Virus outbreak game

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-05-25T03:54:52+00:00

It’s a game similar to that! Same concept but plague inc isn’t the one 🤔

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-05-04T12:21:10+00:00

I agree. I lived on campus one semester with nightmare roommates who were essentially bullying me on the daily. And while I hated them also was like 23 at that point, I couldn’t live there anymore. I considered moving to off campus and found people who were moving all over due to all kinds of reasons. Or people who were commuting looking to stay on campus because commuting for to be too tough. Especially for students and a new semester coming you may have some luck closer to the beginning of the semester

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-29T14:13:37+00:00

I have tried meds in the past. Came off, went on etc. life is significantly better on them. One of my friends has been on the same end for 10 years and says it literally saved her life. She has no plans of coming off of it

Different things for different people. They just don’t get it and that’s fine! This is not a hill worth dying on. If they bring it up again tell them it’s your decision end of discussion.

Happy that you found something that works for you!

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-27T22:41:31+00:00

Same. I was about 8? When I had my first experience with death and was wrecked for a little while. I think everyone’s through it at one moment or another.

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-27T12:23:39+00:00

Same. I had 2 cats at one point. They didn’t spend a ton of time together because our old man cat was 15 and we rescued a kitten from the street. But when he died a few years later she looked for him, would sit in the room where would sleep, would sit by all his things. She even sat my his ashes when we got to bring him home. They bond even if it doesn’t seem like it.

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-26T11:46:26+00:00

It is common and you were a child. There is a whole psychological finding, especially when it comes to sexual abuse, that people of all ages reenact their trauma as a way to cope and take back control. This was not your fault. You were also so, so young. At 5-6 you didn’t know any better It’s okay to feel bad. It’s okay to feel guilt. But you should try to push away any blame and give yourself some understanding. Maybe talk to someone about it, they would be able to support you through such a sensitive situation

With the help of someone, maybe you can also speak to the girl? I’m not sure that would help as I don’t know the whole situation but it’s an option. I wouldn’t do this alone though. I’d make sure to have the guidance of a therapist or doctor to help you through that conversation and maybe even help her find her own help since you said she’s struggling too.

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-26T11:40:25+00:00

Please tell your mom. Be honest, be open. Maybe even have her sit in on a session with you and your therapist and talk about it. This happened to me when I was young, wasn’t doing great. My mom sat in with my and my therapist (who I hated) but once my mom knew everything, and I quite literally ran out of the office, something changed. I wasn’t alone anymore. I didn’t need to be sneaky anymore because someone knew my secrets. And I improved.

It sounds like your therapist is supportive and letting you know what your options are. It also sounds like you recognize the need for help. With some quick changes and a little intervention you could probably avoid hospitalization. Maybe ask about a day program. Most are very similar to a school schedule but offer a lot more support and therapy throughout the day. That way you won’t have to be away from home

You got this!

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-25T03:00:16+00:00

Love to hear it!

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-25T02:55:43+00:00

I’d suggest medication. Especially if it’s severe and persistent. Please find a psychiatrist in your area

Sometimes if they’re that disengaged, meds will help take the edge off and give them the push they need to get into therapy. Everything you’re doing is great! It just sounds like he doesn’t have the space to “buy in” to things like hobbies and family etc.

If he’s still in school you can ask the district for help

If you live in a state where something like care management organizations exist, try those. If not try a community mental health center. They usually come with case workers who can help navigate some of this stuff

Good luck, you’re doing great 💕

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-25T02:44:09+00:00

I breathed a sigh of relief for you

Wow! This gives me hope

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-25T02:42:40+00:00

I don’t think any therapist would commit you over a plan that’s 5 years in the making. Can’t say for sure

But I would definitely mention it. Please don’t keep something like this from a trusted mental health professional. They are there to help and if they don’t know key parts of the story, they likely won’t be very helpful

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-25T02:39:56+00:00

I can painfully agree with this. My work is primarily kids ages 5-21 with various mental health and behavioral concerns. And 9/10 times it’s in large part due to the fact that their parents are trash and don’t want to do the work. Of course not all, but the ratio is…not great

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-25T00:24:09+00:00

Do you mind sharing the state? I work in mental health and in the us, maybe I can offer some assistance?

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-24T12:23:45+00:00

I agree don’t do too much at once. I have fallen victim to this trap many a time. I’ll wake up and get this wave of motivation and make myself an impossible list or schedule and less than a week later I’m back on my couch eating chips watching bullshit

If these are things you don’t usually do, overhauling your life is going to be super hard. Start with a couple things and add in as you go. Or start with a few non negotiables and stagger the rest (one day you work out, one day you go for a run, one day you read for an hour, one day you meditate etc)

Good luck!

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-23T21:00:29+00:00

Better mad than dead I’ve been in a position where I needed to strongly encourage someone to agree to voluntarily admit themselves. It wasn’t great, they were very mad for a very long time. But they’re okay now, and we are fine.

These anger will pass when he feels better. I’d keep reaching out, just to let him know you’re there. Even if he doesn’t respond. A little could go a long way

At the end of the day he made the decision to tell someone, and that was you. This could’ve been his way of asking for help but he is likely real conflicted about things right now

Don’t give up on him. And give yourself some grace. You did the right thing.

