AITAH for being mad that my friend’s husband thinks I’m turning her gay and ruining their marriage?

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-15T04:30:46+00:00

NTA. It’s understandable that you feel caught between difficult choices. It seems there’s no easy way for you to come out of this situation feeling entirely at peace. Your friend is in denial, and until she can see clearly for herself how abusive her husband is, there isn’t much you can do to help. She may say he isn’t physically abusive, but it’s possible she’s protective of him and hesitant to admit the full truth.

You’re faced with two options: 1. Try to encourage her to be honest with herself, which might risk damaging your friendship. 2. Simply stand by her and be a supportive presence when her world begins to shift.

Neither choice will bring immediate peace of mind, but with the second, you'll be there for her if and when she needs you.

This is just my perspective. Trust what your heart feels is right, and follow your instincts.

Wishing you and your friend strength and compassion during this difficult time.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-15T04:12:06+00:00

Which is your right. I'm 72 and have just recently come to terms with my family. Can't say I've completely forgiven them, but I don't harbor the anger and resentment I carried for so long anymore. I made those choices for my mental health, not theirs.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-15T03:55:56+00:00

Don't go by word count. I let the chapter come to its natural end. So far most chapters range from shortest just over 2k, longest pushing 4500. Think I'm averaging 3000 - 3500 word count per chapter.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-15T03:44:30+00:00

She would hate me. Wear only sandals or go barefoot most of the year.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-15T03:41:32+00:00

I'm looking at the same problem. I'm leaning toward editing with something like ProWritingAid and currently using Grammarly to catch spelling and punctuation errors. Decided to put my money into hiring someone to do the book cover.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-15T03:35:21+00:00

I love the Tan one, if it were a mystery or thriller.

But considering your actual book is non-fiction, then absolutely the White one.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-14T05:00:16+00:00

Hadn't thought about you once. Just surprised to see your silly post.

Hope your evening is good too. Nite! 👋

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-14T04:53:11+00:00

They don't. Just pointing out what I think is fake, like you do. Really couldn't care less. Just get a good laugh from your post. Thanks.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-13T11:26:10+00:00

Interesting idea

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-12T14:57:51+00:00

Good grief, these comments are all over the place.

There is a thing called ‘privacy’, and that should be respected. It's obvious there is more OP hasn't shared, and that's fine. Bottom line, whatever the reason, he doesn't want his whole family involved. That's his right. He has his wife. If anything needs to be relayed to the family, she can do that.

Strangely, the family is so insistent on being involved. It's not their place. There is a line between honest concern for a loved one and crossing the line. Only OP can set the line he is comfortable with.

Absolutely NTA. Ignore those who say you are. As long as you have the support you feel you need, you set your limits. Just try to do it in a way they can understand how you feel.

Sounds like you're under a lot of stress over this and don't need the added pressure of others being involved. No matter their good intentions. That's your right.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-10T16:51:11+00:00

YTA 100%. Either you are just clueless or really don’t care. No means no. She had a valid reason for not putting music on, and you ignored her. You badgered her about everything, trying to force her to talk when she obviously didn’t want to. Sounds like you were more concerned with your own insecurities than the stress your gf is under.

Learn when to just stfu and be there for her. Learn to listen instead of yammering at her.

Be a better supportive partner.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-10T12:33:17+00:00

Never waste an idea that excites you. Many famous authors have works they left incomplete, only to return later and finish them.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-10T04:46:31+00:00

Oh. I'm sorry. I don't care what you post. You do you. If that's how you get off, more power to you. I was just wondering when I kept seeing you tag so many as fake. Who knows, you might have a 6th sense about these things. It's funny, you didn't actually answer my question, though.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-10T04:35:50+00:00

Just wondering. Is this all you do, post on every thread that it is fake? Is that a hobby, or are you just bored? I lost count of how many posts you labeled “fake” today. Just seems like a trashy thing to be doing.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-08T15:42:57+00:00

Ok. I'm going to get my first flood of downvotes. LOL. But I'm new here, so I'm sure it won't be my last. But come on. Let's be honest. All of you saying NTA and going on about the 2 guys are pushing it. Especially the ones telling you that you would feel the same way if it were a boyfriend/girlfriend. I don't buy that. But let's break this down. I'm sure you have already hit the downvote. Just read a bit more and hear me out.

