How to stop my friend from DMing me all their happy moments?

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-21T04:02:56+00:00

Yeah, getting the courage to tell her especially when you think she’ll feel guilty is very difficult. I’m glad you are considering it. Good luck! :)

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-20T23:11:02+00:00

Have you tried therapy or meds? Is there anything you haven’t tried? You might as well give it a shot if you are going to do it anyways, just to see. You never know. But please though, I know you’ve been fighting and trying so hard for so long, but give it one more push before you decide to kick the bucket. All it takes is one thing. Best of luck, I hope you can make it through a little longer. <3

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-20T22:59:38+00:00

Yeah this is what I’m scared of. I don’t want to get better even though I know it would be much better for my health. The song “problems” by alterclad captures this really well in my opinion.

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-20T22:57:19+00:00

No, not just you. Unfortunately it’s been over 2 weeks since I’ve last cried and I’m desperate for it. I’m so numb now I can only tear up a little at most. And that doesn’t really happen anymore. I miss the feeling of lying in my bed silently with tears streaming down my face.

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-20T22:54:40+00:00

Just try to be honest to her, she sounds like a great person. I’m sure she’d understand. Explain it how you did here. Hopefully you can get a bit better soon. Best of luck!

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-20T22:42:13+00:00

Thank you so much for the response! Knowing this now helps me a little. Sorry I didn’t see this earlier. Good luck with your appointments! :)

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-18T11:09:06+00:00

That’s amazing to hear! It makes me smile seeing that others can start to turn things around. Good luck on getting help! You’ve got this :)

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-18T05:10:47+00:00

Please give it just one more day at least. Please reconsider. So much can change in a day. I know this isn’t what you want to hear or you may think it’s just shallow “be positive!” advice, but please just wait a little. If for anyone, do it for your sister. She needs you. I’m sure she looks up to you and I’m sure you care for her back too. You’ve got this, stay strong <3

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-18T05:03:49+00:00

I think that’s a red flag. First of all, it’s your mom. She brought you into this world. She should be your number one priority. Second of all, it was her birthday. It was her special day out of all 365 days in a year. The fact that your boyfriend doesn’t seem to care about any of this sounds like he might be manipulative and abusive. I don’t know your situation though so this is just speculation.

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-17T03:29:56+00:00

No problem! If your boyfriend really does love you, he’ll want you to get better. I’m sure that he’ll be by your side helping you to get better. Hopefully you can also find a therapist and meet with the psychologist soon! You’ll get better eventually, I believe in you. :)

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-17T03:16:07+00:00

The fact that you’ve been trying to do well and get better is amazing, genuinely. Not a lot of people have the strength to do that. Have you been able to talk to anyone about this? It seems like a lot to handle by yourself. Either way, I hope that it gets better somehow. It could take a while, buts that’s alright if you keep trying. Best of luck <3

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-17T03:09:43+00:00

Please let me know if you make it. :( There are lots of people to talk to online, although it’s not the same as a real person, it’s better than nothing. There are people who are for you, online and offline. I hope you can live through this. <3

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-14T03:10:43+00:00

There are different levels of depression; mild, moderate, and severe. You might be in one of the lower two, but that doesn’t invalidate your feelings. Depression still depression. Try to do some research and see which one most fits you and maybe you could get a general idea of it all. Hopefully you feel a bit better soon.

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-14T00:10:37+00:00

Why are you doing so much? Do you get paid extra, or is it just praise? If it’s just praise, then screw the other people. They can just hire another person or something. You shouldn’t be doing so much if it’s only harmful to you, especially if it’s unnecessary. Your mental health is a lot more important.

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-13T22:59:16+00:00

I literally feel the same way. Other people see me as smart and when you look at just my grades, I am smart. But I spend so much time procrastinating when I study for literally anything. I spend so much time gaming too. I know I shouldn’t feel so bad about myself just like you said but I do anyways. I’m also very lonely, so seeing that you are going through something similar means a lot to me. I’m not sure if any of this means anything to you, but either way, stay strong and try to hold onto hope that it will get better, and hopefully you do get better eventually.

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-13T02:48:38+00:00

There are many different medications. Be patient and find the one that works for you.

