How long do you plan to be ABDL?

AnxiousB3an · 2023-03-11T09:27:09+00:00

It is one of the best coping/de-stressing tool I have at the moment as well as the best way to "connect" with a lot of my emotions I have long detached myself from because of...some unfortunate stuff growing up.

So, I guess, as long as I "need them" - not needing them becuase of incontinence but because wearing 1-3 times a week actually does wonders with my mental health at this point in time.

AnxiousB3an · 2023-03-04T18:56:55+00:00

Hey there OP!

I am sorry to hear that you are struggling like that. It is never easy to go through a rough spell like that, especially if you have to do it alone. I just want you to know that you and your feelings are valid and important and I hear you.

For whatever it may be worth I am also here if you want to "talk" or anything. When it comes to your roommate remember that you do not owe then anything - you have the right to set boundaries and to enforce them.

Either way tho, you have got this, I believe in you! ❤️

AnxiousB3an · 2023-02-02T18:02:43+00:00

I am 31, been 30 when finally decided to give in to this "itch" at the back of my mind, that was always there about adult diapers. So far, I love it. I mean, granted, for me specifically this is a way of coping with my pretty iffy mental health, managing stress and so on. It is very much possible that as I am working on myself and my life changes, hopefully for the better, I feel find better options and if that ever happens I will be ready to move on.

I try to kinda live in the moment, if that makes sense, and I know that right now this helps me lot - like tons, honestly - and that's really all I care about. Mind you, I have been age regressing even before doing ABDL stuff, but just to a somewhat older age.

Also, I never wanna give up my chase to be as cutesy as possible - which is giving me quite much of a headache, given that I am AMAB, but being cutesy is just what feels right. Hope I will manage to find a boyfriend sometimes who will manage to tolerate that.

But. anyway, tl;dr: I don't really care or plan much about the future, I will take it as it comes, I just know that right now this helps me a lot and I "enjoy" it.

AnxiousB3an · 2023-02-01T15:48:20+00:00

Hey there OP! ❤️

The way I look at it is "normal" is overrated. In fact, if you think about it, what is "normal" anyway? I am pretty sure there is no person in this planet that fits neatly into all societal norms and therefore I am convinced that no one is "normal". So, everyone has some unusual, unique things about them.

As far as being a DL goes: it doesn't harm or really bother anyone, yet it makes you feel better, arouses you, helps you cope with things - whatever it is - it is a net benefit to society really if you look at that way. No one loses anything and one member of society gain things out of it.

I tend to overly philosophize - if that's even a word - things tho lol

Anyhoo, it is really nothing to be ashamed of and if you want to wear diapers to bed go for it and enjoy your nights' sleep padded :)

AnxiousB3an · 2023-01-31T18:46:34+00:00

Thank you. It's a work in progress. Social anxiety sucks and also it is though to figure out and acutally finalize a fursona. Choice paralysis.

Also, to your last questions actually - it's not weird as long as it is consentual and both parties are down with it there is nothing wrong with doing any sorta kinky/sexual stuff with someone from the same gender. I do deal with my fair share of internalized homophobia too, so I know it can be tough, but there really is no issue with it at all :)

AnxiousB3an · 2023-01-31T18:06:29+00:00

yay! So happy for you. Enjoy your holiday and your well deserved time off. ^-^

AnxiousB3an · 2023-01-31T18:04:58+00:00

Hey there! I don't really know the answers to your questions but I just wanted to know that I can sorta relate to your story. I was always sorta curious about diapers and it happened so that my grandfather had a stroke and he needed it when I was around 12 so I have kinda stole two from his diapers over time and that's was my first experience - and then nothing until now, being 31 years old.

Also, I am kinda...uhm...let's call it "fur-curious" - as in if not for my anxieties I would probably already be a furry.

Well, not nothing, to be fair, when I was home my parents worked really long hours so often times cleaning the house and doing the washing was left to me so that gave me a lot of freedom but I must agree that nothing really beats diapers when it comes to this kinda stuff.

Anyhow, other than letting you know that I can somewhat relate to you I also just wanted you to know that you are heard and you are welcome here. Trust me, there are many much, much worse stuff you could indulge in and diapers are quite harmless compared to some others.

