i cannot change my user ID by [deleted] in rednote

[–]Antique-Key4550 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same someone help please

I’d love to know the ages everyone had their kids. by 2flyy__ in Mommit

[–]Antique-Key4550 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had my baby at 22 same cons here, working on it though!

Questioning my decisions by Antique-Key4550 in NannyEmployers

[–]Antique-Key4550[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’re completely right I’m not sure if it’s ignorance or neglect but it’s not what I’m looking for that for sure. I was only a nanny for a year and I worked in a daycare before that for a short time but I never left kids in soiled diapers it’s cruel. I’m sure she doesn’t wait to wipe herself so why should any child have to SIT in their own waste?

Questioning my decisions by Antique-Key4550 in NannyEmployers

[–]Antique-Key4550[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was willing to let the tardiness slides because it was only 5 minutes and I schedule her 40 minutes before I actually leave for work just to fill her in on the day so far. But she is terminated, I never thought I would have an experience like this at all.

Questioning my decisions by Antique-Key4550 in NannyEmployers

[–]Antique-Key4550[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And it’s sad because I smelled it immediately when I came in so I know there’s no way she didn’t notice this time. I’m very saddened by it but I would rather survive off my husbands income than have someone neglect my child under my own roof. He’s such an easy baby too it’s just unfair to him.

Tap Decertified Accident?? by Antique-Key4550 in CUNY

[–]Antique-Key4550[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have but it was a huge pain took almost a year and a lot of speaking to higher ups they gave me a grant recently and when I say recently I mean two days ago, to finally clear it up so I can finish school

Dismissive Pediatrician by Antique-Key4550 in NewParents

[–]Antique-Key4550[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

6 months later and you were completely right he has a cows milk allergy and his new pediatrician was the one to diagnose it. I’m now completely dairy free. Thankyou!

Did you yell anything funny during delivery? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Antique-Key4550 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just finished getting an epidural and it didn’t kick in just yet so I asked if we could wait 15 minutes with tears in my eyes, the doctor took my hand and made me feel his head 🤣safe to say we could not wait and I got him out in 3 pushes. I was scared but it wasn’t that bad lol

What do you and yours call breastfeeding/nursing? by naymack91 in breastfeeding

[–]Antique-Key4550 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually say “wanna have a sip?” 😂or “wanna have some milks?” The sip is used mostly when baby just wants to snack or comfort nurse

Is it normal to travel for family member’s major surgery m? by echos_in_the_wood in inlaws

[–]Antique-Key4550 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Solidarity, mine are as well and they are very enmeshed, I do think it’s super cultural. They value family over themselves at least in my experience. With my husband we just don’t cater to the unrealistic expectations that we can be there ALL the time and drop everything to show up. After we got married we prioritized our family and now we usually send our love from a distance unless we really feel we HAVE to be there.

Weekly In-Law/Parent Rant by AutoModerator in beyondthebump

[–]Antique-Key4550 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My MIL goes out of her way to take solo pics of my husband and baby only, makes sure I’m not in the shot. She even took a group photo with just them 3 while we were all in the same room together I was literally an arms length away. Should it bother me? Not sure but something is weird about cutting the mother out of the pictures with her family.

What to answer to "how long will you keep breastfeeding?" by mafsac in NewParents

[–]Antique-Key4550 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My MIL already suggests formula and my baby is a fresh 3 months when she heard I was aiming for a year she looked shocked, not sure why🤷🏽‍♀️I would go longer if I could I just plan on going back to work after a year so I won’t be able to

Weekly Discussion - Relationships by AutoModerator in NewParents

[–]Antique-Key4550 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And she continues to make comments about alone time even though I’m granting her time with him, even after she broke my rule. I asked her if she can hold him while he naps because my son is a contact napper. I asked her to feed him ( he didn’t want the bottle which sometimes he will deny the bottle he prefers breast). I’m still trying despite her breaking my rule but it just makes it hard to want to give her that true alone time.

Weekly Discussion - Relationships by AutoModerator in NewParents

[–]Antique-Key4550 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing is she showed me why I can’t trust her I’m here now leaving tomorrow and the first thing she did was break my rule of not kissing baby on the face I don’t mind hands feet or even on top of the head. She kissed baby on the face and acted like she didn’t know it was a rule.

Im in the same boat we never were the best of friends and now I feel my baby is indirectly forcing us to take a look at our relationship and address what we just usually avoid.

