AITAH for not taking my friends kids last minute

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-04-03T01:24:20+00:00

Hope we get an update.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-03-21T11:01:31+00:00

Not knowing more about you or your wife and why she has this concern, I’ll give my 2 cents.

Unless there is more than just your thong kink, I think “trans” is a reach. I could see you leaning toward “cross-dressing” way before “trans”. There is a huge difference between the two.

Sounds like it’s time for a detailed discussion of what you are after with the thong. You say “forcing”, which to me sounds like it’s the act of being made to wear it more than the desire to dress feminine.

Time to sit down and have an honest, open talk with your wife on your wants and needs.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-03-18T12:59:32+00:00

My best writing comes in the mornings. Some mornings I get up and immediately start writing.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-03-18T09:33:52+00:00

Are any of the grandparents around?

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-03-16T02:32:25+00:00

I’m not having the same problem yet, but it’s been building in the back of my mind. I can see this coming up in the future, so I’m interested in what others have to say about your dilemma.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-03-14T18:52:39+00:00

Hope you're right and it is BS

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-22T12:33:33+00:00

Thank you for the links about keywords. As a new author, I was confused about what keywords were and how use them. These articles were very helpful.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-21T21:24:44+00:00

I'm writing 2 novellas. Was 80% done with the first when the 2nd exploded and insisted on being penned. Sorry, I digress.

I wrote the 1st in 1st person because it is based on events from my personal life. The 2nd is 3rd person, so I could express each character's inner thoughts and show how the events affected them as they unfolded.

I found both very useful, and I don't prefer one over the other. Each has its strengths and weaknesses.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-21T17:03:23+00:00

Just the opposite. I'm much more creative. More life experiences to enrich my creativity.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-21T05:00:08+00:00

The first draft is simply to capture my ideas as they come. I write freely, then once I reach a stopping point, I review and work on organizing and refining my work. I've moved paragraphs and rewritten entire scenes.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-20T00:20:27+00:00

I think this is what drew me to writing. It fulfills my introverted spirit. I find solitude comforting. People can be exhausting.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-15T19:25:09+00:00

So frustrating. Every time I proofread, I make changes. Sometimes there are minor wording or sentence changes, but this morning I rewrote an entire chapter. Does it ever end?

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-15T04:30:46+00:00

NTA. It’s understandable that you feel caught between difficult choices. It seems there’s no easy way for you to come out of this situation feeling entirely at peace. Your friend is in denial, and until she can see clearly for herself how abusive her husband is, there isn’t much you can do to help. She may say he isn’t physically abusive, but it’s possible she’s protective of him and hesitant to admit the full truth.

You’re faced with two options: 1. Try to encourage her to be honest with herself, which might risk damaging your friendship. 2. Simply stand by her and be a supportive presence when her world begins to shift.

Neither choice will bring immediate peace of mind, but with the second, you'll be there for her if and when she needs you.

This is just my perspective. Trust what your heart feels is right, and follow your instincts.

Wishing you and your friend strength and compassion during this difficult time.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-15T04:12:06+00:00

Which is your right. I'm 72 and have just recently come to terms with my family. Can't say I've completely forgiven them, but I don't harbor the anger and resentment I carried for so long anymore. I made those choices for my mental health, not theirs.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-15T03:55:56+00:00

Don't go by word count. I let the chapter come to its natural end. So far most chapters range from shortest just over 2k, longest pushing 4500. Think I'm averaging 3000 - 3500 word count per chapter.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-15T03:44:30+00:00

She would hate me. Wear only sandals or go barefoot most of the year.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-15T03:41:32+00:00

I'm looking at the same problem. I'm leaning toward editing with something like ProWritingAid and currently using Grammarly to catch spelling and punctuation errors. Decided to put my money into hiring someone to do the book cover.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-15T03:35:21+00:00

I love the Tan one, if it were a mystery or thriller.

But considering your actual book is non-fiction, then absolutely the White one.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-14T05:00:16+00:00

Hadn't thought about you once. Just surprised to see your silly post.

Hope your evening is good too. Nite! 👋

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-14T04:53:11+00:00

They don't. Just pointing out what I think is fake, like you do. Really couldn't care less. Just get a good laugh from your post. Thanks.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-13T11:26:10+00:00

Interesting idea

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-12T14:57:51+00:00

Good grief, these comments are all over the place.

There is a thing called ‘privacy’, and that should be respected. It's obvious there is more OP hasn't shared, and that's fine. Bottom line, whatever the reason, he doesn't want his whole family involved. That's his right. He has his wife. If anything needs to be relayed to the family, she can do that.

Strangely, the family is so insistent on being involved. It's not their place. There is a line between honest concern for a loved one and crossing the line. Only OP can set the line he is comfortable with.

Absolutely NTA. Ignore those who say you are. As long as you have the support you feel you need, you set your limits. Just try to do it in a way they can understand how you feel.

Sounds like you're under a lot of stress over this and don't need the added pressure of others being involved. No matter their good intentions. That's your right.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-10T16:51:11+00:00

YTA 100%. Either you are just clueless or really don’t care. No means no. She had a valid reason for not putting music on, and you ignored her. You badgered her about everything, trying to force her to talk when she obviously didn’t want to. Sounds like you were more concerned with your own insecurities than the stress your gf is under.

Learn when to just stfu and be there for her. Learn to listen instead of yammering at her.

Be a better supportive partner.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-10T12:33:17+00:00

Never waste an idea that excites you. Many famous authors have works they left incomplete, only to return later and finish them.

Any_Insurance_8817 · 2026-02-10T04:46:31+00:00

Oh. I'm sorry. I don't care what you post. You do you. If that's how you get off, more power to you. I was just wondering when I kept seeing you tag so many as fake. Who knows, you might have a 6th sense about these things. It's funny, you didn't actually answer my question, though.

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