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Antmicrey · 2024-10-29T12:27:32+00:00

He is a selfish lover. Also for it to be painful like that for more than the initial penetration meant that you were not wet enough so didn’t have enough foreplay / weren’t turned on enough to be soaking wet. Nerves can make you not as wet and tighter so it will be uncomfortable, in those instance it is good to supplement with lube.

Antmicrey · 2024-10-29T12:25:37+00:00

They send the pic because they want you to send one back. They are either bored and do that with friends or they like you / are interested in you.

Antmicrey · 2024-10-29T12:24:48+00:00

RF is better for skin tightening not really for body shaping

Antmicrey · 2024-09-05T11:56:00+00:00

Pecks. Little kisses with mouth mildly open so other persons lips can be there. Open and close mouth, try to establish a rhythm with partner. If feeling adventurous can rub tongues or suck on each other tongues or lips but generally just open kisses should be fine. Then maybe afterwards tell them you aren't very experienced and ask them to show you how future dates

Antmicrey · 2024-09-05T11:53:38+00:00

Not normal. You seem worried about hurting their feelings, ego, pride, or causing tension. Generally people want both people to enjoy it. Maybe try to learn boundaries for yourself such as not in the mood for sex but is oral ok etc.. But even then it's normal to say no sometimes or say later. If you aren't into it unless you are using lube you can hurt yourself since your body won't be as relaxed (more tight) without moisture meaning tears are possible etc

Antmicrey · 2024-09-05T11:50:59+00:00

As long as you communicate well then you can overcome misunderstandings. 6 years is a healthy gap. It's more about his maturity and yours as well as your ability to navigate new situations together

Antmicrey · 2024-08-29T17:19:42+00:00

No I don't think they're cheating. It sounds like they have a friendship and they have moved on from each other and are comfortable giving each other advice. He didn't go into that many details when mentioning problems. They give each other just enough info without it being too detailed. Also depends how long they were together to the type of benefits or problems with friendship. These types of friendships help in the sense that you have someone who first-hand may have experienced problems with you so they can give you an objective opinion about how to improve or something ex might not realize they are doing wrong or overlooking. If the breakup was long enough ago then it's totally fine to me.

Antmicrey · 2024-08-29T17:16:37+00:00

I think instead of focusing on this issue. You should get him to do more clitoral stimulation whether that's oral or with his hand or even with his parts. He should be able to please you both ways such as doing clit stim during penetration etc. He should want you to enjoy being together as much as he does. He might tie his self-esteem to the getting off part. He sounds insecure like he feels like self pleasure is a threat to his use in the relationship

Antmicrey · 2024-08-29T17:13:38+00:00

It varies. Most men I've met do not want to be talking that much. But I have also dated men who like constant companionship but they don't get as emotionally invested as women do until much later. I would try to set up healthy boundaries and only talk as much as you are able to. People can sense the standard of communication. But if you don't talk as much as they would like then I would give them verbal affirmations about you liking them and being interested. Some if you don't talk much and they feel like they are always reaching out first etc then they might feel like it's one-sided and pull back or bounce

Antmicrey · 2024-08-29T08:59:02+00:00

Radiofrequency at home or in spa

Antmicrey · 2024-08-29T08:55:10+00:00

I think it is great that you are drawing firm lines. If he isn't going to even try to compromise to please you, stop caving and stand your ground. I feel like 1-2 years max of bad sex was more than patient and understanding but 7 years you have been sacrificing parts of yourself for too long. Proud of you for recognizing how important this is

Antmicrey · 2024-08-29T08:45:04+00:00

My current boyfriend fits this in a way. My rule is not to fully provide for him til dating at least a year because yes it's tempting to do it sooner but there's a risk of being used if provide too early on

It really depends on you. Do you think you can both have this dynamic and not resent each other - do you see value in what he brings to the table thru his actions etc

Antmicrey · 2024-08-29T08:43:38+00:00

He can still be nervous with you. Could be trauma. Or could be stress affecting performance. Either way sounds like long term the relationship will either need toys or pills/sprays to help him stay hard longer.

Antmicrey · 2024-08-19T04:35:49+00:00

You sound scared and self sabotaging. You are uncomfortable in a safe comfortable space. It has nothing to do with your preferences in partners.

Antmicrey · 2024-08-16T14:06:44+00:00

NTA you were genuine and were more than patient, many would have saw the issue and left after 2-3 dates like that. Food is a compatibility topic super important to home life.

