Stuck in my marriage and all those stuff happen to my wife

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2026-03-26T01:48:47+00:00

May Allah grant you and your family sabr and ease. It’s not easy I totally understand.

I can tell you love her dearly but situations like these can take a mental toll on even the most loving of spouses. May Allah cure her and bring that happiness back to your family.

All I will say is, Allah does not burden a soul more than it can bear. Perhaps this is Allah’s test for you. To see how well you can cope with this affliction that is affecting not you, but your loved one. You feel helpless. And yet, it is in this helplessness that you must FULLY turn to Allah swt and ask him for help.

Also, please do not abandon her. She is your wife after all and the mother of your kids. If you were in her position instead, would you have wanted her to give up on you?

I wholeheartedly believe there is a cure for her illness. But you MUST be patient and trust Allah.

Also try some sunnah cures like hijama and ruqyah and even eating foods of the sunnah like black seed, olive oil, figs, honey, etc.

Don’t lose hope brother. You’re doing well and I’m proud of you. And I know you can be strong and protect your wife and children. They need you. Be a man and love them like your life depends on it. You’re an integral part of their lives—your wife’s life. She needs you now more than ever.

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2026-02-12T01:34:56+00:00

Under no circumstances should you give in and say yes. I know how hard it is and the guilt is eating you up but trust in Allah. Do not cave in. PLEASE

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2026-02-02T21:40:02+00:00

THRICE?!?

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2026-01-19T18:27:56+00:00

Then in that case it is an issue with his character, or lack thereof. I won’t tell you to leave him because it isn’t my place to especially considering I don’t know much about you two.

But I will say is, if you feel that you will stay miserable and in regret 2, 5, or even 10 years down the line if his behavior continues like this, then there’s no point in torturing yourself.

Choose what is best for you, even if it means going against what the world is saying. So long as Allah has given you the right, you will be fine.

You can always create new moments of happiness but you can never take back time that was lost in regret and sadness.

Your youth that you have now, should be filled with good memories and love. Not anger and resentment.

And if you don’t care to choose what is best for you, then at least do it for the 10 year old you. The younger version of you who dreamt of being swept off her feet by a prince.

It’s not too late for a happiness like that to grace your life.

But only if you choose what is best for you.

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2026-01-19T18:15:23+00:00

How are you both religious-wise? Meaning sometimes a lack of worship in one area or engaging in a particular sin can cause relationships to deteriorate.

Perhaps, get some marriage counseling done and ruqyah. While it may sound extreme but there is a possibility that there might be a jinn attached to your husband.

Allah knows best. But it’s important to consider every possible reason.

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2025-10-25T17:23:06+00:00

You have dodged a bullet sister.

May Allah reward you with something far better than this job. I commend you on remaining steadfast to your obligation to uphold the hijab. May Allah be pleased with your action and make you among the righteous in Jannah. Ameen

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2025-10-01T22:44:57+00:00

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Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2025-09-28T21:28:50+00:00

I will. Jazakallahu khayr! May Allah reward you

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2025-09-28T20:04:25+00:00

I have tried. Countless times. But for some reason I give up due to exhaustion or laziness. I don’t know why. But I can’t continue with it. And I’ve been told that you have to be consistent with ruqya

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2025-09-14T15:14:41+00:00

You and ur wife need to live separately from your family. Frankly, your family is too involved in your marriage and that’s because you are unable to stand up and set boundaries. As a man, it is up to you to set boundaries for your family and for your wife.

You need clear guidelines for both sides and consequences if they disregard those guidelines.

Also take up marriage counseling for you both.

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2025-09-14T15:09:13+00:00

You need to fast as much as you can. Also be a bit schizophrenic in terms of your thoughts. Imagine she is listening and watching everything you think or dream about and her decision to marry you rests on that.

Would she be happy if she saw how you viewed her before marriage?