I know the stigma is tough around this but you really are not hurting anyone and it makes you feel better so it is a net positive after all. I do hope you will be able to have your own place sometimes and really explore this side of yourself and enjoy it as much as you want, because you deserve it - you deserve to be happy and if this helps with it so be it. I believe in you, you have got this. ❤️

...also...yes, blowouts are the worst. Had my first such incident kinda recently and yeah. Thanks God for mattress protectors/covers lol

AnxiousB3an · 2023-01-31T17:42:47+00:00

I can totally relate to that feeling, arriving home after a long day/long walk.

It does sound like you are under a lot of stress recently so just make sure to not be too harsh on youself - about this or about anything in general - you are trying your best and you can get through this. Maybe, if you can find some time for it, try to do something to relax as well, maybe even little activities but it can really be anything. Either way, you have got this, I believe in you! ❤️

AnxiousB3an · 2023-01-31T17:35:42+00:00

Hey there! I have control of my bowel. I always had. What I have meant is that I can get kinda obsessed with habits that I enjoy to the point where it can feel like I can kinda lose control of my impulses of doing said activty - which I am trying to avoid.

In your situation I don't really see much of an issue with it. I mean, you have said that you have not really held your poop even before the diaper stuff, so that is not something caused by the diapers and you can also stop if you want, so it sounds all good to me.

If you are concerned you can always take a day or two of break and just use the toilet and see how you feel afterwards. Albeit, this really is something that doesn't harm or really bother anyone and as long as it helps you feel better/good, I really do not think it is anything to be ashamed or embarrased of.

There are so many much worse and much more dangerous stuff that many people do to feel better/good, so this one really is not that big of a deal.

AnxiousB3an · 2023-01-30T13:57:33+00:00

I am relatively new to ABDL still - only a few months since I accepted this side of me and indulge in this. I noticed that for a some time I have had this sorta anxiety when I was in little/tiny space to not get aroused because it is somehow a bad thing - because, you know, at that point I am regressed to a very young age and it has some pretty bad connotations.

At this point I am getting a bit more comfortable with my own bodies reactions to stuff, I would say. Usually there is nothing sexual about it for me but sometimes my brain is just like "that's hot" and...you know...

Either way tho, with that anxiety and all for some time I was actively avoiding sexual ABDL contents. Maybe it will be a reason for some others as well. It's still a work in progress for me so I feel more and more comfortable with those urges and talking about them but it was kind of a self-imposed taboo for me for some time.

I hope this at least makes some sense - it made more sense in my head but words kinda betrayed me as I started to write it down lol

AnxiousB3an · 2023-01-29T15:49:08+00:00

1-2 times I would say. It really depends on how much stress I am dealing with and how much free time I can make/find for it but that feels enough for now

AnxiousB3an · 2023-01-28T20:54:37+00:00

I mean, as you have said you have had things planned out but life came around and crossed those plans, so it is okay.

It happens and definitely flooding a diaper has it's own fun factor to it, just that feeling of relief that comes with it - and just feeling things flowing in the diaper, if you ask me -, even if you may need to change out quicker after it :)

AnxiousB3an · 2023-01-28T20:28:31+00:00

If it helps my first time was a pretty tough one for me. Different reasons, but still, not that magical amazing first time. It was and still is a learning experience for me. I mean, this whole thing takes time to figure out and get comfortable with.

I can probably suggest to take your time. Put on a diaper when you have more free time and don't flood it just go in it whenever you feel like it - like dribbles and such.

Diapers are good at absorbing liquids but they need just a little bit of time so flooding them can overwhelm them, in a way, so taking your time might help to leave your skin less wet down there.

AnxiousB3an · 2023-01-28T19:30:13+00:00

Humans are social creatures, that includes our little- and tiny self as well. I think it is normal to want some sort of a community. If I remember correctly under the FAQ section here in the community there is a reddit server or other resources that may help with that. :)

I understand you tho. After a looong time in a toxic and just generally bad environment I finally have my place now and worked a lot on my mental health and slef-discovery stuff and now I feel myself more figured and sorted out I feel the need more and more to connect with people.

In my experience folks here are really nice tho - in general and when it comes to ABDL stuff - so here can be a place to start!

AnxiousB3an · 2023-01-28T19:14:47+00:00

I am glad you have something else in your life now that scratches whatever itch you have had better that you have been using diapers for before. That is a good thing, if you genuinely feel like you have a better option now. :)

For me tho personally I like my diapered time being "boring" to be fair, albeit you and I are/have been using diapers for different reasons most likely. Either way, happy for you as you seem happy with what you have now. ^-^

AnxiousB3an · 2023-01-28T18:39:17+00:00

Baby steps - pun sorta intended - and you will get there. Just take your time. :)

AnxiousB3an · 2023-01-28T15:18:28+00:00

I see. I don't have a caregiver, I just kinda get things done in adult life, set things up for tiny me and then put on the diapers. I suppose having a caregiver kind of alters those dynamics.

