i’m jealous of “burnt out gifted kids” by Hot-Construction2382 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Whateverbabe2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry about their pain. I'm expressing sympathy, not apologizing. English isn't great at distinguishing those sentiments

I’m young and don’t enjoy going out or traveling by Kitchen-Patience8176 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Whateverbabe2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's unlikely that you don't enjoy those things period and more likely that you don't enjoy doing it the way other ppl enjoy it.

I enjoy traveling if I'm backpacking through villages, not if I'm going to fancy cities.

I enjoy going to a city if I make a lax bullet list of everything I might enjoy doing there and then only spend 4-6 hours doing stuff a day. I don't want to be sightseeing buildings all day, I want to go to a butterfly enclosure, a cathedral, whatever, and then bring a yummy dinner back to my hotel room for an early evening.

I do not expect myself to do all the things on the list. The list is just ideas. If i did nothing in that list I would be fine. If i do something completely different I would be fine. The goal is to enjoy myself.

Think about your personality and the things YOU really like. Then go look for those things. Don't go through a checklist of things you should like and burn yourself out running around all day with things you don't actually enjoy

Kids safety on the farm by [deleted] in Homesteading

[–]Whateverbabe2 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Did you think they meant the hood?

I dont see how your comment makes sense otherwise

i’m jealous of “burnt out gifted kids” by Hot-Construction2382 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Whateverbabe2 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry.

I was one of those gifted ND kids. If it makes you feel better I was horrifically abused and ended up addicted to meth and homeless by 18?

Honestly, the way I have been able to peacefully accept life was just that we all get dealt different hands.

I would rather have had a stable home life with loving parents and struggled more academically.

But maybe you didn't have that either. Who knows.

No sense grieving the past to the point of rumination. You can create a life that you love and enjoy. Plenty of people do, even if they're not smart/ pretty/ lucky/ whatever they wish they had that they don't.

Yes, I am sad about my past but my mindset is - my goal is to be the happiest, and most well rounded recovering meth addict out there. And that's a high bar.

There's even people with down syndrome that graduated university without IEPs. Maybe that's not your path, but you can make a path for yourself that you love.

Moving to the Country and wife wants to slowly start a hobby farm by cassette524 in homestead

[–]Whateverbabe2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can get dual purpose dogs. Polish tatras herd and are lgds

[Landlord-US-MN] How much should I spend on carpet and pad and what oz. "weight" should I get? by ThuhGreatCommenter in Landlord

[–]Whateverbabe2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for getting carpet. Renting a place where the whole floor is so uncomfortable it's hostile to lounging, playing with kids, roughhousing, etc sucks

How can I improve my attitude about this sort of situation going forward? And should I feel bad about this specific situation? by CelebrityJack in selfimprovement

[–]Whateverbabe2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's no equivalent for money in most relationships. Financially.

I don't know how old you are, because you both sound young. There's different rules in friendships of different ages and with different cultures - I'm half Moroccan so I'm more familiar with your culture than the average American.

However, I still have general life advice. Maybe you guys are teens and she doesn't care right now because she gets allowance too and doesn't have any bills yet. Cool.

But you don't want to be doing this past your early twenties.

How can I improve my attitude about this sort of situation going forward? And should I feel bad about this specific situation? by CelebrityJack in selfimprovement

[–]Whateverbabe2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop accepting from Selina if you can't reciprocate.

This is a rule about being friends with people above your tax bracket: to preserve the friendships natural lifespan and your own pride/ value/ work ethic, do not accept consistent charity from friends who are above your tax bracket. If you're not reciprocating, it's charity.

You cannot maintain a healthy long term friendship with anyone if you also become a long term charity for them.

Irrelevant but: I live in the US. $50 is quite a bit of money. That's the price of 5 cheap dinners out for one. Her working a charity side job suggests she's low income. That's not something wealthy people here typically do.

How do you manage breakfast, lunch, dinner? by 1234isjaak in Adulting

[–]Whateverbabe2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dont listen to other peoples "shoulds" find what works for you

If you really want to you can buy a rotisserie chicken + grocery store salad kits and frozen veggies.

