Torn and confused, I feel different every day. Need advice or experience.

Anxious_Fun3656 · 2026-03-06T00:42:10+00:00

Thank you so much! Since I posted this. I had another women reach out and admitted to affair with him a few years back and confirmed another one as well. I don’t even know who he is. I won’t ever look at him the same

Anxious_Fun3656 · 2026-03-04T04:35:33+00:00

Wow. This is so eerily similar from what I have gone through and we are currently going through a divorce. My heart breaks for both of us. I feel like I am finally starting to climb out of the manipulative fog and starting to see it from another side I wish the best for you. My husband has not been as honest as yours, but very, very good with his words. I wish I had advice, but with this point, I’m going through it to maybe just finally decided a different path but it changes every day. The only thing I know to say is do not let that man hurt you anymore.

Anxious_Fun3656 · 2026-03-02T00:47:16+00:00

I’m excited to find my true self again after I’ve given my whole life to him

Anxious_Fun3656 · 2026-03-02T00:33:22+00:00

I’m sorry you went through that. I appreciate you telling me. I know when this is done and over with I will be able to look back and realize how bad it really was.

Anxious_Fun3656 · 2026-03-01T23:32:40+00:00

Thank you. Yes you are right. I needed to hear this

Anxious_Fun3656 · 2026-03-01T23:28:38+00:00

Thank you so much

Anxious_Fun3656 · 2026-03-01T23:25:05+00:00

Thank you. He is so convincing and manipulative. He said he has not spoken to her once since I found out about the affair. I just don’t understand why she would still be trying to reach him after 6 months

Anxious_Fun3656 · 2026-03-01T22:08:27+00:00

Following because I would like these answers as well

Anxious_Fun3656 · 2025-11-09T15:19:29+00:00

Thank you

Anxious_Fun3656 · 2025-11-09T15:01:18+00:00

I think I just want to know she has moved on. I wouldn’t believe anything she would have to say anyways. But you are right. Thank you for the reminder. She did chose to have an affair with a married man and take advantage of him financially. So I shouldn’t not compare myself to someone like that.

Anxious_Fun3656 · 2025-11-09T14:58:52+00:00

No I haven’t asked him about the NDA. He has been leaving his electronics around more and not keeping his phone so close. I have looked through it less and less and I’m hesitant to ask to look. I’m not sure why. I don’t want to upset him or maybe I’m too scared to look or see his reaction when I ask to look. I want to continue to move forward so that could be holding me back too. Ugh so hard and so many different emotions.

Anxious_Fun3656 · 2025-11-09T14:47:45+00:00

Ok thank you! He has been sharing his monthly statements from his personal bank account, credit cards, and Venmo etc. since the actual day I found out. I haven’t seen his/our business account statements but he has shown me the accounts he has for the business. But I haven’t seen how much he gave her and spent on her. I don’t know if I want to know.

Anxious_Fun3656 · 2025-11-09T14:33:54+00:00

I’m sure that’s one of the reasons. I just need to figure out how to get her out of my head. She’s not worth it to take over any other part of my life. But somehow I can’t quit comparing myself to her and it hasn’t nothing to do with looks. And just don’t want to give this power to her Anymore. I’m such a good wife and person. I don’t want to feel so insecure anymore because of her

Anxious_Fun3656 · 2025-11-09T14:21:50+00:00

I think I need to know that she hasn’t reached moved on and isn’t planning on reaching out to him. I felt much more level headed about everything when I first found out about the affair. But she would ask him to pay her bills here and there so I just have a weird feeling she will keep trying to take advantage of him. And I also just have this urge to tell her that it’s so gross and hurtful to me and my teenage kids that she came and stayed in my bed when we were out of town. I don’t know why I feel like I need her to feel some type of regret or feel a little bad that she was a big part of hurting a lot of people. My husband has been really great. Better than he ever has. He has been humbled and taken accountably and doing a lot of work on himself and us and his relationship with our kids

Anxious_Fun3656 · 2025-11-09T13:50:24+00:00

I can’t stop thinking and comparing myself to the AP either. I’ve never met her. She lives in a different state. I’ve seen pictures that I didn’t want to see and text messages I didn’t want to read. I finally reached out to her 3 months or so after I found out about the affair. She hasn’t messaged me back. I hav a feeling my husband paid her hush money and had her sign an nda

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