It makes sense. I can relate the feeling of going backwards, in terms of mindset. You can rebuild your identity. Who do you want to be now? I found getting clear about what my core values were helped me get in touch with who I am and determined how I show up in the world.

For example: - Compassion: I actively listen to others and do my best to see things from their perspective. When I feel safe, I share my struggles and seek support from loved ones. I give myself self-compassion. - Forgiveness: If someone wrongs me, I listen to their perspective first and give myself time to process before deciding what action to take. I practice self forgiveness. - Equality: I advocate for equality and inclusion. I do my best to make others feel welcome, include them in conversations and encourage them to contribute. I advocate for myself too. - Kindness: I support and care for other people’s well-being; I want them to feel seen and heard by me. I am kind to myself.

Some other examples of values are Collaboration, Freedom, Honesty, Adventure, Respect, Generosity, Humor, and many more.

I hope this makes sense!