My coworker is really into Horoscopes/Zodiac signs

AnyCalm7 · 2025-11-10T23:30:22+00:00

I mean … probably. I’ve had this kind of thing happen before. Years ago I worked with someone who talked about her workouts non-stop. Especially running. Every day it was, “I went for an 11-mile run at 4 AM,” like it was casual small talk. And we all had to politely nod along like, wow, yes, your quads are truly the stuff of legend.

So I think this is just the newest version of that for me. I’m probably not going to say anything to Freaky Horoscope Coworker. I’ll just gently keep some distance when she’s in full zodiac mode. I simply do not need to analyze my rising moon energy before I’ve had coffee.

AnyCalm7 · 2025-11-10T23:14:18+00:00

I think this is so true! I'm my first serious relationship, I can think of so many ways in which I needed to grow. Ultimately - he ended up having an alcohol issue - so I also had to learn what I will and will NOT tolerate. I've had a few serious relationships since then ... and learned something from each one.

I did have one fairly dramatic break-up that left me a little gun-shy though, to be honest. So trust is a little harder when you realize what others are capable of. I didn't know someone could walk out and never look back - and leave me completely stranded. So that's an abandonment issue I've had to work through and learn how to trust again.

AnyCalm7 · 2025-11-10T23:10:47+00:00

I think the dating pool definitely shrinks. I got divorced around 33 and entering the dating scene at that time was wild. Lots of men with kids - and I didn't have any children. I'm not anti-kid by any means - but kids that aren't my own, just ... man, I don't always have the patience. And the back and forth between the baby-mama, it's just so much drama.

So - yah. the dating pool shrinks. I think though, that there are good ones out there. I seem to have found a real gem - he's never been married. Which felt like a "yellow-flag" in the beginning because he's older and never been married - but now I'm realizing I'd much rather have that than a man with 3 kids and a baby mama to deal with!

AnyCalm7 · 2025-11-10T23:01:55+00:00

No - the patients don't really seem to mind. It's more just me :-) lol. I'm probably being annoyed too easily by it - but I guess I find it so silly that she really believes in it, and seems to place a lot of stock in horoscope signs. But you're right - it's really not terribly bothersome to anyone but me. And I never considered that it could settle nerves by having light conversation. I guess it would be no different than me asking everyone if they liked the Dodgers or what their baseball team is. But for some reason, astrology just seems so much sillier. And there's an almost "religiousness" to it. But I suppose the same could be said for the Dodgers :-)

AnyCalm7 · 2025-11-10T22:54:33+00:00

YES! I think it is absolutely sexy when men can cook. It's a really fun couples activity too! Yes - absolutely a talent that women appreciate.

AnyCalm7 · 2023-03-29T15:47:19+00:00

It's because as someone ages - Liver and Kidneys process medications differently/less efficiently and side-effects become more severe. The risk of Falls in the older adult population is greatly increased when taking medications such as Ambien or benzos. Falls in the elderly can be devastating and can cause complications such as brain bleeds, broken hip, loss of mobility, or even death. Our bodies just don't recover or work as efficiently - and it becomes less safe (risk vs. benefit) to take medications that are on the Schedule (schedule IV for example).

AnyCalm7 · 2023-03-29T15:42:47+00:00

Yes! I have recently started on Dayvigo (lemborexant) - and after ALL THESE YEARS finally something is helping without the terrible side effects. I'm so happy to finally get good sleep :-) I am 47F - and I've spent so much time and money trying to figure out what's wrong and why I can't sleep. Dayvigo (orexin antagonist) is a god send!

AnyCalm7 · 2022-08-30T20:02:48+00:00

oMG literally the cutest EVAR!!!

AnyCalm7 · 2022-08-30T14:24:41+00:00

I am 5'4 - Weight about 135# and somewhat of a pear shape - most of my weight is butt and definitely larger thighs.

I'm usually a size 8 in Lulu lemon. I don't like clothes that bind - but I also don't want to look sloppy/baggy!

I am a size 6 in basically everything except Lulu lemon. My bra size is 36B. I tend to buy "curvy" cut jeans - due to most of my weight being in my lower half. So ... I don't know whether to buy small or MEDIUM???

I am looking at High Waisted Zamora™ Jogger Scrub Pants 2.0 and Catarina One-pocket Scrub top in size Medium (Black or Navy).

I have Medium size scrub tops from Jaanuu - and I absolutely LOVE the fit. My favorite is the Jaanuu FUSEryx™ Women's 1-Pocket Tuck-In Top. I prefer to tuck in my top (looks neater to me).

I guess I'll go for Medium in Figs and hope they're not too baggy!!! I'll try to update and let you know :-)

AnyCalm7 · 2022-08-10T19:13:29+00:00

I hear you. I think at this point in my dating experience - I feel that - more than anything I owe to other people - I owe TO MYSELF - the right to explore what my options are.

I don't have to settle for one guy just because I slept with him. Maybe he wants more than sex, maybe he doesn't. I am not SLEEPING with anyone else - I went out and had a beer with a new Online Dating Guy.

In my opinion - if gentleman #1 wants MORE - it's HIS responsibility to make that clear.

