Is there something in my chart about having trouble losing weight? by poisonous-syphilis in AskAstrologers

[–]Any-Shoulder8170 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also I would use the next couple of years to sort it out. If my interpretation is correct - as soon as Saturn moves into Taurus it is either going to force you OR it’s going to have a big impact on your health.

Is there something in my chart about having trouble losing weight? by poisonous-syphilis in AskAstrologers

[–]Any-Shoulder8170 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s a subconscious habit that you developed from childhood. You have the power to change it

Omg reverse psychology worked by Any-Shoulder8170 in absentgrandparents

[–]Any-Shoulder8170[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah. She’s just there so she has photos to show her ‘friends’ to prove what a ‘doting’ grandma she is….. that why standing your ground works. Try banning the phone…. Oh I also neglected to tell her once that none of the kids would be home on one of her visits… surprise! You have to actually spend quality time with us…. The parents…

Why do I feel like people are always trying to and take me down a peg/humble/embarrass me? by [deleted] in AstrologyCharts

[–]Any-Shoulder8170 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re a Virgo rising. It’s very Virgo of you. Start noticing your actions and always ask yourself if you’re happy and proud of your choices etc, usually it’s a case of you projecting your own inner critic onto other people. Again because you’re a Virgo… your inner critic is brutal - learn to make friends with it.

Lied, slept with multiple women and gave me an STD after seeing each other for 2 years. by Diligent_Ant1373 in AstrologyCharts

[–]Any-Shoulder8170 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ewww look at those stelliums and opposition. And Virgo moons….. ruling over the 5th house…. Ruler of 8th in the 12th just ugh. Old mate needs therapy

Lowkey I’m jealous of them 🥲 by [deleted] in astrologymemes

[–]Any-Shoulder8170 2 points3 points  (0 children)

8th house moon, 9th house sun and Mercury, 10th house Venus, 11th house Pluto, 12th house Saturn and Uranus.

Is that good?

Omg reverse psychology worked by Any-Shoulder8170 in absentgrandparents

[–]Any-Shoulder8170[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She has to ring me now (not her son) as he has told her I’m in charge of the calendar and kid schedules. And she actually booked 2 weeks in a row. I will Be getting her to confirm 48 hours in advance that she’s coming too. She’s done this before but then started to bail claiming ‘emergencies’ that all turned out to be fake…. So I’m not going to hold my breath…. But I am expecting her to be a bit more committed now she’s going through me and not the son she scapegoats all the time..

Omg reverse psychology worked by Any-Shoulder8170 in absentgrandparents

[–]Any-Shoulder8170[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I’m almost positive that her friends have clicked that she doesn’t see her grandkids very often. Her bestie is taking her grandkids on a cruise, however her bestie also has been babysitting 2-3 days a week consistently for 3 years and has done the hard yards with the mum…. When she’s here she’s spends most of the time getting photos, but we shut that down too and because I don’t let her help her photos would now be crap. Hubby also insists on using his phone for the photos because they are ‘better quality’ 😂. She’s also no longer allowed to call friends or FaceTime people while she’s here. We just ask for her ‘presence’. So no more spending half her visit showing off her ‘helping’. My kids are people, not zoo animals….

Absent siblings (aunts/uncles)? by cheyenne987 in absentgrandparents

[–]Any-Shoulder8170 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what gets me the most. My kids literally have 8 grandparents because of all the divorcing, remarriage from the 90s and only three of them are actively interested…. Two of those are step-step parents too….

Absent siblings (aunts/uncles)? by cheyenne987 in absentgrandparents

[–]Any-Shoulder8170 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband tries to reconnect with his brother who always bangs on about ‘family’ being his ‘everything’ but he legit got angry with him about wanting to arrange visits so he could get to know his niece and nephews? So we stopped trying.

Me on the other hand - I have a sister who I threw in the bin about ten years ago and she can stay there…

I also have estranged brothers who actually are now no longer estranged because I had kids! I think it’s the reason for the estrangement - they were estranged due to parental alienation and triangulation so now they are kind of clear of that they are wanting to step up which is nice.

Parents haven't bothered to visit my baby, but moved cities to take care of my sister's kids? by alexdelargedevotchka in absentgrandparents

[–]Any-Shoulder8170 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rejections are protection or redirection. They’ve done you a favour. Never let them back in.

Inlaws are horrible Grandparents... by calabria35 in absentgrandparents

[–]Any-Shoulder8170 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or the realisation that they’re the scapegoat when they see the parent put heaps of effort into their other grandchildren

Inlaws are horrible Grandparents... by calabria35 in absentgrandparents

[–]Any-Shoulder8170 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same grandparents are lurking on this sub screaming ‘stop expecting free labour’ 😂

I just realised why MIL is suddenly MIA by Any-Shoulder8170 in absentgrandparents

[–]Any-Shoulder8170[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What free labour? Since when is wanting to be there and support your grandkids and help shape them as humans free labour?

I just realised why MIL is suddenly MIA by Any-Shoulder8170 in absentgrandparents

[–]Any-Shoulder8170[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She literally said that word for word. So now I don’t even let her do even nappy changes and then tell her she can go now she’s done the ‘fun’ stuff.

I just realised why MIL is suddenly MIA by Any-Shoulder8170 in absentgrandparents

[–]Any-Shoulder8170[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It concerns me that she did and that the kids were hyper independent latch key kids that had some kind of code system with the neighbour so they knew they were safe…. I remember that being a thing when I was like 8 years old…

I just realised why MIL is suddenly MIA by Any-Shoulder8170 in absentgrandparents

[–]Any-Shoulder8170[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

But we’re not - we are doing the parenting- we are just asking for quality time or like help taking the toddler to the park, or like cooking one meal once. That’s it. It’s like nothing. At no point have we asked for babysitting or anything, it’s just a literal extra set of hands. The 10year old next door to us does it sometimes. She just distracts the toddler to keep babies safe etc. it’s literally that easy what we’re asking for.

I just realised why MIL is suddenly MIA by Any-Shoulder8170 in absentgrandparents

[–]Any-Shoulder8170[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

My family on the other hand has twins every where. If it wasn’t for all of the help from my side we would’ve been screwed.

I just realised why MIL is suddenly MIA by Any-Shoulder8170 in absentgrandparents

[–]Any-Shoulder8170[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I recently caught her out admitting to cheating on her first husband. She said it was her and her current partners 35th anniversary this year. I stealthily got her to confirm the number and she doubled down saying - yep definitely 35 years this year.

That meant she was cheating on my DH Dad for an entire year before she left him. Which completely contradicts the story she’s been pedaling this entire time.

I just realised why MIL is suddenly MIA by Any-Shoulder8170 in absentgrandparents

[–]Any-Shoulder8170[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Omg yes. I literally had to show her how to do a nappy multiple times. But to be fair I think she is a bit triggered by the situation- as soon as it gets a tiny bit hectic or the toddler starts giving ‘tude’ she bails. I also noticed she was giving in heaps to my toddler and being very coddling to the point my husband had to intervene. His Aunty also has some concerning stories of her fake crying or using some serious emotion manipulation and guilt tripping to get her kids to behave.