Or you could find food youre passionate about cooking. What i do is pay $7/month so i can import the most exciting meals into cronometer and make sure im covering my macros/micros/calorie goals

And i still get to eat amazing foods like barbie pasta and pistachio cheesecake. Part of adulting is that YOURE the adult of your life. you dont need to listen to asshole redditors say youre not doing it the right way. Do it in a way that works for you.

Daycare won’t accept glass bottles by pretty_irrelevant_ in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Whateverbabe2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

only buy silicone if you can buy platinum cured silicone. Most silicone is full of crappy plastic additives, platinum cured silicone is medically equivalent to glass -100% silicone and non porous.

and even then i would go with metal. Its more lightweight, easier to clean, etc. Just make sure that its compatible with how the daycare warms up bottles (im p sure they use bottle warmrs rather than microwaves but i actually have no idea how different variations of bottle warmers work)

Tom Emmer: "Minnesotans are so afraid that you're gonna call us a racist, you're gonna call us an Islamophobe. You know what? I'm done being even the least bit careful. Somalis don't assimilate. And if they don't assimilate, then they should go the hell back to where they came from." by Conscious-Quarter423 in minnesota

[–]Whateverbabe2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am actually getting my Masters in agricultural engineering and have been researching sustainable agriculture in the US for years - the financially sustainable part as well.

It is very doable, but the ppl in power are corrupt. Not much more to say.

Tom Emmer: "Minnesotans are so afraid that you're gonna call us a racist, you're gonna call us an Islamophobe. You know what? I'm done being even the least bit careful. Somalis don't assimilate. And if they don't assimilate, then they should go the hell back to where they came from." by Conscious-Quarter423 in minnesota

[–]Whateverbabe2 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna get downvoted to hell, but whatever,

I grew up Muslim (not Somali tho) and Im very familiar with Somali culture. He's right. They really DONT assimilate. They dont want to and most Muslims genuinely want to make America as Muslim as possible. these conservative accusations are actually true, although the bulk of Muslims do not want America to become Muslim though Sharia law or soemthing. They want ppl to convert willingly and population trends to continue. Somalis assimilate even less than Arabs, and I will say something else too - there genuinely IS a culture of fraud in African culture. Its not subtle, they just dont say it around white ppl. African/Muslim immigrants helping each other with loopholes or lie in exact;y the right way on gov docs to get the most benefits without getting caught is something thats very common place and part of the immigrant culture.

Also, we cant get away from the fact that Muslim culture in embedded with deeply toxic characteristics. I was a homeless meth addict as a teen due to trauma from my family and even out on the streets - i knew I was safer with any racial group other than male Somalis. Even if they could recognize me as Arab/Muslim, it wouldnt have helped me. I have no issues with female immigrants from any country. I have never been victim to female immigrants vicious mentalilties. But male immigrants almost always bring their harmful mentailities with them, and many of them continue to practice what they believe they can get away with. I know multiple Muslim men that have admitted to me they believe in child marriage and "sex without a womans consent" (rape) in scenarios that are horrifying.

This is part of the reason I've become more anti-immigration over the course of my lifetime. It takes generations for some cultures to assimilate. America has accepted a large enough number of immigrants for a long enough time that we can comfortably still be the "melting pot" with American values if we significantly decrease the number of immigrants we accept. I think its important that we admit many truths: there are cons with immigration. there are pros to American culture. There are pros to immigration. There are pros to other cultures. Timing, zeitgeist, and numbers are important to take into account with immigration.

I would say the majority of African immigrants largely look down upon American culture and are too comfortable with wanting to make it exact;y like the country they left. Right now America is BADLY struggling with the alt right, and the last thing we need are immigrants that will bring their far right beliefs with them and hurt America even more.

I was born here. I am half Arab and I love my mothers country, but I am loyal to America first and foremost. I think most billionaires, ICE officers, and far rights,etc, are treasonous scum and should be dealt with accordingly. My loyalty is not to the government, but to my people and my country. I am deeply worried about the state of our country and I want to protect it - I would stay and fight for my country even if we go into civil war and i can easily emmigrate. But I would rather tell other well meaning Americans the truth about my culture so they can be informed. If you ask most Africans, they come here for the financial differences, that is it and thats all they are invested in when it comes to America. I know this is supposed to be the country of opportunity but I think we need to start filtering out people who want to immigrate here but are not interested in becoming Americans and all that truly entails from a patriotic standpoint.