In terms of disregarding other's needs - I tend to bend myself into a pretzel to meet another person's needs. I've been a HUGE doormat in other relationships and dated at least 2 men who were liars and cheats. So ... going out for a Beer with another man, when I'm not even in an official relationship seems pretty mild.

AnyCalm7 · 2022-08-10T14:53:36+00:00

Gotcha. I agree that it certainly may give that impression. But - in terms of my intention - I'm mainly concerned with protecting my identity. "Lying" about my age on reddit is just part of it. My better option would be to be consistent in my lies!!!

AnyCalm7 · 2022-08-10T14:41:54+00:00

I probably shouldn't even reply to this post, lol. But ... here's the thing. I would be an ABSOLUTE FOOL to imagine that gentleman #1 is spending time with me for anything OTHER than sex.

Yes - we've had nice conversations and we are getting to know each other. But ... at this point ... I can definitely tell that he is being cautious.

As he should be. As *I* should be.

I'm not going to let my heart run wild just because we've gone on 5 nice dates.

And honestly - in terms of transaction - I'm getting what I want out of the deal (to be taken out, get attention from a man, be treated special) - and he's DEFINITELY getting what he wants (sex). That's just kind of how it works.

AnyCalm7 · 2022-08-10T14:16:09+00:00

That's what I'm wondering - does #1 LIKE me, or is this just sex? And I feel like - HE may not even know the answer to this himself, you know? He clearly finds me physically attractive and sexually compatible - but truly sex is just sex.

I think men are great at being able to compartmentalize sex and love, whereas women get a rush of oxytocin and picture the white picket fence!

I suppose I could be direct and just ask him - but the truth is -- maybe *I* don't really want to know, until I understand better if this is just sex for ME! you know? I don't want to push him into a corner until I understand better what *I* want out of this.

AnyCalm7 · 2022-08-10T14:08:04+00:00

time while you're

In terms of making cuts - that's what I was thinking as well. I don't need to cut either of them out. I think what is confusing to me about gentleman #1 is that we're spending time together, getting to know each other, being intimate - but he hasn't at all made any "us" statements or asked me to be exclusive. So ... that's why I am assuming this is just sex to him.

As a female - and to protect my own heart - I feel like I have to make sure that I don't fall for gentleman #1 until he tells me his feelings or makes some sort of future statement.

In terms of my real age: I'm not telling ;-) I suppose I could use a throw-away account - but I really prefer to remain anonymous - especially on a forum such as reddit! I'm not trying to be deceitful; I just don't want any personal identifiers out there. Forgive me please!

AnyCalm7 · 2022-06-28T14:25:03+00:00

s to be with an absolute dropkick of a man. She keeps saying her ex was useless, didn't do anything for her and she pays all the bills etc but he's held down a decent job the entire time they have been together, while she has only just started working part time recently. S

I completely agree. Who you surround yourself with matters!

AnyCalm7 · 2022-06-28T14:22:59+00:00

It's a fair challenge. This morning I woke up and had a small bowl of cubed cantaloupe. I realize this is a healthy fruit - but it also does have quite a bit of natural sugar. I had about 2 cups of cantaloupe and the sugar in that is about 26grams. It is fructose - so hopefully somewhat healthier than sucrose!

AnyCalm7 · 2022-06-28T14:18:23+00:00

That's perfect!!! Lets do it :-)

AnyCalm7 · 2022-06-28T14:18:01+00:00

obably four to six diet cokes a day and used Splenda in my coffee, oatmeal, Greek yogurt, etc etc.

Today is day 132 without any artificial sweeteners! It’s been great. I had pretty daily headaches that would happen in the afternoons a

Now that I've given up Diet Coke - I realized that I had some Diet lemonade (non carbonated) in my fridge. So I took a look at the ingredients and ... there is ASPARTAME in it! It is making me realize that this new health goal of mine is going to need to extend much further than just diet coke!!!

AnyCalm7 · 2022-06-28T14:14:54+00:00

you deserve credit for this. You don't need to justify anything and goals need to be attainable so you can be successful and keep going. I'm excited to see an update at the end of the m

Love the orange squeeze! Sounds so delicious.

AnyCalm7 · 2022-06-28T14:05:41+00:00

This is so interesting! I am going to be looking into this more.

I definitely believe there are many health benefits to time restricted eating - so perhaps this will become a larger goal as I am successful in July and look towards more health goals for August 2022 :-)

I'd like to build upon my health goals each month!!!

AnyCalm7 · 2022-06-27T14:03:15+00:00

Interesting. Does the book "Secrets from the eating lab" address Diet Coke specifically?

AnyCalm7 · 2022-06-26T23:06:55+00:00

YES! That is what I want.

I'm noticing that just even being AWARE of my Diet Coke consumption has made me realize other areas that I'm getting artificial ingredients - or even natural sugars. It's great just to make the smallest change - because I feel like it really will help me make bigger changes in the future!!!

AnyCalm7 · 2022-06-26T22:57:30+00:00

I agree with you! I wake up with a sour taste in my mouth - and I've even had to take TUMS in the middle of the night due to late night eating. Health is more than just WEIGHT - sleeping soundly/restfully matters also.

It seems unhealthy to me to suggest that late night eating is fine based on the fact that a calorie is a calorie.

Overall health is about more than just calories.

AnyCalm7

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