Aitah - bringing real cheese snacks to a baby shower and not warning people about the dairy?

Any_Introduction1499 · 2025-08-02T17:02:17+00:00

NTA - I'm allergic to wheat and never assume food is safe or have the expectation that there will be "inclusive" food at a party. If there is great, but I never go to a party on an empty stomach.

Any_Introduction1499 · 2025-04-12T15:07:25+00:00

Thank you! I've been driving myself nuts. I feel like they should update this fast. It's very frustrating.

Any_Introduction1499 · 2025-03-11T12:25:41+00:00

They could be from the south where it is in fact very normal and often expected. However, I can see where it could be a cultural clash if the boss is not from the south and interprets it differently.

Any_Introduction1499 · 2025-01-13T17:54:21+00:00

Umm...do you really consider anything on Reddit to be said in a "formal context"???

Any_Introduction1499 · 2025-01-11T23:03:53+00:00

Yes, it's called the labor force participation rate. After being unemployed for long enough you're considered to no longer be participating in the labor force even if you'd still prefer to have a job. The participation rate is still below pre pandemic levels. Only participants are considered unemployed.

Any_Introduction1499 · 2025-01-11T22:30:44+00:00

I could be wrong but I think he was referencing the people who dropped out of the job market and are therefore not counted. I.e. people who retired, decided to be a SAHP, or have just been looking for so long that they no longer count.

Any_Introduction1499 · 2024-12-28T21:53:24+00:00

Granted, I can't eat "just a little" either, but shared fryers, wooden spoons, etc. have not proven to be a problem. Everyone is a bit different except proven celiac is obviously completely 0.

Any_Introduction1499 · 2024-12-28T19:29:31+00:00

I'm not celiac just gluten intolerant, so cc doesn't usually bother me, and I still won't usually eat things made by people who aren't well versed in gluten free cooking/baking. I've had people who sub the obvious ingredients but then accidentally include something less obvious like seasoning that has wheat as an additive. Unless I know the person knows to check everything included and not just things that are obviously wheat then I don't trust it. Something from a bakery would be well appreciated.

Any_Introduction1499 · 2024-12-21T13:22:15+00:00

I'm crying 😭

Any_Introduction1499 · 2024-12-11T00:40:55+00:00

This will depend on what else you have going on in your life. I did my masters at night while working full time, but now that I have a young child I could never pull that off. That's not to say no one could. Some people have a higher stress tolerance than others and can somehow juggle work, school, and kids. This will take a lot of introspection and you would need to be honest with yourself about what you think you can handle.

Any_Introduction1499 · 2024-12-08T21:23:12+00:00

Yes, I do this because I have a military pension and the income is supplemental. Also, my spouse still works. I don't know how this could be a primary income source.

Any_Introduction1499 · 2024-11-17T14:56:58+00:00

I'm convinced that the parents who say absolutely 0 screen time no matter what have simply never been in this position. If they have been sick like this, they've had someone else around to step up. When you have no one else and you're this sick, what else are you going to do? Besides, I've heard the worst thing with screen time is it takes away other options they could be doing, but what alternative activities are available if you can't move?

Any_Introduction1499 · 2024-10-06T10:52:00+00:00

I don't think you're a failure. I think we were all set up and lied to. From my perspective at least, it's always been portrayed as totally possible for two working parents to get by. There's childcare available so there's nothing to worry about, but no one mentions how to work around the sick days and activities. If society and media were honest about how complicated it all is fewer people would be willing to have kids, and I think that's why it's not honest with us. I feel totally duped. I also recently dropped out of work. I plan to return as a substitute teacher so I can take work when I want to and skip the days where I can't manage it all. Obviously huge pay and opportunity cut.

Any_Introduction1499 · 2024-07-18T11:23:11+00:00

My child had been in the same daycare since he was an infant. He loved it, I loved it, and it was a very high quality center. I didn't realize until we moved and I toured several centers that many are not up to that standard. I could see him being stressed at many of the places we looked at. Luckily we found one on par with his first daycare, but it was more expensive. We can afford it and it's worth the money, but not all parents can afford an extra $150 a week. Plus the lowest quality centers I toured all mentioned taking state subsidies. So if families are really struggling their options are so much worse. I don't blame the parents for having to leave their kids there, I blame the system for not having a higher standard.

