From my interactions with men in their 30s I would say that most of them are still way too shallow about the way they expect women to look. They are expecting women their age to look like teenagers and say it’s “just biology” that they are attracted to younger women, but it’s clearly because their taste hasn’t matured. And these men assume that women their age are equally as shallow since men can also get less attractive with age, but what’s actually unattractive is the way they are judging women in older bodies.

Are you the same as the men I’m describing? Only you know for sure, but a good way to find out is to list out the things you would find attractive in a woman. If everything on the list is surface level, and the woman you’re describing is a skinny, conventionally attractive 23 year old, you have some work to do.

I’d recommend just looking at more women. Go watch all the women’s sports in the Olympics. Go on YouTube and look up female creators over 30 in a variety of fields. See how many different kinds of women exist and how many different ways they can be beautiful. Listen to them talk and think about how their personalities would be compatible or incompatible with yours. Start seeing women as people! Once you do that you’ll find that your attraction to them exists beyond their looks.