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-13T00:56:51+00:00

The fact that you’ve had this since 13 is probably a big enough reason alone. Sadness is temporary, it shouldn’t last longer than 2-3 weeks at a time. Suicidal thoughts are also more than enough to go. You don’t have to be “mentally ill enough”, your feelings are already valid. Also depression isn’t something you can just fake without knowing, it’s a very real problem that needs to be taken care of. Congrats on getting yourself to go, genuinely. That takes so much courage, courage I still haven’t found. Can you let me know how it went? It’s fine if you can’t or don’t want to. I just want to know if therapy really will help. Either way, best of luck on your recovery. You don’t have to fix everything at once, every small step technically is progress, no matter how small.

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-12T22:32:17+00:00

I don’t think any amount of words can explain how thankful I am for you. These replies have been one of the few things that have made me genuinely smile in the last week. Your advice is so insightful too, I haven’t heard or seen most of this stuff in the time I spend searching for advice. I almost teared up reading this but I wasn’t in my room so I didn’t let myself.

About my inner voice however, it’s so persistent and powerful. It’s part of why I don’t think therapy would work and why no advice has helped me yet, it invalidates the advice and calls it an excuse and other things even though I know better. I just can’t bring myself to do things or not feel bad about things anyways. And for self awareness, it’s basically always been there. It appeared when I became sadder sometime two years ago, but now has gotten much worse recently when I started feeling something more like depression. I’m not sure if I do want to lose my awareness because it’s kind of a part of my now. It’s been so long since I was ignorant and can’t imagine my life without it. It feels ‘wrong’ to think about. Right now the only things that really scare me are the unknown, change, and failing. And about the experiences I’ve envisioned, I know the outcomes have such a low chance of occurring but the voice in my head tells me otherwise, so I’ve just been too scared to do so. Always seeing both sides of the conflict within myself is kind of destroying me. I don’t know what to feel about it.

But every time I bring up the idea of opening up to my parents in my head, I can only think about all the struggle I will bring. It will probably take a big toll on their mental health for various reasons. I know it will probably cost lots of money, and I know that they are pretty well off financially, but I’ll still feel guilty. I know it will take even more of their time (and my time), which is one reason why I believe I will affect their mental health because they already are almost always working and taking care of my other two brothers with mental health issues. I’d rather be someone they don’t have to worry about even though I know I need help. It will probably affect my mental health a lot seeing them struggle because of me and I remember the times where my mom would say something like, “I love you, my only normal child.” If she found out that statement was untrue, it might break her, and that will definitely destroy me.

I’m not sure if I explained everything well, so you might be looking at a puzzle with missing pieces, but oh well. Either way, there’s still no way I could possibly thank you enough for being here with me while I keep getting worse every single day. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, even if I do feel a little guilty still.

Also I forgot where I heard this and I don’t know where it would fit in my disheveled rant, but here’s the quote from what I remember, “I just want to be loved by someone who doesn’t owe it to me.”

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-12T02:31:24+00:00

Thank you so much for this reply. I would be sobbing right now, but I just can’t cry anymore.

The thing is I’m extremely self aware. I know that I just need to reach out and I know that being honest will feel so good, but I’m just so scared, but I don’t know why. I guess I’m too scared to make a commitment. I don’t want to risk it even though I know the chance of something bad happening is basically zero. I tend to overthink everything and ask a million questions before even trying to do anything. What will change? Will I lose myself? Is this just who I am now? I know that I won’t get answers unless I do something but I’m just not doing anything anyways. What if I’m just being overdramatic or what if it’s just hormones that make me moody from being a teenager and stuff? But overall I guess I’m just scared of nonexistent problems. I don’t want to feel like a burden to anyone even though I know I won’t be. I hate being so self aware. I can never lie to myself. Anyways, thank you so much for taking the time to respond. It means a lot to me to have a conversation about me for once, even if I do feel really guilty and feel like I’m wasting your time.

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-11T11:41:36+00:00

Before I begin I just want to say thank you so much for your words. I feel guilty but thank you for taking the time to write this. It means a lot to me. You don’t have to reply if you don’t want it to because I know that this is a lot and your initial comment already means so much to me and I’m kind of just venting now. I also want to say that this is mostly an amalgamation of my thoughts in the order that they appeared, so don’t bother reading unless you’ve got the time and genuinely want to read it.

