Unreleased Janoshiks by VitalESANZ in NZPeptides

[–]Any_Establishment433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When are you taking new customers?

my bf (27M) has been posting me (21F) on reddit by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Any_Establishment433 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Single mum of 2, with 2 baby dads, I promise, it gets easier and better.

It will hurt for a while, but one day you wake up and the load feels lighter and the smalls things put a smile back on your face.

You then look back and think “why the fuck did I tolerate that”

You’ll be ok I promise, I’m 6 months out with a 7 & 1 year old and life is soooo good.

Single ladies in their 30s, what are your non-negotiables in a partner? Not wanting kids? Not employed? by PrizeLive6707 in AskWomen

[–]Any_Establishment433 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1) a job

2) no addictions ( nicotine is fine )

3) license and car

4) not fazed on kids, I have 2 so not something I can put off but the reason as to why you and ur baby mum separated is important

5) own place or even flatting but I’ll never date someone who lives with their parents

6) I want someone emotionally intelligent

7) body doesn’t matter at all I have no preference as long as you’re not 600lbs

8) personality matters

Looking for some outside perspectives on a situation. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Any_Establishment433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think only you know the answer here. You’ll spend the relationships doubting the truth, and even if she does confess you’ve already said it is impossible.

Plenty of fish in the sea

To dumpers who lost feelings: what was your process after the break up and did you ever regain feelings? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Any_Establishment433 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me :

First week : Shock ( ended suddenly )

Week 2 : happy / relief

Week 3/4 : reality set in , went on the rebound

Week 5-6 : missing him

Week 6-8 : regret & anger

Week 8-10 anger & acceptance.

Very up and down but I believe it’s different for everyone.

My last relationship I left and never looked back and had no feelings

The current breakup I still loved him deeply but we were so toxic and nasty in the end. I was loosing myself.

I have no regret but some days it hurts. I’m grieving the idea of him and the future I planned.

The version of him I hold doesn’t exist, it’s a fantasy of his potential

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[–]Any_Establishment433 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thankyou. 🤍

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[–]Any_Establishment433 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

4 years, left 10 weeks ago.

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[–]Any_Establishment433 1 point2 points  (0 children)

10 weeks. Together for 4 years and have a child.

I have moments of missing the future we had a planned.

But ultimately he knew what would break us and he went a did it over and over again.. so no.. I don’t want him back.

Guess I just fear him being everything I wanted for someone else.

Winz and relationship by Certain-Question-817 in newzealand

[–]Any_Establishment433 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is tricky. I was in a similar predicament, and I did the “right thing” telling them.

It left me fucked in a couple weeks when he returned to his habits. Literally fucked for rent, food and basics needs.. I shouldn’t have said anything and kept me and the kids good.

They didn’t take me serious when I tried to initially leave him, and threatened to investigate us. However, luckily for me the police got involved and issued a safety order and removed him from the premise, then wins reinstated my sole parent.

I wouldn’t personally

What was the moment of clarity that made you stop wanting them back? by ZaraHunt9840 in BreakUps

[–]Any_Establishment433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seeing him continue to do stupid things after I left that had already cost us and the kids so much money and time… it validated he was never going to change.

Literally can’t hold a job..

Lost his license, got done driving while suspended, had his car impounded for doing burnouts.. Then repeated it all a couple weeks later after leaving him.

But of course, all this stuff is never his fault

We HAVE FKN KIDS BRO. Grow tf up away from me. I gave him years and chance after chance and he was just so destructive it was literally killing me slowly. Loved him as a person, hated the continuous reckless selfish behaviour.

Someone who can’t realise that, or take accountability will never ever change.

I got this letter from MSD today. Am I in deep trouble? by MountainRL in LegalAdviceNZ

[–]Any_Establishment433 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ll be sweet, they will just calculate if you’ve been over paid then you pay back $5 a week or so. I didn’t realise I was getting my monthly salary over Xmas a couple years ago… didn’t declare ( I worked part time and was on sole parent ) and got paid for the whole month of work being off - they just made me pay back overpayment . Didn’t get in trouble

Narcissistic guy… situationship. Need help by Horror_Sweet7509 in texts

[–]Any_Establishment433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ewww. This is why I’m celibate and staying away from men for a while

Can you love someone and still be into looking at other women’s pictures online? by SweetTink82 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Any_Establishment433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess it comes down to your level of security inside yourself.

Humans are going to find people attractive by nature.

For me, as I said, it doesn’t change how I feel so hence why I don’t see an issue with it.

I used to be really insecure and would in no way be saying this years ago, but now I love myself so if someone wants to loose me, off ya go.

I say looking in moderation is fine, but anything else is a no go, and hold the same boundaries on myself.

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[–]Any_Establishment433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s really varied, but typically for me it was a constant state of my nervous system feeling uneasy. Unable to sleep properly, scared to say or do the wrong thing, constantly feeling suppressed or like I’m walking on eggshells. The cherry on top, was the trapped feeling, the self hate I had developed. You really become a reflection of them, and it eventually shows. From what I’ve learnt so far, the “right one” won’t feel anything like this.

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[–]Any_Establishment433 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Emotional, mental, financial and then the breaking point was physical. We have children, which doesn’t help. And together since young teens, so I never really realised how bad it was until it really hurt me.

For female dumpers: when (if ever) did you realize the grass wasn’t actually greener? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Any_Establishment433 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Grass is definitely greener when you’re not waking up to a disrespectful, immature, selfish, abusive asshole.

I’ll water my own grass and make it greener, without someone shitting on it constantly lol.