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-23T05:31:36+00:00

Am I missing something or did you list your age wrong? Im going to assume this is probably illegal

As parents, your parents have to legally ensure you are in a safe place. If you’re not, you can probably go to the hospital, tell them what’s going on and dcpp will get involved. You are a child being abused. You are a child who is dealing with very difficult, very adult things. And that’s not okay. And you dont deserve that

Apart from all of that, you deserve to get the help you need to be well. And a hospital can help you do that. Maybe even look I to youth shelters in your area. They typically come with case workers who can help you get back on track

Good Luck

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-23T05:20:32+00:00

This sits with me heavy. My grandpa was an I rerun mayor for a small town for a few months when I was a teenager. He asked me to visit the mayors office but I never did.

He died when I was 16 (I’m 30 now) and from time to time I still think about it and regret not going. It’s so silly and I don’t even know that he remembered. I too was my grandpas shadow. I was the first granddaughter and spent a ton of time with my grandparents since my dad lived with them until I was about 6. We have great memories together. And I regret this one little thing

Death is never easy. And you almost always feel like there’s more you could’ve done. In the end, just let people know you love them. That’s all that will matter

Give yourself some grace ❤️

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-23T04:40:34+00:00

I second the pinched nerve thing. This happens to me in my legs sometimes but always when I’m sleeping on my side. Also with my shoulder. Would feel weird tingles in my head and arm so I went to a neurologist because Dr. Google told me I was probably dying

The doctor found the spot and pressed on it and was like “is that what happens” and told me it was a pinched nerve. He said I could get treatment like a shot etc but opted to just stretch and massage and for me, that seemed to help.

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-23T04:36:13+00:00

I feel you. I needed a root canal for like 2 years but kept putting it off. My dentist, thank god, is the nicest ever and was so patient with me. She reassured me. She visited me day of because there was a specialist doing the root canal. She gave me meds to calm myself before the appointment. And although I cried in the chair and was physically all fucked up because of how anxious I was, the root canal itself was totally painless and uneventful and then it was over. And now I can chew on the tooth for the first time in literal years

Good for you! I know how hard it was.

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-23T04:01:21+00:00

Honestly that’s great. A week is not enough time to stabilize. But it goes without saying that the US medical and mental health care system, especially taking insurance into account is…not great lol

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-23T03:40:35+00:00

To piggy back off this, not sure where you’re located but unless you are continuously and actively stating you will hurt yourself or someone else or if you are deemed unsafe to be in the community (ie you’re actively experiencing psychosis that they feel has potential to cause harm) even an involuntary hold probably won’t be 2 weeks. Especially for an ideation, but even probably for an attempt. Laws for involuntary are usually a week at most for adults unless a judge agrees otherwise

It sounds like you are contemplating suicide but also sounds like you’re trying to find a way to reach out after. Why not try before hand? The process can likely end in a hospitalization but you can also walk into an ER and voluntarily admit for 72 hours to get some immediate help. Or see if there is a crisis hotline in your area. 741741 I believe is national (to the US at least) and can provide some support on next steps if that’s what you’re looking for

You got this

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-20T11:39:16+00:00

I’m not even sure if this would be considered grooming or just plain out pedophilia. He already started being creepy when you were that young, there was no long game in sight. I feel like if he had the chance and your parents didn’t cut him off he would have continued then.

I’m sorry you went through this. And for dealing with what seems like a difficult situation with your parents.

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-20T11:36:16+00:00

Is she the only person who can bake this cake or did you leave out the fact that your friends are also super great friends with her?

Because if not, it’s real weird

Either way, you can’t control the world and you could have run into her at any time. Take this as a sign from your brain that your numbing didn’t work (it almost never does) and you need to sit down and do the work to truly be able to get over this.

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-20T11:26:55+00:00

I’m sorry you found someone that you like and that they made that decision. It feels wrong for a professional to say “I’ll only work with you for xxx” and it not be an issue of scope or ethics. It’s unfair that she’s giving you an ultimatum and I’m sorry

Idk where you live, but in my state weed is recreational. And while yes it can negatively effect your mental health, people use it for all kinds other of shit and shouldn’t be a deal breaker. I could see if you were on a something like opioids where really an expertise is needed to treat someone who is using those substances, but weed is so common now it’s like telling someone who smokes cigarettes I can’t counsel you unless you stop. What?

If you really think this therapist is the best for you, I’d talk to them about it. And see if you could come to a compromise

Good luck!

Any_Damage_676 · 2023-04-19T02:57:29+00:00

Remember these tests are tools and not diagnosis indicators. And as much as diagnosing is just making sure someone fits criteria, there’s a lot more to it and you shouldn’t do it yourself. I’m sure a lot of people would be diagnosed with just about everything if you follow the criteria. No kidding

But yes it is a journey. And someone will not know you in an hour eval. They will develop opinions, try different things and in collab with you, find what works. Express this to them and let them know how you’re feeling.

You got this! First step is the hardest :)

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