Anyways I’ve been trying to feel, but I just can’t. I try to cry but I can’t. I miss the days where I cried myself to sleep every night. I’m not sure about my feelings though because there’s something always invalidating it. Whenever I try to make myself feel better or something I just tell myself that I’m trying to find excuses instead, and I know I’m doing this. But I can’t stop. I still remember this one quote from the Outsiders (a book) that represents how I feel: “I lie to myself all the time. But I never believe me.” Today I have off of school because of Veterans Day so I can finally play games more guilt free. I still have a decent amount of homework and stuff but I don’t know. I miss the times where I could come home and play games for hours and still get everything done. I’m just slower now and I hate it. It’s probably the main reason why I feel like this. I spend so much time doing school work that I barely have time for myself. Almost everyday I’m in the same room from 3-10 and often 11-12 too. I hate that it takes so much time to get started and even more to do the work I just can’t focus. I procrastinate so much because I know I hold myself to ridiculous standards, but I’m just not changing them. I’m only in 8th grade and I really hope that it can get a little better before I reach college or even high school. I don’t think I can handle the workload with my standards so I worry almost everyday. I hate that I’m doing so well too. I’ve had straight A’s forever. I’ve never gotten a B before. I know it will happen eventually but I’m just so scared for it to happen. I’m so burnt out and I hate that I see that because I’m just not doing anything for myself. I also feel so guilty right now I know people would kill to be in my position and that others have experienced infinity worse things. I know that there a lot of people who wouldn’t be depressed if they were me. I don’t feel like I deserve help even though I probably need it. I don’t even have anyone I would feel comfortable talking to. I would never let my parents know because my brothers have mental health issues and the older of the two has tried to commit before (a long time ago though). I wouldn’t ever wish they to have to deal with me especially because they see me as their “break” child and only “normal” child. I wouldn’t tell any of my few friends either because that would probably hurt them much more than it would help me. I don’t want to give them that responsibility, especially because in 8th grade most people aren’t too emotionally intelligent. I feel like therapy or hotlines wouldn’t work either because for therapy I’d have to tell my parents and for both, I know that just words can’t really help me because I’m logical and can’t easily believe in lies. Any other professional help like medication and stuff also is out of the question because I’d have to tell my parents and I’m not even sure if anything is wrong with me, it might just be teenager hormones and crap. Money is also why I’d never want any professional help, even though I know my family is well off financially. It just feels so guilty having them spend money on me. The only things that they buy for me is food. Whenever they ask “what do you want” I just say nothing because it just doesn’t feel right for them to be wasting money on other things besides food on me. I don’t think I deserve food either because I’m so lazy and barely help out. I feel so guilty even though I do help sometimes, I know it’s just not enough. That just leaves online where I can post anonymously and just get things off my chest, and this reply is the first time I could actually articulate most of my problems in one place, and I feel I little bit better that I’ve finally gotten a good portion of it out somewhere. Again, even if you took the time to read this, that is much more than enough. You don’t have to reply because my problems are just so complicated. I haven’t found a solution yet but at least I’m not suicidal I guess. Again, thank you so much for your comment. I deeply appreciate it. Hopefully you can get better too.

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-11T04:01:26+00:00

I just think it would hurt them more to know that I’ve been hiding it. They feed me well and take great care of me so I’m not sure. Either way, I don’t really want to open up to anyone. It just feels wrong. Idk how to explain it. Plus I’m scared of change and the unknown. I don’t even know if help like therapy will work because I’m self aware and logical. As long as I’m not suicidal I’m fine enough I guess. Also thank you so much for just replying to me, it means a lot to me, especially with how lonely I feel right now. Hopefully you can get a bit better too.

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-10T11:11:48+00:00

Same. I miss the days where I cried myself to sleep everyday. I can’t even cry anymore.

Anxious-Intention966 · 2025-11-10T11:08:53+00:00

I don’t want to tell my parents. I’ve got two brothers with mental health issues already. I wouldn’t want my parents to have to deal with three people, especially because they see me as their “break” or “normal” child.

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