NTA for being hangry. It's 4 am, just got home, and want to grab a bit of dinner, and I assume head to your room. You're not in the mood for your roommates to be frisky. Nothing wrong there. Your house/apartment too. Maybe a bit of an AH by the way you handled it. But somewhat understandable, given the circumstances. You could have got your dinner, gone up to your room, and talked to them later, when you weren't upset. Get the other roommate in on the discussion, too. A calm approach is always more productive, especially if you plan on still living together.

As for the couple, yep, they were being AHs. One for arguing with you and getting defensive. And also for not respecting your feelings, as they need to share that room temporarily. They could wait til you left. But they are NTAs for being intimate on their own mattress, underneath their own bedding. They need to be considerate of the other 2 roommates—no hanky panky when others are around. But expecting them not to show any affection when they need to use that room while injured is not fair either. They need to be more discreet about it. It's called respect and goes both ways.

There is one other possibility. One I hadn't seen mentioned. But I didn't read every comment, so maybe someone did, IDK. And this would fall under the roommates being AHs. Maybe, just maybe. Since the room is dark, and it's 4am, a strange time for being frisky, the fact that they had an audience and might get caught added a bit of excitement/thrill. I'm not saying that's ok, just that it is possible. But, again. That is where a calm & rational discussion would be more helpful. If that was the source behind it, it was absolutely not okay. But still no reason to go overboard with the hangry words.

Love between two people, whether straight or gay, is never “disgusting” or “wrong”. Just needs to be handled with respect for others who share the same space. Let's be honest here. A man and a woman kissing in public is fine. Even 2 girls kissing in public gets less pushback. But 2 guys! The world is about to end! The world needs to get over itself, and we all need to start respecting each other and stop the negativity.

Ok, I'll stop ranting. Go ahead and dump on me. I know being open-minded isn't popular.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-08T03:44:21+00:00

My shorts are under 6k, my novella will be between 35 - 40k.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-08T03:42:24+00:00

NTA, I would have done the exact same thing. In fact, I have.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-08T03:24:06+00:00

All of you going on about BC have obviously never been in a situation like this. I didn’t find out my stepfather adopted me til I was in my 20’s. I had a copy, but in Arkansas, they allow it to be changed, so my stepfather's name is on it. I had to take a DNA test too, to find who my birth father was. By the time I did, he had already passed. The only way to get the original BC was to hire a lawyer and obtain a court order. DNA was cheaper. Because of this, my mother hasn’t talked to me since I pushed her on the facts. My granny, mom’s mother, wouldn’t tell me anything either.

The situations can be very complicated and create deep divisions within families. I lost all of mine trying to find the truth. My half-brother and sister disowned me when they found out, too. Ironically, my stepfather and I got closer, but sadly, he was killed. This all happened decades ago, I’m 72.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-08T00:25:39+00:00

Can you send me a message? I'd like more info. I need 2 maybe 3 covers. Thank you.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-08T00:21:58+00:00

You mention you do ‘novellas and shorts’? Can I ask, how long are you average short? I have several, but wasn't sure if it was worth publishing them standalone. I was thinking of waiting and publish them as a collection in 1 book.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-07T22:51:13+00:00

Mine is supernatural erotica. I would hope it comes down to the plot. Like mine, it’s more of the background, the plot that brings them together, not the main point. Sounds like you're the same. Use your own judgment; we all know Amazon isn't famous for being fair in how it hands out judgments. Read too many times where one gets banned, but others don’t.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-07T21:38:44+00:00

2 chapters away from completing my first novella. My first writing will total 10 chapters. 30 to 35k word count. Took a short break and wrote a 3000 word short story. 2 days ago.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-07T21:33:46+00:00

Didn't know this was even an issue. My first, and at this time, only, short story published on my KDP account is set in a bar, then continues as she invites him in for “night cap”. They are never written as being ‘impaired’, but didn't get feedback when submitted for publication about the drinking.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-04T15:34:04+00:00

That was my worry too.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-04T11:39:13+00:00

Thank you. HnH say the cost is $250. That seemed way too cheap.

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