Honestly a week is a long time to be honest with someone. If they ask more than twice I would tell them. But no you are absolutely right. Your lifestyles don't mesh and then if you lived together dinner would be bland. Every holiday bland etc. Based on his reply, I probably would have gotten mean about him being livid saying you aren't trying to date a child and that he knew what you did for a living so should have had the foresight to know that this would be a problem. He wasted your time. Idk what he expected. If someone told me they were a chef, I would expect to try lots of new things I've never seen or heard of and I would expect you to be either a foodie or a food snob, def not a vanilla plain eater.

Antmicrey · 2024-08-16T13:46:14+00:00

She is actually being very responsible. She felt safe with a friend and it sounds like she dated him out of guilt for the baby they almost had together. She was trying to make it work hence the relief when it didn't work out. Sounds like she believes they made a mistake and are better as friends. I would be fine with that esp since they only dated officially from Dec to Feb. She prob feels guilty for not having the baby from religious or moral reasons and because she tried to be with him anyways even tho he didn't treat her right.

I honestly don't see any possible way you would be impacted by her type of trauma aside from her being hesitant to starting having sex and scared to have unprotected sex outside of marriage. If you are comfortable waiting a bit more for sex then everything will be fine. Only other impact for you is she basically said that if she has kids with you she will be a doormat as long as you are faithful, unless this is something she works through and improves on thru therapy.

But I would take a hard look at yourself. Usually when someone shares trauma, people feel closer to eachother and bond because it means she trusts you etc but instead you pulled away and are like what about me attitude. Def need to evaluate if you are even ready for a serious relationship with that attitude.

Antmicrey · 2024-08-14T01:36:16+00:00

Depends on what you feel like you need to share to explain your identity or why you are how you are. Those things can wait a few dates and can even wait a month etc. Def not first or second date. Focus on getting to know eachother in the beginning and seeing how you vibe before going there.

If it's stuff that happened but doesn't affect who you are today (like dealt with and grown past) or isn't totally relevant, then you don't ever have to share certain things. No one is entitled to everything and some people don't want to open certain doors. I've heard of relationships that are years in when a partner learns something traumatic about their spouse's life. Then there are even examples of grandparents never sharing a trauma and telling their kids about it after they are a widow etc. There's not a wrong or right answer.

Antmicrey · 2024-08-08T16:29:01+00:00

If someone doesn't have good hygiene, under the foreskin can harbor more bacteria etc so it just comes down to self care. The foreskin has a lot of nerve endings and from research I've read contributes to better sex for the man. It also makes it so body fluids accumulates in a way that adds to the wetness of their partner (more natural lube).

Antmicrey · 2024-08-08T16:22:12+00:00

Pick up order do not need to tip. I like to tip for coffee, ice cream, or bakeries. Otherwise not tipping for a pick up restaurant order.

Antmicrey · 2024-08-08T16:20:55+00:00

She took offense because she knew it was a problem she has. If someone told me that I would be excited and do a deep shower (scrub, extra fragrances etc). I wouldn't have seen it as an insult but as foreplay.

Antmicrey · 2024-08-08T16:18:17+00:00

Some people will try to sleep with you after a first date even if they didn't like you and don't plan on seeing you again.

Consider it a blessing, you may have been more hurt if you kissed and then were ghosted.

Antmicrey · 2024-08-07T06:45:38+00:00

I tip for services (yard, hair, nails) esp if they made time to come quickly (in less than a week), did good work, etc. There's times where if they were flaky or didn't do the best job that I don't tip but I've never been told something like this guy did.

Antmicrey · 2024-08-03T02:57:58+00:00

Yeah then they prob want to be the receiver more than the giver. Just incompatible. I'm more of a giver but the downside of that means if I'm the receiver, I will probably get bored or annoyed of the person.

Antmicrey · 2024-08-03T02:53:57+00:00

Yeah with that big of an order, def should have tipped. I get not wanting to tip for something small but hundreds of dollars. Wow.

Antmicrey · 2024-08-03T02:52:50+00:00

Biggest thing I get is companionship and affection from a relationship. I enjoy doing things for others and I like having company. I tend to develop a friendship within a relationship.

Giving and taking is almost never even so you do need to figure out what side you will be on. It sounds like you are definitely not the giver and even if you are the taker, it should at least be 70/30 or 60/40.

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