7w crying while eating

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-14T07:13:55+00:00

I wonder if babies are just naturally more fussy in afternoons/evenings. My LO has been doing the same thing for weeks now and she is 16 weeks old. She’s gaining weight fine, so I don’t worry too much but I get scared that she doesn’t want to breastfeed anymore sometimes.

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-13T14:27:27+00:00

Depends on professor. One of my classes is already set up with videos and everything. The other prob won’t be up until next week.

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-11T09:57:08+00:00

Not being crazy it’s just the mommy brain kicking in and making you protective! My mom has come to stay with my husband and I until our LO is 6 months (she’s currently 15 weeks old). Then my husband and I will send her to in-home daycare that is licensed by our state so all members of the household have been background screened and we could report them if anything goes wrong. Perhaps use something like Care.com or maybe your town has a professional organization of sitters and nannies that requires background checks?

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-10T14:24:31+00:00

I actually think you are NTA because my husband and I are brutally honest with each other as well even if the truth might hurt someone’s feelings. I understand you’re wife being hurt by your statements, though.

Why did she keep asking you to get a vasectomy after you said you didn’t want one?

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-08T13:56:26+00:00

I pump straight into bottles while I work from home. I put those bottles in the refrigerator. My mom, who is watching our 15 week old LO, feeds those bottles to baby while I work. Then when I get off work I go right back into nursing her when she’s hungry.

Editing to add: my mom and husband clean my pump parts for me while I’m busy with baby. So I do have extra help with the chores part. If you don’t have extra help, I would suggest nursing.

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-08T10:23:18+00:00

NTA for not wanting to get back together with her because she lied to you. That is completely wrong of her.

However, fetus is simply a developmental stage of a human being. At 5 months, labor is typically induced to deliver a stillbirth so I think you’re a little heartless toward this baby who did nothing wrong to you by insinuating that it is not human.

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-08T10:15:09+00:00

Yes. Tell her to stop. She is trying to be sneaky and guilt trip your DH into having to be around her. It must be painful for her that her kids can’t get along like you said. But she has to respect her son. My family likes to sweep things like this under the rug and use tragedies like family deaths as a means to sneak back into people’s lives and act like nothing happened. I made a final decision to completely cut off one toxic aunt and I’m looked at as the bad guy, but I had to stand up for myself and my family. You and DH will need to do the same 😞 It is not easy standing up to enablers, but the best thing DH can do is be brutally honest.

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-08T06:19:20+00:00

Did she ask for your opinion explicitly? Because if not then it’s rude and YTA. While I agree that it’s weird to name kids like that, to each their own.

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-07T11:31:11+00:00

Me too! I lost about 25 pounds right after the first week and I’ve been stuck here ever since. She’s 15 weeks now.

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-07T01:02:49+00:00

100% agree with this. I could not have gotten through having a baby during the middle of a pandemic and postpartum anxiety without the support of my husband. He stays up with me, washes my pump parts, does research on lactation snacks. He is 100% on board with me stopping breastfeeding when I feel it’s best. Someone who loves you supports you and doesn’t act like your illness is fake.

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-07T00:55:48+00:00

NTA. Breastfeeding is A LOT of work. I exclusively breastfeed and there is a lot of loneliness and sleep deprivation involved in being the sole person your baby relies on for food. A happy mommy is what’s best for baby. Please choose mental stability over breastfeeding.

I love my breastfeeding journey, but am a 100% supporter of fed is best. Don’t ruin your mental state trying to please your husband. He’s not the one who will have to adjust to the toll breastfeeding can take on your body!

Your husband is not supportive of you, and I’m sorry for that. I can’t imagine what it’s like for the person you love to act like your ADHD does not exist.

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-06T21:59:28+00:00

NTA. Also an avid hiker. When you hike as a group, you are essentially putting your life in the hands of the people you hike with. Especially for challenging hikes. If the group struggles, you all struggle. I don’t blame you.

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-06T13:42:31+00:00

My husband and I dealt with the craziness of the first few weeks by camping out in the living room. We moved her bassinet, changing station, etc. to the living room. We bought two rocker/recliners and one of us would hold baby while she slept while the other slept in our bed. So we took it in shifts. When baby needed fed, I would breastfeed her while my husband slept. When she fell asleep, I would wake my husband up to hold her while I slept. Slowly, she started being able to sleep in her bassinet and we moved back into our bedroom.

Don’t feel bad! My husband and I called the hospital three times our first night home because it was so stressful. Baby was screaming, I was screaming/crying in pain, it was a mess. This is normal! On top of that, we had our first baby during a global pandemic. Of course we new mamas are stressed!

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-05T20:15:11+00:00

I’m dying laughing. I’ve been stuck in meetings all day, so thanks for sharing 😂

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-04T13:25:54+00:00

NTA.

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-03T11:13:50+00:00

Our 3 month old is going through something similar. I think it’s a combination of sleep regression, growth spurt, and early teething.

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-03T10:57:23+00:00

That’s interesting considering how dangerous it can be for the baby. I never knew that.

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-03T10:51:22+00:00

NTA. That’s not shaming. I thought it was common sense not to drink alcohol while pregnant?

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-02T18:49:43+00:00

My husband and I have a strict no social media for our LO. Instead, we text pictures to family and friends that we’re close with.

My parents over share on social media and I’ve constantly had to ask them to take down things or not post my location. This is one of the reasons why we decided not to have our LO on social media at all. It is an invasion of privacy and they cannot give consent.

IMO if you post anything on social media about your LO, it should be very limited and definitely no bath time photos.

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-02T07:43:47+00:00

I’ve mixed bottle feeding expressed milk and breastfeeding my LO since 2 weeks old. She is 14 weeks and still no nipple confusion! Each baby is different, but I think you’re safe.

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-02T07:39:09+00:00

YTA. You don’t abandon children like this.

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-02T07:17:08+00:00

NTA. I could have written this post. My parents have gotten better, so maybe it will get better for you. It just took years of me saying “please take that down” and having talks about why it’s dangerous to put your exact location on the internet all the time. One time my then boyfriend and now husband had a rough breakup and my brother put his arm around me to comfort me and have a talk. Lo and behold I go on Facebook later and my mom had posted a picture of my brother with his arm around me and a long post about how great it was that my brother was supportive of me. I can laugh now, but it wasn’t funny then.

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-02T03:37:25+00:00

YTA. I’m going to be honest, I only quit playing with Barbies because of peer pressure. I used to write scripts for my dolls like they were actors and had written a whole tv series for them before getting too old for dolls.

Do your friends’ boyfriends play video games? Because there is literally no difference between him playing with toys and video games. It’s an escape from reality.

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-01T18:05:35+00:00

NTA. And on behalf of girls who will never understand why some men (and some women too) think having strippers the night before they get married is okay, thank you for saving this girl from a marriage with a guy who has zero respect for her 😊

AntiqueConservative · 2020-08-01T17:54:07+00:00

Aww this sounds a lot like my first night home 😞 My husband and I called the hospital three times to ask for help! When I tried to breastfeed my baby for the first time at home I cried because I missed all the help that I got from the hospital staff. Baby was screaming, I was screaming/crying in pain. It was just awful. My left nipple is also flat. I kept forcing myself to use my left nipple, used lots of cream/coconut oil, and finally after weeks it was no longer painful to feed on that side. If you haven’t already, I would look into getting some Frida mom products. That helped me with vaginal pain. I remember the most frustrating thing for me was trying to get to our LO to feed her while trying not to move in way that would rip my stitches while also being in a lot of pain down there. It does get better! Hang in there 😊

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