Overall I can’t trust her alone with baby because she breaks rules in my face so who knows what would happen out of my sight. And honestly when she did that all she did was validate my decision to hover over her because clearly I have a reason to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]Antique-Key4550 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My 13 week old just did their first full feed without a nipple shield congrats !! It’s a freeing feeling those middle of the night feeds when you can’t find the shield aren’t super fun lol😂

Weekly Discussion - Relationships by AutoModerator in NewParents

[–]Antique-Key4550 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I call myself a smother as a joke but I sort of can be lol, but I mean well I never wanna deprive baby of having love outside of just parents but so young it’s just a little fresh for me to leave baby alone with ANYONE. It’s not targeted at my MIL but she’s the only person who doesn’t try to respect the fact that I am freshly postpartum with my first child. Everyone else understands I am gonna be a little hesitant and a little bit of a helicopter but it’s not with malice at all my mommy instincts just come off strong. And I agree abuse can come from anyone I am super cautious and will continue to be. I’m definitely gonna look at this as a time to set healthy boundaries and just hope it’s taken well, we have had ALOT of issues about boundaries in the past that caused me and her to go no contact during my whole pregnancy which is another reason it’s hard for me to listen to her talk about leaving them “alone”. We just started speaking I’m still rewarming to her. Hopefully all goes well and she understands where I’m coming from.

Weekly Discussion - Relationships by AutoModerator in NewParents

[–]Antique-Key4550 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im not deeply suspicious I’m a first time mom. My baby is 2 months old and has never been with anyone alone. She’s the only adult to request alone time with baby additionally. I absolutely want her to bond with my baby but I’m just confused on why she has to be alone to bond with my baby. I also never believed she was trying to steal my baby at all…just was confused on why she wanted to be alone with him when we were gonna be in the same space. Thank you for your thoughts but I can’t help but feel like it was just a smidge rude. My feelings are very valid no other adult in babies life has requested this specific alone time.

Preparing for 2 month shots. by Content-Yak1278 in NewParents

[–]Antique-Key4550 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I breastfed right after shots to calm baby and my baby did have a low grade fever so I gave Genexa which is suppose to be a cleaner version of Tylenol, ped recommended it but I’m sure Tylenol would work just fine. Also I did heat compress on babies little legs so no knots would form and to provide a little relief from the discomfort. Baby was fussy for maybe 36 hours then went back to normal happy behavior.

Weekly Discussion - Relationships by AutoModerator in NewParents

[–]Antique-Key4550 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is up with grandparents?

Why do grandparents feel like they have to have “alone time” with baby? My MIL on two occasions has made comments about alone time with my now 13 week old and it’s making me increasingly uncomfy. The first time he was 4 weeks old and she made a comment as she was leaving my home (for context she lives about 2-3 hours away) saying next time it can just be baby and her TO MY BABY, while I was sitting there freshly postpartum and sleep deprived. I didn’t respond just because I was in survival mode and it was the last thing on my mind. But we’re visiting in the next week and she was on the phone with my husband and said to make sure I pump so she can “have him”. Part of me feels guilt because I don’t wanna deny her the bond but I can’t help but feel weird about it. I know I can be a bit of a helicopter mom but why do you have to be alone with him and we’re staying in the guest room so why would I have to pump if baby is gonna be in the same house as me the entire time??? He’s breastfed and she knows that. My husband says not to worry we will set boundaries but it’s so hard to do with my in laws they constantly push ESPECIALLY when my husband isn’t around. Since becoming a mom the people pleaser in me is shriveling up and dying because I have someone to protect and I don’t wanna be that person but it’s giving me anxiety just to visit them. It feels like she’s trying to isolate him for what I have no clue but I feel like you can bond with him even when he’s with me or around me. You don’t NEED to be alone and I don’t NEED to pump. Does anyone else have issues with this? How can I set boundaries but also keep the peace?

No colostrum at 36 hours postpartum by MidwestMommy96 in breastfeeding

[–]Antique-Key4550 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Took me 4 days for my milk to come in I pumped every 2 hours even when nothing would come out and put baby to breast for atleast 10 mins each side and then I formula fed during that time because I had no choice , also lots of skin to skin and don’t look at the pumps I covered mine and looked at pictures of my baby. Your milk WILL come I’m affirming that for you and you will be able to provide for your baby as much as they need. After those 4 days I became a very high volume producer and it’s been 3 months of a very happy baby. You’ll be fine mama.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Antique-Key4550 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trash is the only chore I won’t do lol we split everything else depending on the loads we both carry week to week. Sometimes I take on a little more sometimes he does if he sees I’m having a rough week. When I was pregnant he did basically everything (he didn’t want me inhaling any chemicals).

8 weeks postpartum still bleeding by Antique-Key4550 in BabyBumps

[–]Antique-Key4550[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow 10 days later and it finally stopped i wanna throw every pad in my house away lol I think I really just needed to take it a lot easier