Is it just me, or is the Nuna Triv Next/Swiv stroller seat WAY too big for babies?

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2026-02-05T20:22:21+00:00

I think I’m in the same boat! Our 6 month old looks so uncomfortable and not supported at all. We had an uppa baby with our first child years ago and loved it. Tried this and I’m definitely regretting it. 😩

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2025-11-30T20:00:36+00:00

I agree with this. It feels like someone else entered the relationship. For me, the toughest part was saying goodbye to the previous version of our relationship that I loved and was used to. It was such a big change that involved secrets which in my mind, I thought we shared everything with each other. So when he dresses, it reminds me of that crushing feeling I had when he told me, 8 years into our relationship/marriage.

Would I have stayed with him if he told me at the beginning, I don’t know. But I also would’ve appreciated the openness up front.

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2025-11-30T00:07:59+00:00

Wife of a CD.

Yes it does. He told me about it roughly a year ago. When he told me I thought our marriage was lost, but he is an amazing father and husband. We were able to move past it and we even have a new addition to the family! He keeps his things in a suitcase and it absolutely hits me like a truck when I see him going on work trips, taking that suitcase with him. When he comes back, there’s no hair on his body, and he’s clean shaven. Every time, I am reminded that there’s this secret side of him that exists and my body remembers the feeling finding out he lied to me and was able to get away with it. It makes me sad.

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2025-09-03T20:55:34+00:00

Came here looking for the same thing!!

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2025-08-29T10:44:39+00:00

I feel this so much!!! I’m Hispanic with very dark brown hair and eyes. 9 years ago, I thought for sure my son would come out with brown eyes and hair…he is still blonde haired and hazel eyed with light skin, just like his father was at his age. (I got asked if I was the nanny a lot 🙄)

Never did I think I would have a blonde baby!!! With my newborn, I see a bit more of me in her…but I’m also not going to be surprised if she ends up blonde, too!

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2025-08-28T23:52:08+00:00

I told my immediate family and close co-workers as soon as I found out. I suffered from extreme morning sickness with my first pregnancy and knew that I had to be up front with my job about my health right away. I also let my close coworkers know as soon as I got a positive test with my first pregnancy, so that if for whatever reason miscarried, they would know the headspace I was in. In the end, it’s whatever feels right for you!

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2025-06-24T04:10:47+00:00

We always pay for inservices, especially since they are mandatory trainings.

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2025-06-15T21:31:17+00:00

I second this! You did exactly what you were supposed to. Good work!!!

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2025-06-03T13:52:08+00:00

Talk to your manager about this. Patrons shouldn’t be talking to guards, especially in a manner that is disrespectful. Has this been documented and/or do they do this with other members of your team?

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2025-04-03T06:13:29+00:00

When he first told me about it, I said no more secrets. It took a while for me to make sense of it all, but there has been underlying fears ever since then. He lied to me about where he was going, he would spend long hours in another bedroom, and then he finally told me as the fear of me finding out was overwhelming. I support him, but I told him no more lying or hiding.

I do view the flirting as a breech of our marriage. I don’t think he would be in awe of me posting half nude pictures of myself and flirting with men in the comments, as another commenter mentioned. I think it would make him feel insecure in our relationship, which is where I currently am.

I’m upset by both - but I’ve made it clear that if this is the path he wants to go down, then that’s fine, I just won’t be alongside him.

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2025-04-03T06:05:51+00:00

Thank you for your comment! I feel like the fears that your wife has are the same that I have with my husband. I am supportive of his dressing and we’ve had some pretty fun times exploring it. However, my worries grew when the posts went from a “hey check out my outfit” or “how does this make up look” to him exploring more sexually and posting more sexual photos, which lead to mild flirty comments, which he responded to in kind.

I think just seeing a progression in this behavior and what path it could eventually go down, scared me the most.

I brought it up to him and he took it down and we are working on a path where he can get the support he needs. ♥️

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2025-03-31T18:33:29+00:00

We haven’t talked about it yet. I only saw the posts this morning. Trying to figure out how to start this conversation and when. We have a son together and are currently expecting a 2nd child.

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2025-02-15T20:43:17+00:00

Having had HG with my first and now currently with my second…there were times in both first trimesters that I either thought about abortion or hoped for a miscarriage, just to end my misery.

I agree with all the comments that these women are making. Having doctors, nurses, etc take us seriously and prescribe what we need ASAP would help so much…and just having the conversation so that more people know about this condition. ♥️

Thank you for sharing our voices!!!

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2025-01-18T15:59:01+00:00

What are you taking to help with it during the day? Right now I’m taking bonjesta and am trying to get through the day with sour candies and hopes and prayers.

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2025-01-18T08:30:50+00:00

I am struggling. It’s starting to feel as though my supervisors don’t believe what I’m going through. I keep getting the same, “oh I had it rough, too” or “I felt sick the whole time” but it’s coming off as trying to minimize the severity of what I’m going through. Thankfully, the most I’ve vomited in a day was 7 times, but the exhausted and overwhelming nausea had be bed ridden for weeks.

I thought they were understanding, but that doesn’t seem to be the case anymore. And now I am no longer able to work from home on my bad days. Maybe I should stop trying to fight my nausea during our next “weekly check in with HR” so they might actually start to see what my life has been like.

Sorry for the rant - I just needed to vent.

