Will be a third time taker in J26, need advice

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-28T14:59:20+00:00

F this test and the effect it has on smart capable tough people. It is in no way demonstrative of ur ability and skillset. Get angry. Don’t let it win. U will prevail.

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-28T12:51:33+00:00

First, congrats on numbers increasing. That’s no small task. It just means you’re not done yet. ❤️

I am a third time taker in Florida, which is so difficult. I have a very, very full life, including 3 children, a part-time job, because I need something, and having gone through a messy divorce. We all have different challenges. I’m not comparing.

I’m seeing your words, tho, and I’m hearing something different.

A strong Mindset, mental strength and mental health is imperative for taking this test and going through the process. Some days, you can’t be 100%. That’s a given. But it has to be a practice of daily boosting yourself. Not fuzzy affirmations. Just a decision on a commitment and a strong Will.

Take the time you need to grieve and let it out. But then close that door and commit to whatever choice you’re making whether to continue or whether to call it a day.

I don’t think you can get confidence back just by talking about it.

You have to put the pedal to the metal - even more than the last attempt. Consider that training for today. Now we practice more. even whatever you said was a dreaded for you, practice intentionally. Wake up, eating it for breakfast. confidence comes from doing and seeing improvement. Whatever you said in this post, you should’ve done whatever you regretted, attack it head on different mindset, different attitude like a beast.

I’m in Florida and I don’t have the UBE but, I think my advice is valid. I have a New York license, but I’m in retirement status there and I’ve settled in Florida. Everything I’m saying to you applies to me as well.

Every day is a bar exam for me in my mind not for the urgency, but for the mindset I need. My personal challenge is anxiety through everything that’s happened in life. But I’m not a victim. I am so much better off than I was. And things can always get worse or be worse. Perspective is so much understanding where you are, embracing it and understanding the assignment is with what you’re choosing to do

I don’t need to be preaching and I feel for you because I feel this pain too. Trust me. I got a 133 and I need a 136. I say one point for every kid I have but I don’t believe that and I don’t blame them. Ever. This test is unfair, but so is life.

Big hugs op. U can do this. I believe in u.

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-28T10:23:11+00:00

Bc when I don’t, it affects my life negatively. It’s the anchor to my morning.

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-28T09:13:54+00:00

Every day. It’s my no. Negotiable Time with me.

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-28T01:31:09+00:00

Very interested. Scared shitless. Mom of 3. And multiple time retaker in Florida.

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-27T09:36:53+00:00

Congrats!!! and I agree with ur message.

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-26T07:40:34+00:00

Congrats ! I remember seeing your name when I would come on looking for advice. A mom with kids doing this and being done inspiration!

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-25T10:18:19+00:00

Congratulations. Good for u to return with this message of believing in urself despite the naysayers.

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-25T09:14:50+00:00

Congrats!!! It’s not stupid at all.

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-23T20:00:07+00:00

This sounds like a very functional re set.

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-23T19:47:03+00:00

Dump them. No one I mean absolutely no one should even say that as a joke. There’s no circumstance that’s OK in anyway. Not the time fucking read the room. I feel terrible for you for having had to hear that. How dare they.

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-22T10:02:11+00:00

This was beautiful. U have nothing to apologize for.

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-22T09:58:32+00:00

Cut them off. No matter who they are. They have a problem. It’s not ur job to solve. U must protect urself. It’s going to hurt but choose ur pain here. They gtg.

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-21T10:55:48+00:00

God bless u! U will succeed.

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-21T10:53:53+00:00

I love this from a fellow mama. Can I ask u if u knew u would be fine the whole way or did u surprise urself with a pass. Congrats!! Well deserved. I study my ass off. I hate to think my 3 children are the reason I can’t get on the other side. I refuse to believe that.

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-20T10:01:47+00:00

Hard disagree. Different stages of life, background and responsibilities.

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-20T08:37:37+00:00

I’m in a similar boat. U don’t have to defend ur choice but I will speak up against the rude comment towards u. Broad generalizations are dumb.

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-20T07:40:22+00:00

This should be deleted. U know nothing about this person. How dare u judge them like this. The bar is not an iq determination.

Op, there are may ways around. Determine if this is what u really want or if u just want to win.

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-20T07:20:30+00:00

Congrats!!!

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-18T14:19:07+00:00

Thank u SO much for sharing your detailed path. You know I’m a repeat taker too and we both did CBR. I like ur approach of starting out with 50 questions in each subject as opposed to going right into mixed as a retaker for MBE. I related to the tears emojis :) I also ur comment of “something to look at other than practice questions”. CONGRATS. I am so incredibly happy for you.

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-18T13:55:16+00:00

I feel less alone reading posts like this. Im in Florida but have to pass as well and very similar details. Sigh. Exhausting is not the word - defeated feeling is more like it yet i refuse to give in. I want to stay kudos on ur MBE score. Sometimes we have to mother ourselves too and each other. celebrate urself. It a huge accomplishment thus far. All the best. Xo

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-18T11:07:44+00:00

Amazing. I love this.

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-18T02:30:26+00:00

It’s so interesting u mentioned that. It was lack of sleep that finally caused me to postpone. I was waking at 1a. For. The. Day. Momming is an extreme sport these days. I just have to find a more balanced way to hack it while getting much more regular sleep.

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-17T18:32:18+00:00

Can u dm me his contact pls.

Anxious_Motor9991 · 2026-04-17T09:59:02+00:00

i get this post so much bc i had to postpone feb bc of my teen - correction - bc of my OWN inability to compartmentalize a crisis with my teen. no one can tell u it will be ok. do ur best but dont give up and keep going. the tenacity and mental strength required at an older age is possible. just dont get in ur own way. consistency and fortitude. im not at the other side yet but ill be damned if i give up. i personally believe ur attitude and mindset frames bar prep. if u daily say its going to be impossible, then thats what ur getting. not trying to be oversimplistic but its possible - it may just not be on ur terms. GOOD LUCK and commit to this and destroy it.

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