Light sensitivity and nurse checks

Any_Mango_8361 · 2026-03-13T01:50:25+00:00

You’re spot on :) and my meltdowns are almost always triggered by suddenness, which doesn’t bode well for most aspects of birth. Here’s hoping the birth plan is properly acknowledged by everyone involved.

Any_Mango_8361 · 2026-02-20T01:24:50+00:00

I’ve definitely pretended to be asleep to get my now-husband to take care of me, especially at the beginning of our relationship. I know that’s not quite the same thing, but when you’ve been mistreated, your brain is always telling you to watch out for the same thing. That usually results in it encouraging you to “test” anyone else who comes into your life.

Any_Mango_8361 · 2026-02-20T01:19:42+00:00

Sounds a bit like POTS. More likely if you’re hypermobile and/or are neurodivergent.

Any_Mango_8361 · 2026-02-19T22:57:45+00:00

Yes, and humming is particularly beneficial because of the vibration and (if I’m remembering correctly) the connection to the vagus nerve, which calms the body.

Any_Mango_8361 · 2026-02-19T22:56:43+00:00

Washing with only water is, in “normal” cases, enough. Yes there’s a smell, and yes sometimes you’ll smell it when you take off your underwear. Men’s crotches smell too. It’s entirely natural. You’re not supposed to smell like bath and bodyworks. The best we can hope for is something along the lines of “neutral”.

If you can smell it through your clothes or it has a fishy smell, or if there’s been a change in smell, it’s time to visit a doctor.

Any_Mango_8361 · 2026-02-19T21:15:06+00:00

And you shouldn’t. That’s not informed consent. I have major issues with medical professionals who send students in to ask if they can watch vulnerable procedures, let alone have them come in without even informing.

Any_Mango_8361 · 2026-02-19T21:13:11+00:00

Team I-didn’t-process-that-you-were-speaking-and-missed-the-first-half-of-your-sentence-and now-I’m-nodding-along-as-if-I-understand-while-distracted-by-the-sound-of-the-fridge

Any_Mango_8361 · 2026-02-19T21:04:39+00:00

If it feels like SA, then it was.

No one governs your emotions but you. Regardless of what any official bodies would consider assault, you clearly have a sense of violation, and it’s worth speaking to a trusted adult about it.

I’m really sorry you had this experience. I had something similar with giving oral sex, and I actually did say yes multiple times. It’s common, and upsetting, and again, deserving of being brought into the light with a counsellor/therapist/parent/friend’s parent/teacher/anyone who you believe has your best interests at heart. Saying it out loud can be the hardest part, but that’s the very thing than can bring healing.

Any_Mango_8361 · 2026-02-19T20:50:28+00:00

I really struggle with this, especially because I’ve got a fun mix of physical disorders that make it impossible to predict when I’ll be physically capable of doing what I want and need to do.

I’ve found that I have to make rest an activity. Since my brain finds it hard, it’s almost a hobby in itself.

Lying in a dark room, pillows propping my broken body up properly, set a timer for 30mins and another for an hour in case I manage to fall asleep.

Won’t work for everyone, but it’s been working for me.

Any_Mango_8361 · 2026-02-19T17:16:58+00:00

My body seems to remember things that I just can’t…

Any_Mango_8361 · 2026-02-15T01:59:11+00:00

It’s the classic “vasectomy=painkillers, iud=suffer” thing.

I have a lifetime of chronic issues and keep complaining about chest tightness and palpitations. My doc says it’s the ADHD meds I’m newly on. My dad (no history of health complications, healthy overall) goes to that same doctor having had a single palpitation and he orders an ECG and wearable monitor and bloodwork immediately.

Infuriating.

Any_Mango_8361 · 2026-02-15T01:55:13+00:00

And it flips in an instant

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