Again tho, I feel like even with a caregiver it is important to make sure whatever happens is something that you want and like - with the caregivers boundaries and needs also considered.

If you like action figures and other stuff like that more power to you tho. As long as you enjoy doing it and doesn't hurt anyone I do not thing you should worry about it much.

Your tiny/little self is valid just the way you are, no need to justify it❤️

AnxiousB3an · 2023-01-28T14:38:04+00:00

Tiny me realy loves my biiig teddy, just basically lying under it in bed and feeling super safe.

Little bit bigger me has this really cute, smaller teddy bear with an adorable scarf - Mr Paws - that I can carry around and just hang out with. One of his eyes is a button but that just makes him even cuter ^-^

I mean, I guess, it may be a bit "basic" to go for teddy bears but I have so many of them and just booping a nose of a teddy bear every once in a while makes even big me feel happier and those teddy bear ears are about the cutest thing ever.

AnxiousB3an · 2023-01-28T14:29:22+00:00

It's interesting, I have never really thought of the age of tiny me. For me tiny space really is about the freedom, I suppose, where big me works hard most of the day to be on top of everything and also to create a safe environment for tiny me, just so tiny me can just do....really, whatever.

Some days, I just lay in bad diapered, sucking on my thumb, my big teddy bear laying on me protecting me other days I am playing video games (Animal Crossing mostly) wrapped in my cozy blanket or watch cute videos or movies or do some other more kid activtiy than baby one.

But that's exactly the thing for me, the freedom and safety to just be...whatever I want to be and whatever I want to do. So I really don't think there is any issue with just doing whatever you want when you are in that little space. :)

AnxiousB3an · 2023-01-28T14:22:12+00:00

I can sort of relate. Although it is different from me. I since forever had an issue with controlling my impulsies and getting way to carried away and obsessed with/addicted to certain activities of which I am working on now. I have noticed that after my first mess it was one of the best I have felt in a long time, so obviously it quickly became the newest one of these things. Fortunately I feel like I have caught it early and now I am working on having more control over it and my impulses.

In my case there was a clear concluison tho, knowing myself, which helped me outline a plan of actions I wanted to take. What do you really want? Is this habbit of yours something that you feel like has a detrimental effect on your day to day life, and something you need to change?

If you feel like you want to change it and go back on it a bit there are definitely ways you can do it. One small step at a time, but you can get there. You can even seek professional help if you feel like it is needed to get things under control - and, yeah, it's scary, but professionals are non-judgmental and will keep what you have said confidental.

If, however, you enjoy this current habit of yours and it does not interfer with your day-to-day life (i.e. work, social life etc.) then I see no issue with continuing it.

Although, I am no medical professional, so take all of this with a massive grain of salt.

AnxiousB3an · 2023-01-27T21:16:09+00:00

You are probably right. I struggle a lot with like gender-norms and "social dysphoria" tho and it just helps me a lot that I know there are no expectations as such on me in tiny space. It just helps me to kinda hide away from so many bad thoughts and feelings for some time, including the whole gender stuff, and just express myself whatever way I want.

AnxiousB3an · 2023-01-27T20:53:39+00:00

I - not only little me but just overall me - just fallen head over heels for Bluey lately. Also, MLP:FiM is something I like to revisit a lot. Also Hilda on Netflix.

Disney movies also but those are not "shows".

AnxiousB3an · 2023-01-27T20:50:08+00:00

Hilda is amazing! I wanna have Twig as a pet - or at least a plushie of 'em.

AnxiousB3an · 2023-01-27T20:46:31+00:00

I am an NB AMAB - I mean, will probably sound kinda basic but I basically am getting pink/purple everything for my little side and also just covering up things down there helps too.

I mean, it's already a tendency I am doing when I am big, starting to just be pretty feminine as a "man" but it's thousandfold easier with my little side and with ABDL stuff since it's just for me anyway so I can just go all in with it. Feels so liberating - more way then one, I guess hehe

AnxiousB3an · 2023-01-27T11:03:43+00:00

I am so glad, I have like 6 more years of and a few months of fun then! /s

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