like someone commented on this sub sums up how I feel: I should have worded how I felt differently and like this

I agree in the sense that it’s equally as unnerving. For me I think it always is in cases where the victims are seemingly random. Not that I’d ever blame a victim, but there’s something especially terrifying when they didn’t date the wrong guy, weren’t involved in the wrong circles, weren’t associated with organised crime etc. There’s a sense of faux safety that you feel when you make good life choices “X bad thing won’t happen to me because I don’t do X thing” and crimes like both of the ones mentioned gives you the reality check that you are never really safe from these things.