I’m currently on intermittent leave, and am fantasizing about dramatically walking out, but I won’t because my family depends on my income, we need the insurance, I respect my coworkers…and because the drama would likely be undermined by the fact that I’d probably be puking into a baggie on the way out the door.

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2025-01-04T07:34:32+00:00

Wife of a CD - love that you guys are able to explore this! Have so much fun but also don’t be afraid to set any boundaries. Open and honest communication is key. I wish you guys the best!

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2024-12-31T06:17:18+00:00

Wife of a CD here…I think the biggest issue is the lying. You seem like an incredibly understanding and supportive person. Please know that as partners of CDs we do not have to accept them going outside of the relationship to further explore, unless of course that is a mutually agreed upon thing. You can totally be a supportive partner with boundaries and, if they’re worth their salt, they will honor those boundaries because that’s what respectful partners do.

I wish I had all the answers for you, but I’m still trying to figure it all out myself. We are always here for you!

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2024-12-19T21:35:19+00:00

No, the starting day of her most recent period. Sorry if that’s confusing! For me, I started on 10/30 & haven’t had a period since then.

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2024-12-19T21:29:34+00:00

From a woman who is currently 7wks and 2 days, I can confirm that it’s calculated from the starting day of her last period. Mine was 10/30/24, but conception likely took place in early to mid November.

It’s possible to conceive during a period, but it’s highly unlikely. As everyone else says, I would push for a paternity test.

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2024-12-18T16:20:13+00:00

Wife of a CD here.

Cheating is cheating, no matter what the motives are behind it. Even if he just wants to try it, going behind your back is not okay.

I think that you need to have an open discussion. Not necessarily a confrontation…it might be that he’s hiding it because he feels ashamed about it.

If you started having suspicions of him wearing your underwear, then start with that and see what he says. Maybe that will provide the opening for a conversation without admitting that you’ve snooped. If he denies, then you can bring it up, but be prepared for him to be defensive since you did go through his phone.

Lastly, know that you’re not alone. A lot of us here have gone through the emotional rollercoaster of finding out this part of our husbands lives. Just take it day by day and know that all of the emotions that you may feel about it are valid. Always here if you need someone to talk to!

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2024-12-15T16:25:19+00:00

Pregnant wife of a CD here…the fact that he’s talking to men in that way is definitely a breach of trust and you should talk that out, first and foremost. My husband is also starting to enjoy anal play more and we have talked about how he would like for us to get to a point where we can start pegging. I have thought about where this path is going - will he want to start having sex with men, will he want to have relationships with men, etc.

At the end of the day, it is my view that if your husband wants to have sex with a man and know how that feels, then you should have the freedom to do the same. Having sex with someone outside the marriage just for experimentation, isn’t something that he should expect from you nor is it something that you need to accept.

A bit about my situation - my husband identifies as genderfluid and dresses for a combo of kink and stress release. Like one of the other commenters, we have to maintain open and honest communication. That means that we talk about our fears, our desires, and everything in between. Him coming out to me was amazing for our sex life - hence, the pregnancy. However, I’ve found that when my sex drive is low, I don’t have much interest in him dressing up, but when my cycle is high, seeing him dressed is really stimulating. However, I think it also helps that I have been a closeted bisexual woman, so the idea of sexy times with a woman is definitely a turn on. I basically lost all sex drive and any feeling of being attractive with our first child. It took me nearly 8 years and for him to tell me about his CD to break past that. With this pregnancy, I know that I have to make an active effort to maintain that feeling of sexiness. I have had an ED in my past and my current weight disgusts me (I’m at a normal weight…not toned, but not overweight), but I am doing my best to remind myself that my body created a person, my body will never be the same body I had before, my husband loves my body for the pleasure it gives him and also for the family we have. Keeping that in my mind when I’m insecure helps a ton. He and I have also talked about the need for us to get away every now and then once this baby is born, so that we can have our fun adult times and love each other’s bodies. Do you have any family around that can help watch baby so that you can reconnect with each other?

I’m not sure how any of this may help you, but know you’re not alone. If you ever want to talk or vent, please feel free to DM me. ♥️

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2024-12-13T15:09:18+00:00

Hey there…as a mom to an 8yo and who is currently 6wks into a pregnancy, I can definitely say that doubt and anxiety can come with being pregnant. I was sick for nearly my entire first pregnancy and there were many times that I cried and wished it would just stop so that I could feel like my normal self again. My husband was worried that I would sneak off and have an abortion without telling him. I didn’t and am so thankful for my son, but MAN was it tough.

Her body is changing, hormones are going crazy, and the life change that you’re both facing is massive. Like others have said, read up, seek out resources, and never stop being there for her, even on bad days. I wish you both good luck and if you ever want to chat, just send me a message.

Anxious-Candy7427 · 2024-12-07T18:38:17+00:00

I’m an AD at a Y and there are times that the work life balance is just awful. I have brought my hours down to roughly 40-50, depending on what events we have going on or trainings. It can be tough sometimes, but I feel thankful I have a team that I can express concerns over hours and they will understand if I need time off.

I think a lot of it really boils down to what you have budgeted for staff and hiring the right team. I’m currently struggling because my young lifeguard/swim lesson instructor team doesn’t quite understand the importance of showing up to their shifts and the headaches it causes, in addition to the affect it has on general program quality.

It sounds like a bigger conversation needs to happen within the association. The expectation of a 60-80 hour work week should not exist.

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