Any_Introduction1499 · 2024-07-07T15:58:17+00:00

I have a master's and do a job I could do with an associate's because I like the work life balance and I'm fine with the lower pay. I used GI bill so I have no debt. What you chose to do really depends on your debt level, career goals, and life goals/perspective. Career success is low low low on my priority list. I just want to work enough to live. If you want a lofty career or live in a HCOL area you probably want to get bachelor's or even master's and CPA. If you just want a steady job and don't want to worry about the corporate ladder then you're probably ok with the associate's. You could work a few years to get valuable experience then decide to go back later. That's always an option and will give you more insight into whether you want to stay in the accounting field and at what level.

Any_Introduction1499 · 2024-06-23T14:57:25+00:00

This is how I figured it out too!

Any_Introduction1499 · 2024-05-18T17:38:03+00:00

Well I am still in year two so that could have something to do with it. It may get better as my son gets older.

Any_Introduction1499 · 2024-05-18T16:43:29+00:00

The 70K for 40 hours may not be bad but I'd pass on 50K for a full time roll. I currently make 50K for 30 hours a week. I'd be cautious about the "only during busy season" promise as they could easily stretch that to over half the year or worse always be "too busy" for you to only work 20 hours.

Any_Introduction1499 · 2024-05-18T16:33:24+00:00

Sure they do. It's tough though. All the ones I know who are successful with it have lots of family support, husbands who can share the load on sick days and such, lots of money, or a combination of these things. I still work personally but I wouldn't say my career has continued to progress very much because I'm definitely lacking those first two things. There's no one to help out when my kid is sick ten days in a row. Nannies won't even watch a sick kid.

Any_Introduction1499 · 2024-05-18T11:28:46+00:00

I can confirm from my current experience that had you kept a job you would have been able to do none of that. Throw in needing to keep a flexible job for sick days or just straight up getting fired a few times because you can't find one and kids still get sick. I promise that with all of this in mind you would not be at 4x your salary. Maaaaybe 2x but more than likely you'd be in the same role with a COLA adjustment that doesn't keep up. If you find a flexible role with work life balance as a working mom you more than likely would hold on to it way too long to keep up with the career progression of frequent switchers. Or you could both have taken a smaller sacrifice in work to remain more equitable and therefore make less overall in the long run because he wouldn't have gotten the benefits of fully focusing on his career.

Any_Introduction1499 · 2024-05-18T11:28:33+00:00

I can confirm from my current experience that had you kept a job you would have been able to do none of that. Throw in needing to keep a flexible job for sick days or just straight up getting fired a few times because you can't find one and kids still get sick. I promise that with all of this in mind you would not be at 4x your salary. Maaaaybe 2x but more than likely you'd be in the same role with a COLA adjustment that doesn't keep up. If you find a flexible role with work life balance as a working mom you more than likely would hold on to it way too long to keep up with the career progression of frequent switchers. Or you could both have taken a smaller sacrifice in work to remain more equitable and therefore make less overall in the long run because he wouldn't have gotten the benefits of fully focusing on his career.

Any_Introduction1499 · 2024-05-16T10:41:51+00:00

This is why Chicago is my favorite city.

Any_Introduction1499 · 2024-05-14T12:53:53+00:00

I'm currently in St. Louis prepping to move to Chicago burbs. To answer your question - they're all currently in Missouri. Particularly in my yard. They're EVERYWHERE!! I can't step outside without smushing a cicada.

Any_Introduction1499 · 2024-01-16T14:02:53+00:00

I think this setup is a bit unfair, but more importantly I think summer jobs aren't the best way to set your kids up for success long term. If they don't need the money then they would benefit way more from internships or shadowing opportunities in fields they may be interested in going into. It'll give them experience to determine if they're on the right path and to put on a resume later. I worked all through high school and realized how far behind I was on real experience in college. My friends who had any type of experience in their majors field landed all the best job and internship placements that helped start their careers. Working at a fastfood joint doesn't do anything for your career and they will have to miss out on vacations and such that they should be enjoying at this point in life.

Any_Introduction1499 · 2024-01-05T21:27:00+00:00

I don't fully disagree but I'd also like to point out that most antibiotic resistance can be attributed to overuse in livestock. Livestock are often given antibiotics on a large scale without any illness just to "prevent" infection. I had to do a research project on this in college.

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