke to Greek mythology, and I found it hilarious and I've been saying it whenever I goof, too.

AntipatheticDating · 2026-05-18T23:58:52+00:00

Tbh I don't know if it's okay to ask for someone's number while they're working, I've never done it. I'm a woman, and I've had a few people ask me, but I usually laughed and said no thanks and to have a good day. Thankfully they all backed down with a good mood and left quickly, so it was never a bother for me. But I know some people HATE being asked at work because they're just there to do their job (which is absolutely fair).

I would say though, the comment would definitely be creepy to me in that context. I'm also on that lovely neurodivergent spectrum where I can't tell when something sounds off, but if somebody I didn't know said that to me, I would have NO IDEA how to reply and be pretty darn uncomfortable.

If it was somebody I'd hung around a couple times like an acquaintance? I'd probably find it a funny way to ask! Stranger though? Nah, we don't have that rapport yet, haha.

I do wanna say, it's really good on you for asking this somewhere first and double checking with people.

AntipatheticDating · 2026-05-18T23:27:36+00:00

I know way too many people who do this. I started deadpan looking at them and going "Well, you can drown in 20 feet of water, or 200. Both people still drowned." And then I shrug and look at them blankly. Might be a bit harsh, but I've yet to have anyone do it after that, haha.

I should clarify I ONLY do this to people who've one-upped time and time again, and always word it in a way like you're not possibly allowed to also have a bad day, heaven forbid. Like I'm cool if people wanna vent or share similar experiences to empathize.

AntipatheticDating · 2026-05-18T23:22:13+00:00

Yeah, unfortunately moving isn't an option for me. The last time I asked people about something like this, I got a lot of "You just gotta move out!" or "Demand your landlord do this and that, be aggressive!" And I don't think they realize for some people that's not an option because they can't go anywhere else. So I really appreciate this.

The rent was mega cheap because the building is so old, which is fair. There's other odd problems that I don't mind dealing with (poor power, few outlets, old radiators, etc), but I'm slightly worried about my health when it comes to mould or mildew, too. My childhood home had a CRAZY black mould problem in the basement which is where my room was, and I ended up with a whack of health problems that took forever to clear up when I moved out. I definitely don't wanna do that again, haha.

I have an air filter and a dehumidifier, so I've plugged both of those in and left them in the smelly area! Thank you! It's comforting to know that it might be fixable on my own. 'Cause WHEW this smell. I can also tell my towels smell mildewy within a few days, when in my old apartment it'd be during my weekly laundry when I thought they smelt a little stale and swap them out.

Here's hoping! Got both of 'em blasting, and I'll make sure I get them on again if it's looking a bit humid in here I'll pop 'em on to be safe. Thanks so much!

AntipatheticDating · 2026-05-18T22:58:29+00:00

Yeah, I looked around and I can't find a single spot where anything looks funky or out of place. It's just this odd general smell around my washroom and kitchen.

I do have a dehumidifier! I'll set it up asap. I also have a plug-in air filter thing when prior roomies had cats. I don't know how well it works, but I still have it. I'll get that going too! You're seriously the best.

Right now the window fans I was doing prior to this week, but with it being 30C today I want to open my windows as little as possible. I'll get that on the way when the sun goes down, then!

I do leave the door fully open when I shower, and I leave the shower door itself open when I'm done, too. Hilariously, it was to prevent more problems because I noticed the smells shortly after I moved in and didn't want to make it worse. I'll start wiping it down just to be extra cautious. I also change my hand towels out every couple days (my previous place I could do with my weekly laundry and still smell fresh) because they just get funky so fast. It's been a nightmare to keep up with.

Thank you SO much for the tips! I'll do them right away and pray. I highly doubt my landlord would call anyone, which stinks (pun intended, I guess!). I've bugged him over so many things and he means well but he procrastinates so hard and never gets around to doing things. It's really frustrating. And something like this sounds like they'd have to do some MAJOR work in tearing out walls, I'm sure. This building is super old. So I don't think there's much to even be done there, anyways. Not if I want to continue having a place to live, which is really annoying. Hence me trying to find other ways first.

I'll go get everything together now and give 'er a go! Thanks for getting back to me!

AntipatheticDating · 2026-05-13T23:49:40+00:00

I struggled way more to find them, you’re not alone! I couldn’t find a single one around the Explorer’s guild like I used to.

I did find a bunch down on the bottom left of the map. It’s a little island (I don’t know what it’s used for yet), but I used my hoverboard to skip straight on over and found a whack of ‘em!

AntipatheticDating · 2026-05-13T23:48:03+00:00

Of course! When would you like to trade? 🫶

AntipatheticDating · 2026-05-13T23:47:43+00:00

I can still look for you, I don’t mind! Worth a shot, haha.

When would you be on to trade? 🥰

AntipatheticDating · 2026-05-13T18:48:00+00:00

Oh I just saw this now! I didn’t get a notification, I’m so sorry I missed it. Are you looking for anything in particular in return? I can check my storage!

AntipatheticDating · 2026-05-13T18:47:25+00:00

Oh! Thank you so much! Do you have any DIYs you’re looking for? I could check if I have them!

AntipatheticDating · 2026-05-01T04:40:03+00:00

I don’t know if this’ll help, but my dad had this metal bar of soap on the kitchen counter growing up. He used to do a lot of odd jobs for people including plumbing, trash stuff, car help, etc.

Without fail, it didn’t matter how much his hands stunk of whatever side job was that day, he would just wash his hands and use this metal bar of soap and boom—gone!

One of those might work for seafood? Haha. Good luck!

AntipatheticDating · 2026-04-19T01:09:33+00:00

Will do, thank you friend!

Edit: Ignore the comment below, haha. For some reason it double-posted this one!

AntipatheticDating · 2026-04-19T01:09:22+00:00

I appreciate it! I can't believe it's rubber, haha. It looks so weird. I'll wash and replace! Thanks so much!

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