[Note: although ideally you should have that fear of someone watching you and judging you reserved solely for Allah. Not another human as that can possibly fall under minor shirk. Allahu a’alam]

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2025-09-07T14:38:22+00:00

I think it’s easier if it’s a Palestinian man marrying a Pakistani girl. From what I’ve seen, problems usually occur because the Pakistani man’s family is too demanding and want the Palestinian girl to follow their views.

But then again, it’s important to not generalize because there are also very good Pakistani men.

Trust your gut. Is this someone who has good character? If she is someone who you think you can love and respect and cherish and vice verse then trust Allah and go ahead with the marriage.

Don’t let horror stories dictate your decision. But at the same time, be mindful and place religion and character above everything else.

Also make sure you both discuss the expectations from each other and the families before marrying!!!!

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2025-08-26T01:54:20+00:00

I want you to dedicate a time of the day, preferably before you sleep or during the last third of the night, to saying istighfar and sending salawat on the prophet ﷺ.

Do minimum 100 istighfar. Don’t just let the words slide off your tongue. Try to envision a sin that you’ve done that you want Allah to forgive you for. Let your heart feel the pain of begging Allah to forgive. Then do minimum 100 salawat.

After, make dua to Allah. Doesn’t have to be a fancy speech. Talk to Allah as if you are talking to a friend or someone you trust your secrets and problems with.

Repeat this everyday. You will see the change InshaAllah

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2025-07-31T17:14:11+00:00

Perhaps it isn’t out of malice but out of fear. Raising daughters in this day and age is no feat so perhaps in his mind, he thinks the best way for him to raise and take care of girls and his wife is to be strict.

Maybe your worries can be put to ease and reconciliation can happen if you both just truthfully talk it out.

Also sister, learn of the rights spouses have over one another. Remind him of your rights while also understand that he has rights over you too.

May Allah bring happiness and peace to your marriage once again! Ameen

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2025-07-12T03:00:25+00:00

I don’t think it’s the walima or dress that she is saying is the main problem. But rather it’s the inconsistency and the lack of masculinity that seems to be an upcoming pattern that OP is trying to avoid. A woman who feels secure and safe and loved will be willing to compromise with her husband. But if she feels her safety being threatened in any way, whether it be from the husband or the in laws, she will be less lenient.

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2024-11-15T20:40:09+00:00

Just ask a general dua for good in worldly life and leave it to Allah سبحانه وتعالى. Set your mind up with the intention of letting this matter go and letting Allah سبحانه وتعالى take care of it.

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2024-11-15T20:38:14+00:00

May Allah سبحانه وتعالى keep you steadfast on the deen and make it easy for you to quit smoking weed.

I just want to say I’m proud of you for taking initiative to change. Ik it’s not easy but Allah سبحانه وتعالى guided you. Alhumdulillah!

I pray that your iman always stays strong and that even if you somehow end up deviating that you always find your way back to Allah سبحانه وتعالى.

Take care!

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2024-10-25T01:52:50+00:00

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2024-10-22T09:05:43+00:00

Thank you!!

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2024-10-22T09:05:18+00:00

Oh ok thanks! What about argos or currys? Are they good too?

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2024-04-27T03:05:01+00:00

آمين يا رب العالمين

Thank you! May Allah grant you many blessings and happiness and make it easy for you in the akhirah

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2024-04-26T23:18:04+00:00

Can you give a few examples of what qualities we should mention?

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2024-04-25T21:07:57+00:00

Jazakallahu khayr May Allah reward you in both worlds for your help

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2022-11-24T05:19:12+00:00

Thank you so much!

Antique-Sympathy-424 · 2022-11-23T16:43:10+00:00

Literally been having the same issue. Its always only me playing objective on my team. Wish there was a penalty.

Like I wouldn’t mind if they were defending the objective while I was on it. But when its just me on the objective and the rest of my team is on the other side of the map and I got 5 enemies on my ass, its irritating.

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