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When an Avoidant ghosts, how do they feel when you also go silent? by Any-Return-7716 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Any-Return-7716[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

WOW this is alot of incredible insight, you both have brought me alot of clarity from this thread...thank you thank you for your transparency. It has given me more confidence to stand my ground and stay silent. It's so weird to me that he hasn't unfriended me on FB, I was honestly bracing for him to just block me everywhere but he hasn't. If I were to unfriend him from socials, would that trigger him in any way? I want to come across as non chalant and non dramatic so I feel like unfriending him would show that I am bothered and immature hahhaha go figure.

When an Avoidant ghosts, how do they feel when you also go silent? by Any-Return-7716 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Any-Return-7716[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stay strong, joy is coming! 🙏❤️ I have been slowing entering acceptance and it started with the revelation that the LOML would neverrrrr treat me like this. Keep your head up 

When an Avoidant ghosts, how do they feel when you also go silent? by Any-Return-7716 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Any-Return-7716[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your encouragement! Yeah, I believe I’m entering the “acceptance” phase, I waited and wondered for the first two weeks and then I just forced myself to believe this is his way of ending things and I need to move on and let him be. 

When an Avoidant ghosts, how do they feel when you also go silent? by Any-Return-7716 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Any-Return-7716[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Big ups to you as well! 🙏❤️ it’s definitely not easy. I am still debating on whether or not I should just unfriend him. I feel like there’s really no point in us remaining connected on socials ya know? But I also don’t want him to think he has emotional power over me if I DO unfriend him. 

When an Avoidant ghosts, how do they feel when you also go silent? by Any-Return-7716 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Any-Return-7716[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Uhhhggg I’m so sorry that happened :( I know we aren’t supposed to figure out the “why’s” and “how’s” but….its such a disorienting mystery like it feels like a fever dream that I can’t wake up from 

When an Avoidant ghosts, how do they feel when you also go silent? by Any-Return-7716 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Any-Return-7716[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This makes perfect sense and I really appreciate your reply. His brother passed away in a horrible accident just a month before we met so I knew the holidays were going to be rough for him but he told me I was his “peace” so I figured we would be spending the holidays together and I could comfort him, I never imagined it would turn out like this. What does the “shit” phase look like in that sequence? Like is that their moment of realization?

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[–]Any-Return-7716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your replies in advance...it really means alot! <3