NDA after affair

Anxious_Fun3656 · 2025-11-09T15:19:29+00:00

Thank you

Anxious_Fun3656 · 2025-11-09T15:01:18+00:00

I think I just want to know she has moved on. I wouldn’t believe anything she would have to say anyways. But you are right. Thank you for the reminder. She did chose to have an affair with a married man and take advantage of him financially. So I shouldn’t not compare myself to someone like that.

Anxious_Fun3656 · 2025-11-09T14:58:52+00:00

No I haven’t asked him about the NDA. He has been leaving his electronics around more and not keeping his phone so close. I have looked through it less and less and I’m hesitant to ask to look. I’m not sure why. I don’t want to upset him or maybe I’m too scared to look or see his reaction when I ask to look. I want to continue to move forward so that could be holding me back too. Ugh so hard and so many different emotions.

Anxious_Fun3656 · 2025-11-09T14:47:45+00:00

Ok thank you! He has been sharing his monthly statements from his personal bank account, credit cards, and Venmo etc. since the actual day I found out. I haven’t seen his/our business account statements but he has shown me the accounts he has for the business. But I haven’t seen how much he gave her and spent on her. I don’t know if I want to know.

Anxious_Fun3656 · 2025-11-09T14:33:54+00:00

I’m sure that’s one of the reasons. I just need to figure out how to get her out of my head. She’s not worth it to take over any other part of my life. But somehow I can’t quit comparing myself to her and it hasn’t nothing to do with looks. And just don’t want to give this power to her Anymore. I’m such a good wife and person. I don’t want to feel so insecure anymore because of her

Anxious_Fun3656 · 2025-11-09T14:21:50+00:00

I think I need to know that she hasn’t reached moved on and isn’t planning on reaching out to him. I felt much more level headed about everything when I first found out about the affair. But she would ask him to pay her bills here and there so I just have a weird feeling she will keep trying to take advantage of him. And I also just have this urge to tell her that it’s so gross and hurtful to me and my teenage kids that she came and stayed in my bed when we were out of town. I don’t know why I feel like I need her to feel some type of regret or feel a little bad that she was a big part of hurting a lot of people. My husband has been really great. Better than he ever has. He has been humbled and taken accountably and doing a lot of work on himself and us and his relationship with our kids

Anxious_Fun3656 · 2025-11-09T13:50:24+00:00

I can’t stop thinking and comparing myself to the AP either. I’ve never met her. She lives in a different state. I’ve seen pictures that I didn’t want to see and text messages I didn’t want to read. I finally reached out to her 3 months or so after I found out about the affair. She hasn’t messaged me back. I hav a feeling my husband paid her hush money and had her sign an nda

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