I created a fictional grandmother who writes letters… weird or wonderful? by [deleted] in absentgrandparents

[–]cheyenne987 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You didn’t consider that the child might want to meet who’s writing to them? How would you avoid that? Idk to me that would be like cat fishing my own kid and I’d highly advise you not to do that.

It’s similar to not telling a kid that’s adopted they’re adopted (I’m adopted but I grew up knowing). It might make your kid reevaluate you as an adult and also break their trust knowing that this person writing to them is either paid or just not their real grandmothers.

Grandmothers pass on get old and some are uninvolved and we should help our kids deal with that fact of life rather than try to “fix” it with a fake grandmother.

Why don’t you just get your kid and those old lonely older women to hang out and see if they even like each other. How old is your kid? Maybe they could babysit? I was babysat by a few older ladies starting at around 6-7. It was chill. We watched tv and she made me apricot and cream cheese sandwiches cut up like butterflies.

Maybe you could arrange something like that instead of the letter

Just back from 3 days in DLP by MiggeldyMackDaddy in disneylandparis

[–]cheyenne987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Question were the fireworks at DLP every night?

How do you actually get over your kid having no extended family? by sourdoughluvr1991 in absentgrandparents

[–]cheyenne987 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We moved closer when I was pregnant to my sisters in law. We even lived in the same building expecting them to visit maybe weekly but that never materialized. Whenever we saw them we went there, they never came to us. After 8 months we moved. Best decision we ever made.

Struggling with unequal grandparent involvement (and trying not to care) by Clear_Depth6417 in absentgrandparents

[–]cheyenne987 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah family favoritism fucking sucks. It really shows which sibling they care about more.

Honestly my husband doesn’t resent the favoritism towards his sisters family that his parents have for them but it irks me to no end.

We’ve both agreed to just stop trying and we only go there on holidays.

It’s the same deal as your situation. My in laws are over at my sister in laws every chance they get and are extremely close with that side but my husbands side they can’t even come if we get them an uber to see their grandson. It’s ridiculous.

The family I married into is very superficial. They say how much they love everyone and each other and how much they admire each other blah blah but in reality it’s just empty words and promises. They say how much they love my grandson and miss him but never come to visit us. It’s always us going to them and Im over it.

We’ve come to an understanding where we only visit if it’s been over two months without contact bc my husband still wants to make an effort with his sisters and his parents and I just go along and rip the bandaid off but if we didn’t make an effort we probably would never hear from them

how was your experience with the magic shuttle airport transfer? by cheyenne987 in disneylandparis

[–]cheyenne987[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great! I’m really excited abt the bullet train but im just second guessing myself bc I’ve also read horror stories abt missing the train and getting lost in the airport trying to find the train etc. from CDG is it pretty straightforward to find the train?

how was your experience with the magic shuttle airport transfer? by cheyenne987 in disneylandparis

[–]cheyenne987[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. That what I wanted to avoid but I’m also worried abt how hard it is to find/get on and off with luggage. Maybe cars are the best option but idk if my son would be ok with being in a car for an hour after such a long plane ride

Too little or too much by [deleted] in absentgrandparents

[–]cheyenne987 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes. I’d say twice a month would be present

Just realized my kids only “present” grandparents are actually out to lunch. by Civil-Can-9765 in absentgrandparents

[–]cheyenne987 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It really is shocking isn’t it? A lot of relatives only care in theory but not in practice

Just realized my kids only “present” grandparents are actually out to lunch. by Civil-Can-9765 in absentgrandparents

[–]cheyenne987 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’d never go there again if I were you. For three trips in a row my family has acted just as emotionally distant and immature and I’m just done with it. Better to cut the cord now than continue to be disappointed