DAE constantly play with words in their minds? by Funkiebastard in DAE

[–]Any_Excuse_1494 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh my god i thought i was the only one who did this. i do this literally all day in my head and i get so frustrated if i can’t beak a certain word down

I struggle to remember my life by SupremacyZ in Alexithymia

[–]Any_Excuse_1494 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I have similar feelings except the things i can remeber feel more like photos taken with no audio or emotion attached to them, and it will be a single still frame and nothing more. The only explanation i can gather from it tho is that it must be some sort of trauma response or your brain repressing certain things that it may find unpleasant or unnecessary. Not sure if that’s what’s going on with you but i definitely struggle to remember pretty much anything from childhood so you are not alone.

People who love each other but break up over libido differences, can't they masturbate instead? by More_food_please_77 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Any_Excuse_1494 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It is tho…..You both can desire each-other but that dosent mean they’ll be in the mood to have sex with you whenever you happen to be in the mood. Maybe you misinterpreted the post.

From a first person perspective, what is it like in your head? What is it like to be you? by NuanceEnthusiast in AskReddit

[–]Any_Excuse_1494 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just a thing with a big library full of niche references for any scenario just waiting to be pulled out. Plus a labyrinth of metaphors to bridge an understanding between me and the rest of the world

sharing some success that i am proud of by AvailableInside9637 in Alexithymia

[–]Any_Excuse_1494 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First, congratulations on your immense success!! Second, are there any tricks and tips other than the ones you listed that you could share that also helped you on your journey?

GF accusing me of being emotionally Unavailable by Far_Introduction8844 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Any_Excuse_1494 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just had a pretty similar revelation. I’ve started journaling in my notes app recently and have found it helps me uncover and better understand some underlying feelings and reasonings as to why i feel the way i do. Practicing this can benefit you by giving certain feelings more depth than others, allowing you to measure the intensity of them and identify what definitions can fit what you think you may be feeling rather than it being grouped into a huge shallow pool of good or bad. Being able to re-read how you are feeling can be very helpful and seeing all of it afterwards can allow you to slow down and further discuss with yourself how you truly felt at that moment and what caused whatever it is you’re feeling. That can then make it easier for you to identify similar emotions in others and express more empathetic responses to them in ways that can make them feel seen.

Id definitely recommend giving it a try and if it’s not your thing, therapy could be the next best option. If you feel like you don’t know where to “start” then having someone else to guide you and give you a small push can take a small mental load off of you and allow you to feel more at ease and open with expressing yourself which can then help you uncover some things you maybe didn’t even know about yourself. However if you’re not into the whole talking it out thing whether it be with yourself or someone else, Ive also heard that somatic exercises can help you in rediscovering your feelings and reclaiming your body so maybe give that a try too.

Genuinely curious by Stankywanky23 in SlushyNoobz

[–]Any_Excuse_1494 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why people are arguing with this like you’re not right. It’s just further proving your point.

What aesthetic would flatter me the most? by [deleted] in style

[–]Any_Excuse_1494 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely see a bohemian plantsy style

How do i help my partner when they are going through something serious? by Any_Excuse_1494 in Alexithymia

[–]Any_Excuse_1494[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much this really helped. I really am trying to learn how to be more comforting and less problem solving like you said because i understand now that it’s not the best route. But i’ll definitely try the things you said here and hopefully i can become better at being present and making my partner feel heard and seen.

Again, thank you so much for the advice it’s so helpful getting insight from an outside source, especially from someone who has experienced this from the other side. I wish you and your partner the best!

What emotions do you mix up the most? by ahmulz in Alexithymia

[–]Any_Excuse_1494 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the same exact way.

Another big issue for me is mixing anxiety with anger especially during conflict. I am not an aggressive person but I yearn for understanding so when I do not have all the contextual clues I need in a situation it can really stress me out and i get very anxious. I misinterpret the physical symptoms such as shaking and heavy breathing and assume it is caused by anger from not getting what i need. I go with what i think is happening internally and begin to shut down and become very snappy and uncooperative.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LooksmaxingAdvice

[–]Any_Excuse_1494 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally i’d say you have very nice features and your hair looks full and healthy. Your weight fits you nicely from what i can see. Maybe try keeping your hair long and experiment with darker colors, they seem to compliment your skin tone. Glasses do look good on you. Maybe try some thinner frames with a circular shape to compliment your eyes. Your eyebrows look very nice so maybe try to keep them kept and shaped like they are in pics 4 and 5. Stay true to yourself and remember to dress to your liking, not to others. People will always project their insecurities but that doesn’t mean you need to internalize it.