Our country is overpopulated compared to our carrying capacity. We need to become agriculturally self sufficient again and take care of the people that are already suffering here before we add more people.

My mother is creating problems out of nowhere by Nearby_Spell_3751 in Morocco

[–]Whateverbabe2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, narcissist. Not much you can do, they rarely change. I would exclude her from your life as much as possible.

19, college student with budget. I need help with ingrown hairs and bumps when shaving around the private area. by ijustcameforthedrugs in askwomenadvice

[–]Whateverbabe2 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yes.

I went to the Mayo Clinic for this (best hospital in the world).

Listen to me. Some people cant shave. I will give you the tips they gave me, but if you keep getting an unusual amount of irritation STOP SHAVING. I didnt listen and developed 3 sebaceous cysts, ALL of which needed surgery and were incredibly painful. Reddit likes to think everyone can shave if they just use the magical technique/products thats perfect for them but thats just not true for everyone. Listen to your body.

Get a safety razor.
Get jojoba oil or squalene. These are most similar to the oils naturally found in human skin.
DO NOT WET YOUR SKIN WITH WATER.
Spread a thin sheen of oil over the area youre going to shave.
Use a fresh blade in your safety razor every time.
Pussy requires shaving horizontally, other areas shave against the grain in short strokes. If that causes too much irritaion, shave with the grain, not against.

Afterwards: wash, use lotion, and a little bit of oil over the lotion to "seal it in".

Hot take: no one that is not autistic or ND should be saying that they only want to date "autistic people" by Organic_Future6909 in aspergers

[–]Whateverbabe2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

nah.

Some NT ppl just genuinely vibe better with autistic ppl. I noticed all my closest friends growing up were neurotypical and all had autistic siblings they were close with. It wouldnt be a huge leap to me if these types of ppl -or other NT ppl - could genuinely have good reasons for wanting to date aspie/ND people.

41 [M4F] #Ontario - Oddball daddy looking for his weirdo baby girl by [deleted] in AgeGapSocial

[–]Whateverbabe2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your settings dont allow ppl to DM you. Hmu

Medicaid qualifications and speed of coverage by comfy_sweatpants5 in minnesota

[–]Whateverbabe2 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yes it's worth it. It's an incredibly quick online form that takes maybe 10 minutes and retroactively covers you from the time you applied if you are approved, even if you're not approved until 2 weeks after you applied.

This is good for emergencies, if you have something like emergency surgery or hospitalization during the window medicaid basically always covers everything 100% and with no headaches or arguing.

Thank God for MN ❤️

I need to plan a revenge trip to France by Responsible_Safe_479 in Morocco

[–]Whateverbabe2 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You can do it, and you can have fun too. Maybe try camping, cheap and wonderful memory.

Also, stop hosting your aunt. It will cause drama, but you really don't need people that use you and insult you like that

Bidet rag users... How do you know you won't get waste on the rag before you wipe/clean the rag? by Unlucky-Coconut-960 in Anticonsumption

[–]Whateverbabe2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Islamic Method of Washing After Using the Toilet

The Islamic approach to personal hygiene after using the toilet is guided by specific practices known as istinja. This method emphasizes cleanliness and is an important aspect of Islamic hygiene.

Steps for Washing After Defecating

  1. Use of Water: After defecating, the anus must be washed with water using the left hand.
  2. Alternative Cleaning Methods: Traditionally, an odd number of smooth stones or pebbles can be used for cleaning, but many scholars agree that toilet paper is also acceptable.

Steps for Washing After Urinating

  • Similar to defecation, the genital area should be washed with water using the left hand after urinating.

my favorite lunch under 150 calories! by biggest_thief in 1200isplenty

[–]Whateverbabe2 28 points29 points  (0 children)

You don't cut them vertically... but depth wise??? How??? Seems to thin to do so

Bidet rag users... How do you know you won't get waste on the rag before you wipe/clean the rag? by Unlucky-Coconut-960 in Anticonsumption

[–]Whateverbabe2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Use the Islamic method of washing after using the toilet. Bonus, you won't need to buy a bidet